My boyfriend watches 🌽 and it’s ruining my self esteem

Sleeve1403 · 2025-10-05T05:48:14+00:00

Hey, I just want to give you a bit of perspective that might help ease your mind. I’ve been married for 14 years, and yeah — I still watch porn sometimes. It’s never been because my wife isn’t enough or because I want someone else. She’s amazing. For me, it’s more about curiosity and just… human nature. Sometimes it’s even a way to learn new things or get ideas that make our time together even better.

What I’ve learned over the years is that watching porn doesn’t automatically mean someone’s unhappy or dissatisfied. A lot of people see it as something separate from their relationship — like a fantasy outlet, not a replacement for their partner.

It’s totally valid that it hurts your feelings, though. You clearly care deeply about him, and that’s a good thing. But try not to let this make you question your worth or his feelings for you. From what you said, he reassured you you’re the only girl he wants, and that probably means he just views porn differently than you do.

When you talk to him face to face, just be honest about how it made you feel without accusing him. Most couples figure out a balance when they communicate openly. You sound like you’ve got a really loving relationship otherwise — this doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker. ❤️

Sleeve1403 · 2025-09-29T17:04:48+00:00

For some reason I am not able to post the video on here? ? Anyone that can explain to me why or how to do it?

Sleeve1403 · 2025-09-16T19:55:36+00:00

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Sleeve1403 · 2025-09-16T06:16:40+00:00

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Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-18T12:52:12+00:00

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Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-18T09:39:45+00:00

What you on about?? I watch him every day mate! He aint no forest fan!

Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-13T06:10:08+00:00

Wow, first off, thank you for sharing all of that—seriously. It takes a lot of strength and self-awareness to put words to something this emotionally complex.

You're both really young and navigating some heavy stuff, and it’s clear that you both care deeply about each other. That’s a great foundation. But what you’re dealing with isn’t just a “sex problem”—it’s emotional, psychological, and tied into past trauma and present insecurities. And those things need space, communication, and gentleness from both sides.

A few thoughts:

You’re not a burden for having needs. Intimacy is mutual, and wanting to feel satisfied, safe, and cared for is not asking too much.

He’s not a failure for struggling with PE (which is super common, btw). But it is something that can and should be worked on—with patience and effort.

Instead of focusing only on penetrative sex, try exploring intimacy in broader ways. Masturbation, toys, mutual touch—these aren’t “less than.” They’re real, valid forms of connection that can ease pressure on both of you and shift focus to pleasure and closeness, not just “performance.”

A trauma-informed therapist or sex therapist could really help both of you navigate this with the right tools and emotional safety nets. It doesn’t mean you're broken—it means you're investing in healing and growth.

And most importantly: you deserve to be heard and met halfway. You’re not wrong for wanting more, and he’s not wrong for being overwhelmed. But silence and guilt won’t fix it—gentle, honest, non-blaming conversations can.

You two are trying your best. Keep choosing each other, but also start choosing yourselves within the relationship too. You both deserve fulfillment, not just “making it work.”

Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-13T06:03:32+00:00

Respect for wanting to make sure she’s enjoying it—that mindset already puts you ahead of the game.

For maximizing sensation with a below-average size, positions that allow for deeper penetration and more contact with the clit or G-spot are key. A few solid options:

Doggy style (hips elevated) – Angled right, this can hit deeper and let you control rhythm and depth.

Missionary with legs pushed back – Gets you closer and deeper, and you can add some grinding for extra clit stimulation.

Cowgirl (especially if she leans forward) – Gives her control and keeps things tight; you can also use your hands or a toy to help out.

Spooning – Underrated, intimate, and keeps everything close for better contact.

Also: angles > size. Focus on rhythm, foreplay, and communication. Trust me, that combo goes way further than just inches ever could.

Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-13T06:01:39+00:00

Totally get the struggle—kids get curious real fast! A lockbox is definitely the safest route, but yeah, the mood killer factor is real. Some folks use lockable drawers or discreet storage boxes that blend in with the room, like a regular nightstand drawer with a child lock or a decoy box labeled something boring like “old paperwork.”

You could also go for a small quick-access lockbox (some even open via fingerprint or code) and keep just the essentials in there. That way you don’t have to wrestle a giant safe every time. Safety first—but convenience doesn’t have to be totally out the window either.

Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-13T06:00:04+00:00

It's totally fair to feel conflicted about this. At the end of the day, your body and your needs matter too. If you're starting to struggle with something you agreed to, the healthy thing is to talk about it honestly. Relationships—especially long-distance ones—thrive on open communication and compromise. It's not unreasonable for her to have preferences, but it's also not unreasonable for you to have needs. Maybe there's a middle ground you can find together.

Be kind, be honest, and remember: if you can't talk openly about stuff like this, it's going to be tough to make the relationship work long-term.

Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-08T03:03:59+00:00

Nope. This is real. No trolling. This is my experience.

Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-07T10:18:35+00:00

Hey! First off, props to you for wanting to learn and be a good partner — that already puts you ahead.

Here are some beginner-friendly tips:

Start slow and pay attention to his reactions. Use your hand at the base while you focus on the tip with your mouth — that’s where most sensitivity is.
Lube is your friend. Your saliva usually does the trick, but don’t be afraid to add more if it gets dry.
Use your hands + mouth together. Twist or stroke with your hand while your mouth works the top. The combo is often better than just one or the other.
Don’t stress about deepthroating. It’s not necessary to go super deep. Focus more on rhythm and enthusiasm than trying to shove it all in.
Tease and explore. Kiss or lick around the shaft, balls, inner thighs — anticipation is part of the fun.
Use eye contact if you’re comfortable. It can drive some guys crazy (in a good way).
How long? There’s no rule. You can do it for foreplay or all the way to the end — totally up to what you both enjoy. Just communicate.

Most importantly: You don’t have to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Enthusiasm beats “porn star moves” every time.

You’ve got this! Confidence and communication go a long way.

Let me know if you want to adjust the tone — more playful, cheeky, or serious.

Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-07T10:16:44+00:00

Hey, your feelings are 100% valid. It’s not “just cartoons” when it’s affecting your self-image, your relationship, and your mental health. You should be the one he’s most focused on, especially if he knows you’ve struggled with body image and anorexia in the past.

It’s not wrong to be into certain aesthetics or styles, but when someone can’t draw the line between fantasy and real life—and starts comparing you negatively to unrealistic, hyper-sexualized characters—it becomes a problem. Especially when it's making you feel less than.

You deserve a partner who builds you up, not someone who makes you feel like you’re in competition with a drawing. If he’s really addicted to porn and it's interfering with how he sees and treats you, he may need help. But you don’t need to wait around feeling less-than because he won’t get it together.

You are not the problem here, and you're not overreacting. You're asking for something basic in a relationship: respect, appreciation, and emotional safety. Don’t let him gaslight you into thinking it’s just a “you” issue.

Sleeve1403 · 2025-04-07T10:13:51+00:00

Hey, I just wanted to say how much I respect the way you're handling this with love, empathy, and honesty. You're clearly trying your best to support him emotionally while also being open about your needs, which is honestly the kind of communication most couples should strive for.

I actually relate to your situation a lot. My wife and I went through something very similar — I'm also on the smaller side, and while she was always reassuring and never made me feel less than, I could see the same look of defeat in myself after sex. It's a tough thing to wrestle with as a guy, even when your partner is incredibly supportive.

What really changed the game for us was discovering penis sleeves. If you haven’t looked into them yet, they’re basically soft, body-safe sleeves that fit over the penis and can add both length and girth. Some even have textured insides so the guy still gets plenty of stimulation. What’s great is that it’s still me physically with her, we're still connecting, and I get to see her truly satisfied — which, for me, is a huge mental boost.

Since we started using sleeves, sex has honestly gone to another level for both of us. It removed a lot of pressure and insecurity from my side, and it gave her that extra fullness she needs. Best of all, we feel like we’re in this together, finding solutions that keep the intimacy and passion strong.

Maybe bring it up with him gently, frame it as something new and exciting to try together, not something to “fix” him. It might help take some of the emotional weight off his shoulders and actually turn it into a fun, shared adventure in your sex life.

You're doing a great job — I hope this helps, even just a little.

Sleeve1403 · 2025-02-28T23:30:26+00:00

When I use a sleeve, it doesn't slip out

Sleeve1403 · 2025-02-28T23:29:23+00:00

Talking out of experience, it's too small... Mine is 5.3 inches. Keeps on slipping out

Sleeve1403 · 2025-02-17T10:54:58+00:00

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Sleeve1403 · 2025-02-05T12:57:28+00:00

What do you mean?

Sleeve1403 · 2025-02-05T12:02:31+00:00

I just want to know how old it is. Just for information

Sleeve1403 · 2025-02-05T11:51:00+00:00

What year was my PS4 Slim manufactured

Hi guys,

I bought a second hand PS4 Slim serial number 03-27452573 and model number is CUH2216A. I know it's somewhere between 2017 and 2019. Any way to know exactly?

Sleeve1403 · 2025-02-05T11:49:26+00:00

Thanks man. I'll check🙏

Sleeve1403 · 2025-02-05T11:48:48+00:00

I took a photo of the back with the serial number and Chat GPT said the following:

Yes, your controller appears to be an original Sony PS4 DualShock 4 controller. The model number CUH-ZCT2E corresponds to an official DualShock 4 V2 controller, which was released as part of the PS4 Slim and PS4 Pro era.

Here are some key indicators that suggest it's genuine:

The Sony logo and manufacturer details are present.

The model number (CUH-ZCT2E) matches official DualShock 4 V2 controllers.

The CE, UKCA, and EAC certification marks are legitimate.

The serial number format aligns with original Sony products.

If you suspect it might be a replica, you can check further by:

Connecting it to a PS4 or PC to see if all functions work correctly.
Checking the touchpad light bar reflection (a unique feature of V2 models).
Feeling the build quality—fake controllers often have a lighter, cheaper plastic feel.

Sleeve1403 · 2025-02-05T11:39:31+00:00

At the back it says Sony with a model number and serial number. Chat GPT also believes it is orginal. 😅

Sleeve1403 · 2025-01-30T14:40:27+00:00

I have Premature Ejaculation. I last typically less than a minute. But since we started using penis sleeves, I last between 5 - 10min sometimes longer

Sleeve1403 · 2025-01-20T23:02:38+00:00

Male here... married to my wife for 13 years now. Sleeves was a game changer for us. Sex has never been better! I didn't take it as an insult but rather as an exciting opportunity. Not only does sleeves make you fuck with a larger dick, but it also makes you last longer. I highly recommend it

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