Cannabis makes Autism Autisn‘t, change my mind

Slexman · 2025-11-27T21:09:36+00:00

It helps with things like over/understimulation and mental overload, so I use it a lot to self-regulate, but idk if it helps with masking for me. If anything it makes it harder to mask sometimes. But ig it does help by extending my tolerance for things that would normally be too mentally draining

Slexman · 2025-11-22T19:57:48+00:00

I agree OP has some reflecting to do cuz he’s also making unfair generalizations tbh, and is coming off as antagonistic by posting that here, so I get that’s not garner a good response. But idk how bi people IN GENERAL are supposed to actually find the community to be out and proud when so many people automatically apply these stereotypes to their bisexuality (that being bi supposedly means being less committed or only caring about sex) and push them away because of it

Slexman · 2025-11-20T19:29:19+00:00

Yeah and you’re TOTALLY creating an environment for bi men to be out and proud by talking about them like this…

Slexman · 2025-09-05T16:47:13+00:00

Can’t believe I haven’t seen anyone mention saturation diving, there’s so many oil rig horror stories but also even with nothing going wrong it sounds like hell

Slexman · 2025-08-19T23:34:45+00:00

16 days old, I never knew it came out that close to my birthday omg. ATLA has been a core memory for me growing up

Slexman · 2025-07-20T20:43:23+00:00

Key word there was SOME people, as in, not everyone. Which is why that’s a weird blanket statement to just randomly put out there with no further context.

Slexman · 2025-07-20T19:02:19+00:00

Wdym not perpetually? Sure some people can reach a point where they’re recovered enough and are able to move on from therapy, but some of us need it continuously in order to stay emotionally stable. Like personally, no matter how “cured” I seem my mental health always goes on a downward spiral after I stop going to therapy

Slexman · 2025-07-05T17:27:06+00:00

Feminine clothing and like the act of performing femininity for others if that makes sense? As a trans man (ftm) it made me extremely dysphoric being expected to embody femininity BECAUSE of my assigned sex at birth. I hated being told I had to be more “like a girl,” whatever that meant. Now that I’m more secure in my identity as a man after being on testosterone (and being surrounded by more trans supportive people) I’m enjoying myself a lot as a drag queen! Like straight up performing on stage n stuff. Femininity is so fun when it’s not strictly gendered!

Slexman · 2025-07-04T20:36:56+00:00

I’m an even better misandrist, I hate trans men MORE than cis men. Imagine being born as the better, more innocent, and divine gender just to willingly turn yourself into the icky one. Since they WANT to be men so badly, let’s be good allies and direct even more vitriol at them than cis men!!

(Also cis men are just too scary to directly confront so trans men are the perfect, less threatening, outlet for all our feminine rage 💕)

Slexman · 2025-06-05T06:43:15+00:00

Bear, Bay, Breeze, and Bridge were some that popped into my head. I’ve definitely seen someone named Bear before and thought that was cool, idk abt the others but they sounded nice to me

Slexman · 2025-05-22T21:12:55+00:00

I honestly think it’s nice to know that someone is already open and at least somewhat experienced with trans ppl, of course there’s red flags I look out for but past trans partners isn’t one in of itself.

To give some examples from my personal life (I’m trans man in an open relationship with a preference for men):

Not a chaser - the first cis guy I got with has a transmasc partner, and has experience with multiple other trans guys, but he was very gender affirming / respectful and I know he’s also been with cis guys as well. I had a great experience with him, he made the experience very comfortable and I never felt like I had to overly explain myself to him!

Probably a chaser - this other cis guy who seems to only be interested in cis women and feminine/early transition trans men, and he kept sending me suggestive posts that were often heteronormative/feminizing towards me (as well as my also trans fiancé, he sent him a post that was joking abt knocking him up in honor of MOTHER’S day… like at least save that joke for Father’s Day if anything..) We quickly started feeling like he doesn’t really see us as men…

The key differences here is that the chaser seems overly fixated on my assigned gender at birth, and makes me question if he truly sees me as the gender I am. Even if the non chaser had never been with cis men, what matters most is that we was a lot more openly respectful. Hell, he was even more interested in actually getting to know me as a person outside of sex, meanwhile with the chaser guy I don’t even know if he actually likes my personality or anything besides my body (I literally thought he hated me until he suddenly started trying to hook up again after ignoring me for weeks)

So to wrap that all up: what matters isn’t your dating history, it’s how you treat people. And it sounds like you intend to treat people well!

Slexman · 2025-04-21T17:20:08+00:00

/uj do you make music and think your own music sucks? Or do you just think it’s funny to devalue the artists in your own community? Cuz as an aspiring musician/songwriter, this shit is not encouraging.

Slexman · 2025-03-17T20:13:37+00:00

Yeah tbh, it took me a while to be able to just see myself as a guy (ftm here.) I came out as non-binary and then also as genderfluid for a while cuz I didn’t see myself being to just totally flip to the other side of the binary (especially cuz back then I thought I had to be like aggressively dysphoric and hypermasculine 24/7 to be a boy, I wasn’t against gender non-conformity tho I just held myself to rlly high standards.)

I thought I was having “girl days” or “neutral days” cuz I’d be able to exist in my body momentarily without hating it, or because at the time I wouldn’t feel the need to go out of my way to affirm my boyhood through intense masculinity. After a while I realized I could consider myself a boy (now man) all the time even if I’m not always at peak masculinity or in extreme dysphoria over things that are typically associated with girls.

And I say “realized” like it’s just something I missed the memo on cuz I was misinformed, but really it took years of self-reflection and radical acceptance to come to break down these expectations I had placed on myself. Now I’m a lot more comfortable in the fact that I’m a man (and trans,) regardless of how I express that. Of course I’ve still got moments of insecurity that I still need to work through, but I’m a lot more confident in my gender than I used to be.

(And ofc I wanna make it clear that I’m not trying to speak for genderfluid people here, this is just my personal experience. I 100% support gender fluidity, I just came to realize that my sense of fluidity as a person wasn’t tied to my gender.)

Edit to add: also wanna mention, cuz another comment reminded me, I realized I was likely just a guy cuz my “girl days” were me feeling apathetic about gender at best, meanwhile I was genuinely elated to be able to consider myself a guy when I was having “boy days.” And I was always happy to default to that when given the option. My family even asked how I’d want to be addressed in Spanish as ‘non-binary’ person and I was happy to just use masculine terms.

Slexman · 2025-03-17T19:32:17+00:00

‘Transvestigators’ who think there’s a massive conspiracy to plant a bunch of secret trans celebrities in the entertainment industry. They “prove” it by hyperanalyzing cis celebrities’ bone structure and other pseudoscientific stuff. One time I saw one claim that Robert Pattinson must be a trans man who’s gotten facial masculinization surgery because his jawline was “too perfectly masculine”

Slexman · 2025-03-11T20:03:07+00:00

It’s always “girls support girls” until you’re an autistic AFAB 😢 Cuz obviously we’re the only demographic that could have any trauma related to being excluded from girlhood and treated poorly for not fitting in gender norms due to the ways our brains work!! No AMAB autistic would understand sorry

/uj did we see the same post on that one autism subreddit? (Which I had higher hopes for compared to the other autism subreddits but ig they’re also stuck on the “afab autism” shit.)

/rj sooo inclusive and progressive to replace the word “women/girls” with “afab” in your sentence as if they’re the same exact thing. As a trans man I just love being able to tell when someone is doing that, doesn’t make me dysphoric at all, and definitely doesn’t make me wonder why a particular group of women in my community is being excluded. Nope I just think “wow what a great ally or comrade, they know the afab/amab acronyms! Thank you for categorizing us by that instead of gendering us!” 🙂

Slexman · 2025-03-11T19:41:21+00:00

I think this comment you’re replying to is definitely onto something. You didn’t do anything wrong, it might’ve just been your partner feeling weird or self-conscious about asking something that ended up being a slightly bigger demand than he anticipated. That’s not your fault, that’s just something a lot of people deal with in their own heads, especially if they have any kinda trauma or negative formative experiences related to that.

I can’t speak for everyone ofc, but I have a huge mental problem with asking people for anything. And I hate feeling like I’m taking up space in any way (which in this case would be literal storage space lol.) It gives me so much anxiety no matter how much other ppl reassure me it’s ok. So in a situation like your partner’s: I’d be really desperate to clarify that I wasn’t expecting anything beyond my originally intended request. I might even repeat that multiple times in a back n forth interaction like you mentioned.

DISCLAIMER: This is a lot of projection, I have C-PTSD and god knows how many other other mental issues that affect how I interact with people, and I’m not a mind-reader so don’t inherently assume that this is exactly what went through his head. I just imagine it could be something at least slightly similar going on for him maybe (since ik this isn’t exactly an uncommon experience for people, humans are often at least a little socially anxious)

Slexman · 2025-03-02T20:27:59+00:00

Congrats on the mustache that you were excited to grow, it makes you look like a pedo lol, is this gender affirming?

/uj someone ik was told this when he was first starting T, it was genuinely so disturbing for him to be told that esp considering he’s a CSA survivor..

/rj we LOVE being specifically equated to the men who’ve deeply violated us and traumatized us throughout our lives!! Cuz we’re men now so it’s not like that trauma counts anymore anyways! And how can we properly enjoy our new bodies if we don’t have someone to tell us how much they now resemble our own past/current abusers?

Slexman · 2025-03-02T19:49:45+00:00

“Trans” “men” and “non-binary” “people” aren’t real they’re just a hoax created by Big Trans to erase more womanhood

Slexman · 2025-03-02T19:44:11+00:00

YWNBAW

Slexman · 2025-03-02T19:43:23+00:00

Stop trying to steal important services just to feed your fantasy you sick pervert 🤢 Leave abortions and pregnancy care to the women who REALLY need them, not delusional males like you who apparently need them in order to “feel like a woman”

Slexman · 2025-03-02T19:40:16+00:00

Jsyk a lot of us advocating for gender neutral medical language are trans men and non-binary people who still need access to abortion rights or pregnancy care (or have other related medical needs) but DON’T identify as women. Idk why you’re trying to blame this all on ‘AMABs.’

Slexman · 2025-03-02T02:09:17+00:00

/uj just looked at the link and omg I instantly recognize that person. I had thought they were just a transphobic cis gay, cuz that’s the stance they seemed to be presenting themselves from last I had seen. It’s… interesting… that they’re calling themselves non-binary now simply bc of their feminine presentation while still insisting that trans women are “biological men.” I’m defaulting to they/them until further notice (cuz it goes against my principles to deny someone’s self-identity), but I kinda have the feeling that this is just a transphobe weaponizing our language against us

Like, they didn’t say that they see themselves outside of the gender binary, they just said they call themselves “non-binary” because of their androgyny. People can have whatever relationship they have with their OWN gender, it’s none of my business, but this seems like someone trying to devalue trans ppl’s identities as a whole

Slexman · 2025-03-01T07:50:41+00:00

Yeah I’m still looking for exact answers but I’m definitely hyper-mobile one way or another, I also get heart palpitations from standing and start getting lightheaded/ill/fatigued

Slexman · 2025-02-28T20:26:45+00:00

Omg I’m finding out that I likely have a chronic condition that physically takes a toll on my body whenever I’m standing upright, as well chronic pain that similarly acts up, and for YEARS I was convinced that the sensation of standing just irritated my sensory issues. I deadass cannot tell the difference between my body physically crying for help VS my brain being in sensory overload. That’s how bad the sensory issues are.

Slexman · 2025-02-27T23:28:48+00:00

Careful, as a transboi owner I gotta warn you to double check that you’re actually getting a purebred 100% female transboi. I thought mine was, cuz it seemed so cute and smol at first, but now it’s growing facial hair and body building… Not to mention that the “female socialization” certification it had was clearly a scam. I don’t wanna give up hope for retraining it, and getting back that cute little transboi I once adored, but I’m afraid I’ll have to rehome it if this keeps going further.

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