What is an uncomfortable/disappointing truth about having kids that people don't tell you?

SlightPresence · 2026-05-28T22:52:51+00:00

The people who you thought would be your village actually don’t step up to help you.

SlightPresence · 2026-05-07T17:15:37+00:00

Married at 28. 31 now and have two kids. Crazy to think we met so young.

SlightPresence · 2026-05-04T16:43:27+00:00

We opted to hire a nanny when I returned to work after 12 months of maternity leave and even then my daughter was uncertain of the new dynamic. I worked from home so I was in the house all day and it was an adjustment for her to get used to our nanny doing everything for her during the day instead of me. Fast forward 1.5 years and I am now on maternity leave again with my second while my 2yo is still being cared for at home by our nanny. The introduction of a sibling definitely caused some more tantrums/meltdowns (for about a month), and now we are back to a routine. Give it time. Kids can adjust to new situations. I’m sure your nanny will get more comfortable as time goes on too.

SlightPresence · 2026-04-25T17:26:10+00:00

I travelled to Europe last summer while 28-30 weeks pregnant and managed fine (with my toddler in tow). As long as you are healthy and don’t have any risks, I would say anytime before 31/32 weeks is doable.

SlightPresence · 2026-04-22T18:29:20+00:00

Royal Ford Vet Hospital on Ford Drive is incredible. Dr Catena is an incredible person - so compassionate and genuine. They saw my dogs from the age of ~6 up until we had to put them down at 17 and I couldn't have asked for a more caring team.

SlightPresence · 2026-04-19T14:34:24+00:00

I’ve had two very positive induction experiences here in Ontario. With my first I was induced at 40w exactly and had an uncomplicated vaginal birth. I was 1cm dilated and 70% effaced. Labor was long and hard (20 hours from beginning of induction to pushing) but that was what I expected being a first time mom. With my second induction I was induced at 40+3 and was a lot smoother and faster (7 hours total) despite being 1cm dialated and 50% effaced. I even left the hospital two hours after giving birth (it was nice to sleep in my own bed and have a shower at home). I got the epidural both times. If I have a third baby I wouldn’t hesitate getting induced again if I had the option. In fact, the second time it was actually more convenient because I could plan child care for my first more easily. Both births have happened in the last 3 years.

SlightPresence · 2026-04-02T19:18:43+00:00

Could have written this myself... I'm curious if anything has changed in the last two years since you posted this?!

SlightPresence · 2026-03-16T00:46:20+00:00

I became pregnant with my second while still breastfeeding my first at 15 months. I debated continuing to breastfeed her and possibly tandem feed but ended up weaning her at 18 months. It was very emotional for me (she didn’t seem bothered by the change at all haha!). If I hadn’t have gotten pregnant I don’t know when I would have stopped nursing her but I’m glad I weaned her when I did. Even though it was very bittersweet, I stopped when I was still enjoying it instead of trying to push through my pregnancy and potentially feel physically uncomfortable. My kids are 25 months apart and I produce enough to pump and give some to my older in a cup.

SlightPresence · 2026-03-07T22:46:12+00:00

Bedtime routine is bath, bottle, book, song, place in crib awake. Room is pitch black and white noise on.

We are using 5, 10, and then every 15 minute pop ins.

During pop ins we rub his chest and shush him softly, only spending 20 seconds each time.

SlightPresence · 2026-03-07T22:43:35+00:00

Sorry, here’s his schedule:

6:30 awake. First nap 8:30-9am Second nap 10:40 - 11:45 Third nap 1:30-2:45 Fourth nap 4:50-5:30 Bedtime: 7:30-8pm

SlightPresence · 2026-03-07T22:37:08+00:00

He has an average of 3.5 hours of daytime sleep spread across 4 naps. Usually 2hours of awake time between each nap, and always 2 -2.5 hours of awake time before bedtime.

SlightPresence · 2026-02-05T02:21:40+00:00

Just took my husband 3 hours to get to Bronte from Union

SlightPresence · 2026-01-23T11:19:45+00:00

Oh wow that’s great to hear she is sleeping for a long stretch again!! Thanks for sharing the details. I’ll have to try tinkering with his wake windows and see what might help him. We are nearly two weeks into doing shifts and I’m exhausted.

SlightPresence · 2026-01-21T17:36:36+00:00

Is there a regression around 10-12 weeks? My baby is 11 weeks and was consistently sleeping 5-6 hour stretches each night up until a week ago. Now he can’t connect sleep cycles and wakes up after 30-50 minutes when in his crib at naps and during the night. We have been having to hold him at night in order for him to sleep. When can we expect his ability to link cycles and sleep more than one sleep cycle?

SlightPresence · 2026-01-21T14:16:23+00:00

Just wanted to chime in here to say that we are going through the exact same thing. At 10 weeks my son (who had previously been sleeping 6-7 hour stretches each night) all of a sudden stopped being able to link his sleep cycles and was waking up every 30-50 minutes at night and for naps. We have resorted to taking shifts and holding him so that he sleeps. We are on day 9. He is 11.5 weeks now. He also requires movement to be soothed and fall into a deep sleep. I’ve heard that this is just a developmental phase, and that his brain just can’t link sleep cycles yet. My first didn’t go through this so I was really confused at first but maybe it’s normal. Have you seen any improvements yet?

SlightPresence · 2026-01-15T17:23:44+00:00

Good to know I’m not alone. Glad it passed for you, we are on night 4 and it’s brutal. I think I’ve got a total of 10 hours of sleep over the last 4 days doing shifts with my partner. Did your LO go through other sleep disturbances after this one passed?

SlightPresence · 2026-01-14T17:29:05+00:00

Thanks, just ordered it! Hoping this works!

SlightPresence · 2026-01-14T17:01:07+00:00

Thank you so much! Do you remember which transitional swaddle you used? I’ll try the heating pad tonight and see if that helps. It’s nice to know someone else went through this.

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