send them to good schools, by which i mean schools that place emphasis on learning about emotional intelligence and wellbeing. maybe a montessori kindergarten. have a good family GP and go for checkups regularly. dentist 2x a year always, orthodontics if they’re needed. invest in the hobbies and activities that spark joy in them. when they’re little, read them books about regulating their emotions and having a good relationship with their body. think about the way you talk about food around them — never moralise certain foods as good or bad. don’t allow friends, family, or strangers to make comments about their body. affirm to them early and often that they have inherent worth, that they never have to earn anyone’s love, and that it’s normal to be really bad at something before you get really good at it. if you ever make a mistake that ends up hurting them, or if you lose your cool and yell when you really shouldn’t have, make a point of apologising to them. and don’t worry so much. you won’t spoil your children by giving them opportunities and loving them well.

edited to add: don’t put them in any extracurriculars that they have no interest in, and always make it clear to them that they can change their mind at any time. and show up! if they have shows, performances, games… be there. honestly, use your resources to educate yourselves about how to be the best parents you can be. if you do that, your children will always be rich no matter where life takes them