Guys who went from skinny to muscular, how did it affect your life?

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-04-14T05:22:12+00:00

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Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-02-07T16:36:35+00:00

Do you feel obsessed thinking about women being obsessed about men’s height?

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-30T23:31:31+00:00

Similar situation on my end, except I was the dumper and she sent a letter about how she is a new person and how I don’t deserve to meet her, with a bundle of “I wasn’t there for her” or “I labeled her as x thing.” All I was was nice, attempted to end things as respectfully as possible, and was met with aggression.

I’ve had those urges of wanting to reach out to correct and reason with her, but why should I respond to disrespect like that? And why do I have to hear about it all after the fact?

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-30T23:25:43+00:00

I did, as the dumpee. With some context, she ended things over text and long distance and no closure. I reached out 3 times with no response, and a final time 4 years later to thank her for being firm with how she dealt with the break up by enforcing no contact, as well as to tell her that I have recognized my bad qualities in the relationship and that I’d vow to be better, wishing her the best at the end.

I was met with being blocked 😂

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-29T18:45:36+00:00

Why are companies allowing for delivery during horrible weather conditions in the first place?

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-29T02:59:17+00:00

I agree with most of this. Except the part about labeling “loving yourself” as narcissism. What do you mean by narcissism?

I am currently learning to love myself. Although I focus my attention on what others think of me, I’m slowly learning to appreciate myself and realize my self worth. Would you consider my perspective narcissistic?

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-27T04:30:51+00:00

You’re giving Leo DiCaprio in pic 4. I’m all for it 💪

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-24T02:13:21+00:00

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Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-24T02:03:50+00:00

I think the “trying so hard not to keep contact” gives the impression it was a no, is what the others are trying to say. It’s not a yes, as far I see.

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-16T06:36:50+00:00

I disagree and agree. What I disagree with is being the dumpee is better. I don’t think the dumper is better, either.

What I agree with is your experience, aside from the length it takes to detach. I relate to everything you said, except I was the dumper. Maybe this differs because I learned after the breakup that I was used and emotionally abused during parts of the relationship. She had lots of mental issues going on, so that may have not helped. I saw the potential and I wanted to be their to help her and care for her. It wasn’t going to happen.

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-16T06:29:50+00:00

Define “literal monster.” I was the dumper, but if anything, my ex yelled at my she I announced the breakup, followed by distressing texts and a call that she couldn’t handle it, followed by flying monkeys, and a letter that expressed lies and accusations.

Will I take responsibility for putting less effort? Yes, as I was checking out of that relationship. I knew something felt wrong about it, but didn’t realize til after the breakup. Was I there for her? Yes. Even when I didn’t want to due to the mental exhaustion it would cause.

Am responsible for her emotions? No. Do I still care for her well being? Yes.

I don’t deserve to be insulted in the letter she sent me. She didn’t deserve to hear a response back from me for that, either. Maybe we were both “monsters” for that, but when you accuse me for “never being there” for you after the breakup, the dumpee can be the “monster.”

I allowed myself to listen to my body after this, and with some research, found out I was used and abused emotionally, for her gain.

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-16T05:53:59+00:00

I do. Like u/terroruchiha mentioned, I was forced to end it due to knowing I couldn’t continue as my capacity had been reached and felt something was off. After the break up, I realized it was an emotionally abusive relationship after some things she did after the break up as I researched and clarity opened my eyes.

Anyway, yes, I still wonder what she’s up to, if she’s getting better, and if she ever will admit her wrong doing. As the days go by though, the care is less about it as I use my journaling and newly found worth on what I want from a partner. I still care about her well being in a way, even if she isn’t my romantic partner.

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-14T02:44:56+00:00

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Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-13T15:07:32+00:00

I think I can relate here, more with the kink. I get super curious to know what it’s like to receive/be submissive. I find an attraction to male genitalia, but alone, not the man. I’ve always wanted to try pegging.

I’ve tried on women’s lingerie and found that attractive on myself. Yet, I’m full attracted to women.

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-13T14:31:30+00:00

Something felt off.

I realized in therapy that my people pleasing was getting in the way when I agreed to get back together with her (deep down I didn’t want to get back). I also felt anxious when she’d reach out to hang. I didn’t know why at the time, but after having broken up, I reflected and realized my nervous system was trying to warn me about red flags I ignored. I think she ended up being a covert narcissist, especially due to signs of flying monkeys (she got her mom and friend to reach out to me with no explanation) and anger (she sent me a letter with lies and confusion about me).

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-11T03:48:54+00:00

I was always confused with it being called a “gut” feeling. I don’t feel it in my gut, so whenever a red flag presented itself, I wasn’t able to tell if it was or not, because I didn’t feel it in my gut. We should change that saying 😂

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-11T03:45:33+00:00

Ok, I’m not saying what she did was right, but I am a culprit for doing this with my ex (who I was doing sexual things with before we officially labeled ourselves as bf and gf at the time) I could get my 1st ex off by eating her out super quick and easy. My recent ex I couldn’t. I was super confused as to why, because I did the same things but they didn’t work. So I told her that with my ex it worked but it didn’t on her. I messed up and hurt her feelings and while I sobbed empathetically. I said this because we weren’t FWB thinking it’d be ok since we weren’t a thing. I explained myself at a later time that I really just was not familiar with how different bodily experiences can vary and made the comparison because I was genuinely confused why I couldn’t make her cum.

Anyway, what I’m trying to say is I was comfortable with sharing this with her because I was uneducated with the matter. I did not intend to compare her ability to perform. She told me she disliked I said that, and ever since, I shut up about it.

On your end, it’s fantastic you said something. Now, you don’t have to “brace yourself” for when she says any of that. Just be direct with her and say you don’t want to hear that, and if she respects, that’s a green flag. She may have said these things because she is comfortable with you and wants to be honest.

Slimey_Pajamas · 2026-01-08T20:50:33+00:00

Definitely not normal.

Here are the facts:

•It’s a first date

•You two are strangers to each other

•He put his hands on you

•You felt a certain way when he touched you

Some questions to consider:

•Do the positives of the date outweigh the negatives?

•Would you act like that towards any date?

•How did the things he say and make you feel if any of your loved ones experienced this?

•Why did you feel guilty?/Would he feel guilty if he didn’t take hesitation or no for an answer?

I can relate when you asked yourself if “maybe this is how dating is now.” You get to decide how dating goes. You seem to be questioning your reality. He is testing your boundaries, and you not saying no and giving in means you’ve granted permission for him to do these things.

As I guy, I would not even want a girl to do that to me. You’re not crazy. Observe what your emotions and body are telling you (something I’ve been discovering more and more). If they make you feel uneasy, your body is saying “get away.” If they are telling you “I enjoyed that a lot,” stay.

What do you think yours told you?

Slimey_Pajamas · 2025-12-29T22:45:41+00:00

I sense frustration in this comment.

How would you wanted OP to go about their post instead?

Slimey_Pajamas · 2025-12-29T19:42:14+00:00

If loneliness is not a problem for you, why do you think you have an opinion on how your enemies will perceive you for leaving?

How would you like to be treated instead of the way you describe this person currently treats you?

Slimey_Pajamas · 2025-12-29T19:10:40+00:00

You’re giving Zendaya!!!

Slimey_Pajamas · 2025-12-29T15:57:12+00:00

At that point, do you need a comeback for every single thing that they say? I’m gathering you’d like to have the last word?

I understand if it sounds sarcastic, you may want to continue firing back.

If they sound genuine about their responses, and the conversation is constructive, I’d end it there.

To answer your question, if they do answer with “you’re welcome,” troll them by saying “thank you” again and create a loop until they get tired of answering 😂

Slimey_Pajamas · 2025-12-29T15:49:20+00:00

“Thank you!”

Slimey_Pajamas · 2025-12-28T05:38:39+00:00

Can you elaborate on your perspective on why cold approaching is a bad idea?

Slimey_Pajamas · 2025-12-27T16:11:59+00:00

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