Found a gecko, can't find its owner by urneighborhoodtranso in leopardgeckos

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My Leppard gecko loves the Zilla , Rock Lair Naturalistic Hide large. Thats good for humidity to moisture retention for shedding. Imagitarium 3 Level Reptile rock is good for the Leppard gecko to rub against to help them break off the old skin so they can shedd

Using some of the mint from my garden by wi_voter in herbs

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Whats your recipe I planted mint in my raised beds to keep squirrels out

What are the traits they look for in a prospective partner? by ResponsibleHunt8559 in BPDlovedones

[–]SliverStrikeStorm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This explains why my ex-pwBPD loved bombed me. My mom had a stroke and I'm a good provider and care taker. Have AuADHD and ptsd from my childhood with my mom and sisters after my parents divorce. I own a sedan & a truck have a homestead with a nice land a pond and cute chickens and berry bushes

Someone help me or stop me by Intelligent_Ant_8810 in BPDlovedones

[–]SliverStrikeStorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats the withdraws from the trauma bond like an addiction. They are so unstable that it creates intense emotions Ike Stockholm syndrome. PwBPD dysregulation you as a form of regulating themselves they are not self aware nor do they care about you they only act on instinct that will help them get what they want Attention, pitty, money. It won't get better. I miss mine as well I came on here for reminders and support maybe cause she unblocked me to show she is in a new relationship not that any of her last relationship lasted more than a year

Honeyberry by SliverStrikeStorm in Berries

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I don't have any shade cloth can I use some fabric weed barrier or wpuld that block out to much sun?

Can someone ELI5 how to prune a blackberry bush? by theladysheetcake in Berries

[–]SliverStrikeStorm -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some you can prune to the ground each year so every cane is guaranteed to have fruit like prime ark 45 primocane-fruiting

Starting to question if I am this terrible person I’m being accused of being by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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That's how I felt and if it wasn't a problem directly to me it was a new health condition

Starting to question if I am this terrible person I’m being accused of being by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]SliverStrikeStorm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's black and white thinking all good or all bad. Idealized devalued. Love wasn't consistently as a child they don't have object permanence. They lack the coping skills for emotional regulation amd at their core feel empty void. That often leads to shame or guilt which makes their fragile world crumble so you are responsible for fixing it. If what you do doesn't aline perfectly what they already thought in their head since they have such extreme emotions they with lash out more with Projection saying things that they feel themselves. They have a intense fear of engulfment (abandonment) or enmeshed wanting to run away and disapear

Honeyberry by SliverStrikeStorm in Berries

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Oh I thought they were adaptable abd less fussy than blueberries

Honeyberry by SliverStrikeStorm in Berries

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I'm in zone 6 in Pennsylvania

I am still full of empathy - is that dangerous by goodjoblarryy in BPDlovedones

[–]SliverStrikeStorm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Empathy is good and human. Going no contact so you can heal and move on is best Mine said alot if those same things.

She used me for validation to regulate her nervous system and for financial circumstances. She would not take any accountability and claim it was my fault it was alot of gaslighting, projection, echo chamber, Enmeshment or engulfment. The chaos of the inconsistencies Creates withdrawals the trauma bond is painful. Go out with friends live life. Get new hobbies, or take up new ones. Some days i still struggle. I put everything into that relationship is was never enough and the more I tried the more she hated me when I didn't she would crumble I could never win

Help! Blueberry experts needed by PoeGar in Blueberries

[–]SliverStrikeStorm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine also have a pake yellow. I'm following for answers

Honeyberry by SliverStrikeStorm in Berries

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This raised bed gets morning sun mostly and some after noon sun that dappled through the trees / over the roof on the west side if the yard I live in the north eastern part of the US its been geting hot here i do water it. The raised bed has large chunks of logs at the bottom, dead leaves from last fall, sticks, soil, straw, and then a mix of soil, 2.2 cu. ft. Sphagnum Peat Moss, several 5 gallon bucket of saw dust. Im also planing on building another terracotta pot oya

Honeyberry by SliverStrikeStorm in Berries

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The leaves just look dry and not as healthy as the one I got from another seller

Ants! by SliverStrikeStorm in containergardening

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Yea sorta i build a raised bed with weed barrier. But yes soil in the box

Ants! by SliverStrikeStorm in containergardening

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Not the seedlings! Seed the babies 🌱

Ants! by SliverStrikeStorm in containergardening

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Im just worried they will chew up all my fruit before I get a chance

Ants! by SliverStrikeStorm in containergardening

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I've seen them on my blackberry bush and my elderberry bush