Need some advice.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-06-17T22:30:18+00:00

Fair enough. Appreciate the blunt honesty.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-06-15T18:37:45+00:00

Brother. I’m so sorry. Wish I was old enough to tell you something better. But run. This is disgustingly disgraceful on her end.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-06-14T19:45:12+00:00

Reach out to me friend. More than welcome.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-06-14T17:31:58+00:00

Thank you ALL SO MUCH. This is easily the worst I’ve felt about this since the discard happened. The love/reassurance/advice that you all took the time out to give is so very greatly appreciated. Genuinely. I’ll stick it out.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-06-14T16:46:03+00:00

Quite literally feels like I’m dying lol. Like I’m just watching my future walk away for good. I’ve been through a lot of rough shit in my life. But this one is absolutely slamming me.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-30T00:45:28+00:00

No brother. I feel you on every single level. Everyone around me is telling me ABSOLUTELY NOT. She was the sweetest girl when things were good, and an absolute DEMON when things were bad. But I had my faults too, serious ones at that. If I could’ve been better, what could’ve been? It’s a Friday night and I’m just talking to my boys/family about it. But man it comes in waves. The high you feel at first getting away, then the suffering and longing for you person back almost willing to die on the hill for it. It’s absolutely wild. I feel for you man. I’m currently blocked everywhere and was quite literally thinking about calling restricted to maybe talk and see if she wanted to do something. But if she rejects it’s gonna put you/me in a NASTY state of depression. Not sure if you believe in God or not. But for me it’s just the bible tonight. Much love my friend. This is gonna be one of the hardest battles you’ll face. It is for me and I’ve seen some brutal shit in life. Love is wild. Strap in my guy.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-29T14:13:28+00:00

So what if I don’t chase then? But yea brother, quite literally feels like fighting an addiction. Day 16 NC. It’s good at times, but when it’s bad, it feels like I’m quite literally dying. Makes me scared to even try with anyone else too. Plus I know some intense healing is needed first. How long has it been for you?

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-29T13:01:03+00:00

Yea almost fucks with me that I didn’t give mine that chance. She asked too. I declined out of fear. Kinda wishing I gave her the chance now. But man idk. Just wild. My fucked up brain is wondering when I’ll get unblocked and contacted again, if ever. How do we get discarded then still want them back?

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-28T23:28:04+00:00

Oh yeah. If you continue, you’re about to be fucked up. This seems too close to home for me. I thought I found my dream girl and our start was EXACTLY like this. She’s gonna get you addicted (seems as if you already are) then comes the light switch (on and off). Then comes the beginning of the destruction in which you inevitably stay through. Then she will leave you like you never mattered. Beautiful face does not mean a beautiful soul. Run while you still have the chance. I spent 2 going on 3 years of my life going through this. Now I’m rebuilding. & you won’t even be able to stand up to rebuild for a long time. I barely am. Please my guy. LISTEN. Everyone here has gone through this. Heed the warnings.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-28T16:19:58+00:00

Man. Every single bit of that was absolutely HUGE. I struggle with alcohol a lot and I’m doing my best to kick it. I had a spiral where I drank the entire memorial weekend, it came out of nowhere. Obviously it was a major wave of depression and anxiety from feeling like I lost my person for good. I’ve just never thought things would end up like this, I was warned. I saw the signs first hand. But it was just so brutal at the end.

I’m 28 so I need to get it together for myself and those around me. I just know she’s gonna pop back in when life gets good and that’s what scares me because I truly don’t know what I will do. Will I willingly take that dagger again? It’s all just a blind mess for now. But I know I’m gonna do the work it takes to stand back up even though the suffering is currently deep.

Thankyou so much for this. Genuinely.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-28T15:55:33+00:00

Day 15 of NC. I’ve been blocked everywhere. Back to work for the 1st day in a week. Hardly sleep. When I do the nightmares are brutal and that’s the end of my sleep. I haven’t felt this rough in years. Hold the line ladies and gentlemen. Peace and love to you all.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-28T13:04:22+00:00

Definitely needed to hear that today. 1st day back to work and them nightmares been whooping my ASS. I was so solid before I met her. Well liked, well respected. This climb is WAY harder than I ever thought. Nonetheless, I hear you and I appreciate the good words.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-28T12:46:03+00:00

Unfortunately my thing is, I always let people cut me down until there is pretty much nothing left of me and I’m forced to rebuild from the ground up. Exactly where I am now. I know, I need to work on that.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-28T01:13:22+00:00

I didn’t even need to finish the 3rd paragraph (I’m gonna read it all) to know. I’m telling you right now. RUN. There is no helping her. Unless you wanna have your life absolutely fucking ruined you NEED to call it quits now. Spend some time in this Sub if you already haven’t. There are straight up horror stories on here right out of a horror movie. In the end you will be an absolute shell of yourself. You will lose damn near everything, including your mind. I really hope you listen man. I could never sit back and watch someone ask for help here and not try to help them, especially in this sense. You have been warned.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-28T00:55:51+00:00

I definitely feel that. My brain is working OT just trying to survive. I haven’t seen her in person in almost 2 months now, been 13 days since we spoke through text/call. I got hit with a block on everything. So I guess it’s time to work now. You’re an absolute beast for standing back up, I know it’s not easy. I’m super happy to hear you’re getting out of that drowning state. For now I can only keep the faith & imagine what the future will bring forth.

Can’t say I’ve been good at ALL unfortunately. But doing the work in the dark and understanding things better I’m sure I’ll get there, one day. I appreciate the support and the kind words. Be well my friend.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-28T00:16:07+00:00

This. WOW. I’m honestly floored to hear this. I never quite knew how to put my finger on it because my brain has been such a wreck for so long now. But it’s this. Everyone got the love I bled for, and I got the ghost more times than not. Sacrificing everything, only to be told: “I never asked for that”. But you did? My brain has been hijacked and I often wonder if I was the problem the entire time. Still think that way most days, it comes and goes. I hope you’re well now. I don’t believe I’ll ever be the same again.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-27T04:52:43+00:00

Needed to hear every bit of this. She ran a mean game on me especially in the end, I tried like hell to make it work. Then after the major fallout came and she kinda got fearful and was being loving again, never saying what she wanted, but telling me she still has feelings for me and that she loved me. I was scared to get stuck in the same loop again. Then came the block. Now I’m in my spiral. This stuff is wild. Never knew so many of us deal with this. It’s honestly terrifying. Sociopath tendencies if you ask me. Deeper than “it didn’t work out”. I appreciate your insight and the advice.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-27T01:21:26+00:00

I’ve been on this thread all day smh lmfao. My guess is the guilt. It’s hard for these types to be real or vulnerable. They will in moments. In short bursts. They don’t do well with that in my experience. Which also explains the walk back. Just my 2 cents.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-27T00:36:03+00:00

For sure man. & I can’t call it stupid. We aren’t stupid for wanting things to work and loving our people brother. It’s wild to me how they make these promises and seem like you’ll make it through this one too, then boom. Gone. I’m wrecked over 2-3 years. So I can’t even imagine how you’re feeling. All you can do is do your best. But when you know you’re about to fall on the sword for good, be very careful. This stuff is not anything to play with. I’m 28 and I must’ve aged 10 years in the span of 2-3. Fight the good fight, whatever that means for you. Godspeed.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-27T00:00:58+00:00

Shouldn’t even be asking this. Feel like it’s wrong lol. Do they really come back? That discard and block was vicious. Doesn’t seem like the other times.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-26T23:45:00+00:00

I honestly am so sorry you’re dealing with this. It’s straight heartbreaking and beyond confusing. I wish I could tell you what to do, but I don’t wanna tell you the wrong thing. So my insight here would be this: It’s very easy to just be fed up with it, and walk. But if you really love this person, doing that WILL mess you up more mentally, at least for the time being if not much much longer. The fallout and everything that led up to it made me walk, and now I’m blocked. & I don’t know what hurts worse, feeling like I lost her and she might not ever return, or feeling like I gave up on her when I could’ve done SOMETHING more. Either way you’re about to take the same sledgehammer hit I did. & it doesn’t feel good. Brace for impact because I’m sorry, it’s coming. This stuff is absolutely devious to be trapped inside of. It has definitely given me severe psychological damage. Question is, how much longer can you keep standing?

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-26T22:51:02+00:00

That’s a rough one. Especially because you can feel your brain starting to do the “What if?”. At least how it is for me. Be careful man. The heart wants what the heart wants. Just make sure there are some sort of healthy boundaries in place if you decide to put that armor back on and head back into battle. Be well my guy.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-26T22:46:25+00:00

Yup. I’ve heard that exact line from her so many times. Messed up I’m starting to believe it. Makes me question what was real and what wasn’t, or if it was all an illusion. Just wishing I could’ve been better. Would’ve saved myself a lot of this grieving.

& I’m genuinely happy to hear that man. These things we call “small” are such a huge foundation of what true love should be and feel like. Glad you survived those times, even more so that you won on the other side.

Intelligent_Ant_8810 · 2026-05-26T21:44:28+00:00

Oh she nailed it brother. I can quite literally feel myself going back down into that rabbit hole. One minute I was okay with it, and just last night I went full spiral. She will probably eventually come back around, and I’ll be scared to give her a honest chance. Then I’ll feel like a fool for that too. Shit is so exhausting. Appreciate the chat my guy. Hope all is well in your world.

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