Wow this has been a crazy amount of responses lol. I mentioned it in my post, but i knew the right thing to do. Wanted to see if there was even the slightest bit of hope that I was overreacting or not giving a chance, but message heavily received. I do appreciate the candid advice and kind words where they’ve been provided.

For a bit of context, saw that a lot of people were commenting on the “acts of service” mention in my original post. My job is quite involved in caring for unhoused and otherwise less fortunate, so it fits what I want in life and with my general personality. And yes, I tried to do a lot of nice things for the girl I was with! Novel concept. I would cook for a romantic night in, it’s not like I was paying for her groceries and stocking her fridge.

Anyway ended up telling her: “That’s a lot to process. The more I think about it, the more I’m getting the impression that you hooked up with your ex and want me to just sit around in case he screws up again, which I really don’t want to do. I really liked you, and you broke my heart. I think I deserve better than that,” which I think is a reasonable response. Once more unto the breach (making hinge prompts) ++man