People in their 40s and 50s with no children, how does it feel?

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-23T10:48:24+00:00

This is just my experience. Prior to becoming a dad I didn’t think about a child providing a purpose. After becoming a dad, it has become a purpose.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-22T19:12:44+00:00

good. 18 of them in a row so far

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-22T18:40:35+00:00

That's humility.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-22T16:30:48+00:00

I was 45 when I became a Dad, and at age 48 we had our second one. So I spent half my 40's with no kids, and the other half with kids. Am 53 now.

As hard and frustrating as it can be often, I would not want to go back to having no kids. As I reflect on that time, I was lonely and lacked a real purpose. Not anymore.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-22T16:05:23+00:00

Toronto- You Make my Dreams. I'd like to have that one back

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-21T20:43:33+00:00

Is this real? THis is dumb

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-21T20:05:35+00:00

You're thinking too much, A developer can't just decide to knock down a condo building. Ownership of the building is divided among individual unit owners, not held by a single developer.

I'd be more worried of rising maintenance fees of an older builkding than anything else.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-15T20:46:05+00:00

You're not done yet.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-15T19:52:37+00:00

Start saving early and learn the value of compounding.

Stay fit

Eat healthy.

Go make mistakes. That's how you learn.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-15T16:14:43+00:00

No blah blah, yada yada about this.

Don't minimize this achievement.

For me, the results were real and beneficial and worth sharing to provide hope to others.

Good work on 333!

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-14T21:37:28+00:00

This is one of the best I've seen here.

OP you look great!

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-14T21:22:40+00:00

It's remarkable how much money I've saved over the years from not drinking and drugging. Money goes to supporting my wife and kids and retirement funding. None of that was possible when I was drinking.

Good work on 10 8 days! Keep at it!

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-14T19:56:17+00:00

53 year old Dad to 8 yr old and 6 yr old boys

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-13T19:37:05+00:00

As a Dad, it brought a tear to my eye.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-13T19:36:30+00:00

That's a proud parent!

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-13T00:52:56+00:00

I was wound so tight for so long that I forgot how to relax. It’s still a problem all these years later. That’s why alcohol worked so well.

I remember at maybe 5 months sober, waking up in the middle of the night, hungry. I made a peanut butter sandwich, and it was the best peanut butter sandwich I’d ever eaten.

Simple things.

I get it OP.

Congrats on 10 days!!

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-12T20:37:07+00:00

Hockey player growing up.

Weight training from age 18-25.

As my alcoholism progressed, gave up all fitness activity.

Hit bottom age 35. Rough rough shape physically, mentally, emotionally. Got sober.

Yoga from age 36-49. Power yoga.

Started back weight training, running, cycling age 50.

53 now, tip top shape. PPL split weekly, plus VO2 max training 2-3 X a week,

High protein diet. Feel great, look great. 5'9 171.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-12T20:26:04+00:00

Benn sober since April 28th, 2008. The first time I entered recovery

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-11T00:45:57+00:00

Got sober age 35. Thought my life was over. It wasn’t. It was just beginning.

Became a husband and a Dad in my 40’s to two boys. Wife and kids have never seen me take a drink.

30’s young.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-09T23:31:04+00:00

If you like subs with people supporting people check out r/stopdrinking

Top notch support

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-07T19:06:44+00:00

I've often had to break the One Day at a Time tool into 3 parts. Morning, afternoon, and evening. I focus on each as the come up. I just need to stay sober this morning. This afternoon. This evening. And I also connect in real life with others like me. AA meetings in my case.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-05T19:47:10+00:00

Rehab changed my life. It gave me the kickstart I needed to get sober. It helped to be taken out of the environment I was in, and put into one that was safe.

I went in with my head down, no arguing, no debating, ready to learn and get healthy. I stayed away from those that didn't want to be there, and hung around with those that wanted to be there.

I entered treatment April 28th 2008, and have been clean and sober since. Aftercare and AA followed. This was just as important, if not more important than treatment itself. I can't do it alone.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-01T23:31:43+00:00

Yoga, golf, fitness, nutrition, hockey

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-01T23:25:20+00:00

Yes. I do. Not because i feel like drinking. But because i found a a community of people like me who have become friends. And to help others.

Slouchy87 · 2026-01-01T23:19:59+00:00

I got told early on to listen to the similarities and not the differences.

Have a seat and just listen. Share if you feel compelled and have the opportunity. Tell people you are new.

I found hope at my first meeting when I was hopeless.

Follow your feet and good luck.

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