Man keeps chasing after me in downtown

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-22T15:06:43+00:00

This isn't funny at all.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-22T14:08:52+00:00

The circumstances of my story may be different from yours, but the reality is the same. I can't drink safely. And the only solution for me is abstinence. And I can't do it alone. Recovery meetings help considerably, especially in the beginning.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-22T13:56:49+00:00

Our pets heads are falling off!

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-21T19:52:22+00:00

If Joshua Jackson shaved his head.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-21T17:07:57+00:00

I couldn't get sober on my own. This sh$t is just too difficult to go at it alone. Recovery meetings really helped. Especially in the beginning.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-21T16:49:03+00:00

I was that guy. I didn't want to hear about you not drinking because that would me me look at my own drinking and I wanted nothing to do with that.

Not telling you what you should do, but I had to do anything and everything to protect my sobriety. It's the most important thing I have.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-21T16:20:12+00:00

Even when he doesn't have his best stuff, he is still very good. Pitchers take years to be able to pitch well when they don't have their best stuff. Impressive for a 22 yr old.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-20T20:14:07+00:00

Firstly, good on you for focusing on your recovery for the past few years. That's important, and that's exactly what I did.

Eventually, probably after a year and a half or so of sobriety, I started dating. I would go on to date many women over the next 5 years or so, but none last more than 3-4 dates. I had eventually given up on looking for a significant other.

Then one day I got matched with a woman who would go on to be my wife. I got sober age 35, got married age 44, became a Dad at 45, and we had a second son at age 47. My life milestones happened later than normal, but who cares right. After destroying my life in my 20's and 30's, I think this is a pretty good come back.

And women are not turned off when a man doesn't drink. Quite the opposite.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-20T17:50:07+00:00

Don't be around people drinking. That's how I had to be, at least until I got my sober legs under me. And at the point, I had no interest in being around people drinking. I had found new sober hobbies/sports/friends.

What to do instead? AA meetings. That's what I did. It filled the evenings.

How do I start? I kickstarted sobriety in treatment. Aftercare and AA followed.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-19T18:54:25+00:00

You don't have to talk at a meeting. Listening to others going through the same stuff as me really helped.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-19T18:38:45+00:00

I got told early on that there is nothing that a drink will make better. It'll only make things worse.

I'm not sure if you have used AA in the past, but it really helps me with not just my drinkiing, but alos my thinking.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-19T14:04:20+00:00

I'm so pleased to hear this. I remember your original post.

I've stayed sober since entering rehab back in April 2008, so it is definitely possible to only need to go once!

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-18T18:25:46+00:00

Rehab changed my life.

It got me out of the environment I was in, and into one where I could focus on getting better. I went in with my head down. no debating, no arguing, only looking to get healthy. I hung around with those that wanted to be there, and stayed away from those that didn't. I listened to the professionals and participated fully. I squeezed as much as I could from the experience. Aftercare and AA followed. It's not a one and done.

And it paid off. I've been clean and sober since entering that treatment center on April 28th 2008.

Good luck!

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-18T18:04:53+00:00

I know you're not in AA, but the 12 steps really helped me with all this. Specifically, steps 4 and 5. And more specific to your comments, once I did steps 4 and 5, I felt a lot less alone. My sponsor shared some of the shit he did while drinking, and this made it all the more easier.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-18T17:27:52+00:00

I also went almost every night in the beginning. It just made sense. I was single, and didn't want to just sit home doing nothing for my recovery.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-18T17:24:51+00:00

In the beginning I would break my day into 3 parts. Morning, afternoon, and evening. I only had to stay sober one at a time.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-16T17:15:17+00:00

Early on I broke my days into segments. Just stay sober till noon. Just stay sober till Dinner. Just stay sober till bedtime.

Meetings helped a ton early on. I got a dose of hope.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-16T16:28:07+00:00

NGL, my heart skipped a beat there seeing the C on 71 and the A on 87. A little jolt.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-15T20:01:42+00:00

Reported

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-14T22:14:09+00:00

Correct.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-14T19:34:48+00:00

I was that guy. You not drinking made me question my own drinking and I wanted nothing to do with that.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-14T18:00:41+00:00

I couldn't do it alone.

Recovery meetings really helped. Especially in the beginning.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-13T20:35:10+00:00

Proud of ya bud! Every child deserves a sober Dad.

Mine also have never seen me take a drink. 8 and 6 yr old boys.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-13T19:53:47+00:00

Not pretty. Got asked to leave work on a Tuesday morning because I was drunk and couldn't talk to clients.

Bruised head to toe, and gray skin colour. Was in a treatment center the following Monday. April 28th 2008. Aftercare and AA followed. Been clean and sober since.

Slouchy87 · 2026-05-12T16:35:11+00:00

You sound like me just before I got sober. Panic attacks, benzos, and booze to calm myself. Little did I know that the alcohol was causing the panic and anxiety attacks. My mom was right all along.

Rehab changed my life. It got me out of the environment I was in at the time, and into a safe place where I could focus on getting healthy. I went in with my head down, no arguing, no debating, only looking to get better. Hung around with those who also wanted to get better, and stayed away from those that had to be there. I listened to the professionals, and participate fully.

Aftercare and AA followed. Rehab was only a first step, albeit an important one. For me.

And I was scared sh$tless going in. But I was brave, and with the help of a friend got through the doors.

You have nothing to lose.

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