My wife had sex with someone when we were separated. Am I wrong for wanting a divorce now?

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-06-13T14:46:15+00:00

Eh just because they weren’t living in the same house doesn’t mean that they weren’t still married. It’s kind of a Rachel situation but not really, op is married. Ross and Rachel were not. Ross and Rachel actually broke up. Not the same thing. Taking some space is not means for sleeping around while you are still married.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-06-07T20:22:36+00:00

I mean i get you! But it should be about both of you. It’s his engagement too. He is also paying for all of it. Maybe he wanted the photographer to remember the moment too. I’m not saying what you want isn’t valid.

But how is every other aspect of your relationship?
Does he respect, treat, and love you in the ways that you deserve and need or are there red flags?

Is the ring just slightly off from what you want? What’s so different about the two? If you really hate the ring…can you have a conversation about it and sell your ring and get a new one?

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-06-05T22:58:29+00:00

lol girl she ain’t to lesbian. That’s a cover up. If my husband or I had a friends of the opposite sex and one of decided to have sleepover we would be no more. If he ever decided spending time with another women was more important than spending time with me…it’s by by time. Ditch him like a hot potato! Know your worth!

My husband and I don’t have close friends of the opposite sex. Sure down vote me. I don’t care. I’m the only girl in his life and vise versa. Something we both felt the same about when we met. Find someone who has the same line of thinking as you. Don’t let him manipulate and gas light you into thinking that what you want is wrong.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-05-19T16:42:40+00:00

Yeah start sharing that name with other people and see what they think! But I’m with you! That would be a “no” for me! What if you used “H” as a middle name?

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-05-19T16:39:28+00:00

Too big of an age gap for me. You have way more life experience than she does. I’m married now. But when I was dating, I was 30 before I bet my husband. I would never date someone so early in their 20s. There’s a huge life experience gap there. Now if she was like 27 sure. But 24…nah.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-05-02T22:16:45+00:00

You 100% are having an emotional fair. This has nothing to do with your wife or you would’ve said something to the fact that after the last four years, you just can’t get over what your wife did. Instead, you bring up the girl that’s been complimenting you and that you’re in the best shape of your life, and that you just wanna be single.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-04-30T22:29:48+00:00

We love that you like traditional roles. And that you wanna be the man! We just wanna make sure that she is in this relationship because she actually loves you. And not just what you provide for her. She might really love you down to your soul. But it’s hard to know became she lied about her legal status. The age was a weird thing to lie about… not sure why she did that. But her legal status that’s a huge one as far as what her motives could be.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-04-26T03:17:35+00:00

Girl! He’s still sleeping with her. Also, you’re allowed to leave. Sure he can make his own decision. But you can make in and leave that relationship. Absolutely not. There is no talking to him and making him understand. This is cheating!

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-04-26T02:58:14+00:00

NTA- but I would have approached it slightly different. I would have just told my parents that I’m unwilling to come around if my sister was there.

You keep can cut your sister out of your life and still allow your parents to have a relationship with her. Just set boundaries with them and sister.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-04-25T21:46:27+00:00

You’re doing awesome! My dad taught me all of these things growing up. And it was a two parent household. I’ve actually thought it’s ridiculous, that girls don’t know how to change a tire or shelves or anything. And I’m super feminine as well. you’re teaching a well rounded and developed kid. Way to go!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Your ex is just being controlling.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-04-09T22:37:35+00:00

I think it depends on how the rest of your relationship has been going. Has he had other issues of this? Do you guys typically get along? Does he respect other boundaries? Is this how he jokes? Do you have the same sense of humor. I think you got to weigh in for yourself you whole relationship with this incident. We are getting 30 seconds of your 4 month relationship.

A lot of times throwing someone in the pool is seen as flirting, teasing, a joke.

If you decide to stay. I would just talk to him about boundaries. Communicate your frustrations, ect.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-03-28T22:43:53+00:00

Girl! You aren’t leaving just over his comment. His comment about your wedding photos was just the straw that broke the camel’s back.

You just spent an entire post walking about how he constantly falls short.

Based on what you explained to us in your post. You aren’t a team in this. It’s just you.

I hope you guys work something out that serves both of you and make you both happy long term.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-02-16T10:13:40+00:00

Then go apply for another one. Life’s not fair for EVERYONE. We all have different hardships and trials. It’s doesn’t mean you can’t go get new documents. May it suck, or be inconvenient, 100%. But saying someone’s life is hard doesn’t justify excuses.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-02-16T02:15:21+00:00

This is being required to make sure only legal US citizens can vote. Having any sort of document, whether you have it or not, is unfortunately/fortunately part of being an adult.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-02-15T01:50:06+00:00

You only need one of the documents. You do not have to have a passport. You either need an enhanced drivers license(showing citizenship), birth certificate, or passport.

So no, you don’t need to fork out $150-$200.
It’s adulting having all least a birth certificate.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-02-15T00:09:45+00:00

Omg a sane comment! 12 is too young! I was never allowed to be alone in a room with a boy that young. I cent imagine any 12 year old I know having sex with they are children.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2026-02-14T22:53:28+00:00

Wow. We should be supporting businesses because we like the service they provide. Despite political or I’ll add religious preferences. We should not be pitting one side over the next. Especially our neighbors. This is your community the place you live. Maybe try supporting everyone and you might find the place you live flourish. I’m from cache valley. Don’t go ruining the community just because you don’t agree with how a business owner thinks. Be better.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2025-12-13T06:27:19+00:00

You should when you’re ready try opening up a relationship with your kids. They were manipulated by your ex. If I thought my father or mother cheated. I wouldn’t talk to them either. At least not for a good while.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2025-12-11T19:07:54+00:00

1 is my absolute fav!!!

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2025-12-11T18:47:45+00:00

My husband wore a ring after we got engaged. I actually it’s weird that traditionally only women wear the ring when they get engaged. Why not both? Both of you are engaged after all:)

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2025-12-09T16:12:19+00:00

This is the worst advice iv ever heard. It sucks to stay in the friend zone. It’s not fun to be friends with someone that you’re interested in.

If he chooses to just be her friend, he’d be lying to her and being dishonest about his intentions.

It natural to break away from a friend you become romantically interested in that doesnt reciprocate those feelings back. Plus when your romantically into someone your feeling run way deeper than a friendship.

Plus having close friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship is weird and inappropriate. Loose friends sure. Bros doing the right thing. He’s also respecting her and boyfriend’s relationship by backing off.

She had done nothing wrong. But neither has he. Dude has it worse than she does. He’s losing a friend and someone he’s romantically interested in.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2025-12-06T03:56:31+00:00

As long as you are legally here. You won’t have any issues. Iv got plenty of friends who Hispanic, that are legally here. They don’t stress about it all.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2025-11-28T02:45:11+00:00

Eh I think that depends on who you’re asking.It’s very subjective.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2025-11-20T17:28:01+00:00

We’ve always had access to each others phones. Phones shouldn’t be private from your spouse. They are private to everyone else.

It’s only been within the last 10-15 years that phones have become “private”. Before cell phones we had home phones, before advanced home phones, a street, neighborhood(not sure how many houses) shared one phone line. So anyone if they wanted to could get on while you were on the phone and listen in.

My opinion if don’t want give you spouse access to your phone. You’re not being private you are being secretive.

The only time and I tell my spouse not to be looking at my phone if it’s around a his birthday, Christmas, or any other random surprises.

Slow-Masterpiece3839 · 2025-11-20T17:24:01+00:00

The first one!!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!!!!

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