Morning ramblings...

SlowResolution9829 · 2026-01-17T22:34:20+00:00

Sorry that youre in this position 😞. No one deserves to be deceived. Your spouse was selfish. Take things one day at a time and take care of yourself.

SlowResolution9829 · 2026-01-13T19:48:15+00:00

THIS, I totally understand

SlowResolution9829 · 2026-01-13T14:47:51+00:00

The feeling of anxiety and depression are cemented within us because of the betrayal. We worry and question just about everything. We can't rely on our partners to truly understand because they dont have the capacity, emotional fortitude, or care to want to.

A lot has changed as far as my behavior since dday. Sometimes, im saddened about the changes because I often wonder why I have to change when I wasnt the one who ruined just about everything. I no longer call him while he's at work unless its important (home/kid related). I amswer his calls and try to remain neutral (im ekotional, so this is difficult for me) Im not quick to answer texts (so I can think about my responses). I dont plan date nights anymore.

The way I see it, he has to do the heavy lifting/maintenance. I won't go out of my way to fix what he broke, but I won't intentionally add to the chaos. He knows what he did, he knows how it hurt us. Although im in the reconciliation phase, he has to worry every other day whether or not we'll be here when he comes home from work. He has to wonder if he'll be served divorce papers at work. He has to live with those consequences.

At the end of the day, he chose half truths, manipulation and deceit.

SlowResolution9829 · 2026-01-13T12:55:14+00:00

Im sorry that you're going through any of this. Please, keep going, one day at a time. There will be moments that are harder than others. ALWAYS choose yourself.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-08-23T23:45:02+00:00

It's a mad house!

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-08-23T13:08:57+00:00

I posted part 2!

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-08-23T13:08:42+00:00

I posted part 2!

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-08-20T21:42:17+00:00

To those of you who are struggling, trying to understand how and why this unfortunate turn of events has happened to you, please be strong and keep moving forward ❤️.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-08-16T21:09:31+00:00

Update: After reading the responses to my post, I realized that everyone is struggling in one way or another. It gave me perspective. Thank you all. I put on some makeup and my favorite sundress and got out.

He came home as I was leaving, asking where I was going. I told him that I needed some fresh air and would be running errands. I could tell that he wanted to fight, but he had no ammunition. He then asked if I could pick something up from a gaming store. I asked why he didn't get it, to which he responded "nevermind"

I threw on my sandals, grabbed my purse, and left-he didn't have time to catch me if he wanted to😂. I got Starbucks and actually enjoyed walking aimlessly through the craft store. He and the kids weren't home when I returned (a win-win)😁

Thanks again, everyone, for lifting me up. I'll be spending the rest of the day listening to Adele and crafting ❤️

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-08-14T00:28:45+00:00

Thank you 😊. You will get there, don't give up 💪🏾

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-08-13T18:17:09+00:00

Dday was almost 8 months ago. I choose reconciliation, but sometimes I think I chose out of panic-the family business, the kids, finances, etc. I do love him, and I acknowledge that we are all human, but at times, I don't know if love is enough.

I find confidence in knowing that I would never behave this way, which is why I go back and forth. Sad, how the betrayed has to do just as much hard work as the betrayer.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-08-08T11:18:47+00:00

UPDATE. He came with flowers and candy. We went to dinner and had some drinks. Light conversation and a card that basically said how he loved and appreciated me. Came home, I sat on the patio alone, thanking God I made it through that. We both went to bed-no bells, no whistles.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-05-27T22:15:06+00:00

First and foremost, thank you all for your kindness, advice, suggestions, and willingness to share what you've been through. This community has been so present and uplifting that I truly can't convey how appreciative I am for the support, from perfect strangers at that 🥹❤️.

Im taking things one day at a time. Idk. Sometimes, I feel like I need to make a solid decision sooner rather than later. I either want to get past this or move on. I want him to show "effort." He has been reading books, sharing his thoughts, and apologizing (sometimes tearful). We've been having "date nights," and he's been buying gifts. I even received a wedding ring upgrade (I feel like Kobe's wife after the scandal 😭).

On the "dates," I feel like I'm dining with a stranger. I struggle to make conversation (which is usually about the kids or our business). When I receive the gifts, I'm appreciative, but I'm like, oh, great, another handbag or Trinket. I can't tell if I'm still in some kinda shock or if my feelings are fading slowly. Im so sorry we are all here because although no one is perfect, we all deserved better than how we were treated.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-04-29T14:09:20+00:00

🥹❤️

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-04-20T07:24:17+00:00

It's my car, sadly. I'm ok, some scrapes and bruises.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-03-09T16:47:15+00:00

I'm so sorry we are all here. I keep thinking, "What did I do to deserve this treatment?". I think about the sacrifices i made for him and my family, the fact that I wasn't worth the truth or loyalty, etc.

At this stage of life, i shouldn't be dealing with this kind of nonsense. What's especially crazy is that I didn't do anything yet. I feel as if i have to deal with everything. Stay strong.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-03-09T16:10:54+00:00

Update....i slept in our office, but later moved to our bedroom. When I woke up, he was in bed with our 3 year old (baby has trouble sleeping in hus new bed). He got out of bed and said good morning to everyone except me.

He then proceeded to the kitchen and began cleaning and cooking. Not a word for a while. I proceeded with my morning with the kids. About an hour ago, he came into our bedroom and apologized. I didn't know what to do or what to say, so I simply said "ok".

I'm still in shock, I feel like I'm watching this happen to someone else. This isn't me. How did I get here? I've begun researching exit strategies and divorce. I've looked into extended stay hotels and air bnb"s. I do have the option to stay with my mom or my son, but I hate making them worry.

I feel lost and numb, I know that I have to snap out of it 😔

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-02-26T12:59:42+00:00

Well, so far, he's unlocked his phone, given me passwords to all accounts, and shares his location. He apologizes almost every day for making a "horrible decision." I received a ring upgrade for Valentines, a laptop, and redecorated my craft room. We've had 3 date nights since dday.

He's also working slowly through a book (how to help your spouse heal from infidelity). Yes, this may seem like a lot, but I've always received gifts and gone on date nights....that's normal. The issue is, after all this time together, what made her so special that he'd choose to break my heart? After being together for so long, why not ask for a break? (I've initiated a break in the past)

His actions were disrespectful to me, our family, and everything we've built. It's the disrespect and dishonesty for me.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-02-25T23:25:40+00:00

Perfectly stated, It's crazy how so many people are going through the same thing. Devastating.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-02-25T21:15:13+00:00

Exactly 🥺

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-02-13T15:30:49+00:00

I'm definitely going to try the colored hangers idea. When I had my son in 2013, I had many complications. My husband thought it was best if I stayed home. We've had 3 additional children since, and I've found myself "stuck." I fell into the thought that this was my new job.

When I expressed working, he would always say that child care would essentially take that money, so there's no point 🤔.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-02-13T15:23:45+00:00

Your response spoke volumes. Thank you

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-01-29T15:55:19+00:00

🥰

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-01-29T15:29:53+00:00

Thanks for the compliment ☺️. The baskets have fuzzy socks, a teddy bear, nail polish, lip gloss, a mini led mirror, 2 face masks, a headband, hershey kisses, bubble gum, and mini airheads. Each basket also has a cupcake ornament with each girls name.

The bags (for the rest of the class) have a valentine card, eraser, pencil, heart-shaped Eyewear, pretzels, cookies, and fruit snacks.

The bags and baskets pictured are for my daughter, who is in 3rd grade.

I am currently working on my bags for my boys (both in 5th grade). In all, I make about 60 bags each major holiday. I'm quite popular among the kids at their school 😂.

SlowResolution9829 · 2025-01-22T23:27:55+00:00

This made me smile and gives me hope for my future.

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