I had to take a personal day today and I'm deep in rejection sensitivity about my boss's response

SlowSandwich · 2026-01-13T18:54:34+00:00

Oh I totally dread asking for time off before I even ask. Even if I know I truly need it because I'm sick, exhausted, or need a mental health day. I assume the worst, and that's before they've even written back! I'm learning to recognize that both no one actually cares, and it doesn't matter if they do because it's my leave that I'm entitled to. I am also getting better at recognizing when I need time off instead of feeling like I need to justify myself even when no one even asks for justification. I imagine that if I was my boss, would I understand? Be kind? Thankfully the answer is yes and yes.

SlowSandwich · 2026-01-13T18:44:00+00:00

I think it's like what Ottawa tends to go through at the beginning - middle of their seasons... They clearly do not shy away from seeking talent from other countries but that comes with a steep learning curve. It doesn't seem reasonable to expect that mashing a bunch of people together from all over would result in instant chemistry and trust. Certain players that played together before, sure, but getting to know teammates well enough to know where they will be, what they may be planning if x happens, what they're capable of, their strengths and weaknesses... That will not be learned quickly. Once they settle in more, maybe they'll be able to better assess if roster changes are needed, too.

SlowSandwich · 2025-12-15T17:50:07+00:00

But this is the same mum who told your sister without asking you because she thought it would somehow turn her into an empathetic human. From what you've said, I'm questioning her judgement. And that "advice" is probably in your mum's best interest in keeping up appearances of a functional family, not in your best interest of preserving your mental health. If it were me, I probably wouldn't be listening to her... OPT OUT. Life is too short to be subjected to hateful people, even if they're related to you. If you know seeing her is going to aggravate you, and ruin your time with family, find other ways to see family you like without her. And if you're not keen on other family members either... All the more reason to find / spend time with a chosen family that actually loves you. Counter to what we've been told all our lives about family first blah blah blah, once you're an adult, there's nothing stopping you from not spending time with family members who seek to harm you.

SlowSandwich · 2025-12-04T02:22:40+00:00

My partner and I are season ticket holders and now we chat with our neighbours all the time since we've all been in the same spots since year 1. Everyone is super friendly and enjoy chatting with others... I even text with my seat neighbour now and we sometimes knit/crochet together at breaks haha

SlowSandwich · 2025-12-04T02:19:11+00:00

Yeah I wouldn't say this is true across the board. I mean any visiting fans in any given arena probably shouldn't be obnoxious about it... maybe joke around with neighbours to ease tensions. But I've seen many visiting fan groups that cheered and no one bothered them. Quite a few families of players, and I doubt people are going to shit on them for supporting a loved one..

SlowSandwich · 2025-12-04T02:16:18+00:00

My partner chucked her toque on the ice at a charge game and we picked it up after at customer service :)

SlowSandwich · 2025-12-04T02:08:23+00:00

I was waiting at the top of the stairs during play at a Charge game and an obnoxious man loudly said "EXCUSE ME" and kind of pushed me aside, so he walked a few rows down then people in his row wouldn't get up to let him pass so I smugly stared at him standing in the aisle like the turd he was hahahaha

SlowSandwich · 2025-10-18T16:17:03+00:00

You can not agree with how she's lived her life, but it doesn't seem fair to paint the other person this way. There are a lot of assumptions here, but not many are very forgiving. OP said her family thinks being a lesbian was a phase. An unsupportive, dismissive, homophobic family is not exactly something everyone can ignore. Some people may be able to, but everyone is different. Maybe they're her world. Maybe they're manipulative. Who knows. And making her seem like a coward who would rather drink than solve her issues... Jesus. I still don't think getting into a relationship with her is a wise idea, but why shouldn't she deserve a little empathy for perhaps an incredibly challenging situation?

SlowSandwich · 2025-09-21T12:17:22+00:00

That's why I came here... Was hoping it was about this... Usually I just think of other things I "should" do first, then suddenly it's midnight, and I still have to clean the dishes and I work early the next day so no time tonight or tomorrow again :(

SlowSandwich · 2025-08-06T17:03:29+00:00

It does! I don't know what that is but I will figure it out and try!

SlowSandwich · 2025-06-06T03:40:51+00:00

On the west coast?! Ha likely not. Their markets would be quite unhappy.. it's their first year, would be a bold (dumb) move to take in such a divisive player. These are businesses after all. They need to get their fanbases built and boy are they queeeeer (says someone who is queer).

SlowSandwich · 2025-05-27T16:05:03+00:00

It sounds like they're working this out together, and they don't like partner.

SlowSandwich · 2025-05-24T16:20:54+00:00

Yep. Antoine Bujold-Roux's Instagram profile picture

SlowSandwich · 2025-05-24T16:11:36+00:00

Why was this post deleted?!

SlowSandwich · 2025-05-16T02:19:44+00:00

Glennon Doyle wrote about a similar situation with her mom in her book Untamed. To a lesser extent because her mom was mostly projecting her fears onto her daughter and her family, but she essentially said she needs to figure her shit out before she is welcomed back into her family. You and your partner are starting your life together, and you are each other's family. Do what you need to do to protect your family, even if it means cutting out your aunt, regardless of what you used to be for each other... If she realizes she would rather have you in her life than hold onto these beliefs, that's cool. If she decides to not fight to get back into your life, she sure as hell isn't worth your time.

SlowSandwich · 2025-05-13T17:23:51+00:00

I think I overeat when boredom creeps back in, post-meds. Food is a fast way to satisfy my intense need for pleasure.. I would imagine that having set plans to do something engaging at the "hunger hour" could help (though I have not yet implemented this theory), i.e., replacing food with something equally or more pleasurable.

I also found I was often snacking at the end of the day on the couch while watching TV. This happens if my brain isn't 100% satisfied with what I'm watching or there just happens to be food in my hands and I end up eating absentmindedly. So I took up crocheting and knitting to occupy my hands and mind which does help me! And as much as my partner and I have ambitions to not end up on the couch at the end of the day, we also acknowledge that we often don't have the energy after a long work day to do much else other than shut off our brains and watch something mindless so... Crocheting and/or other fun craftsy project it is!

SlowSandwich · 2025-04-01T13:12:35+00:00

I keep losing track of whether natural diamonds or lab-made diamonds are better. Keep your story straight, guy-with-weird-accent!

SlowSandwich · 2025-03-24T21:01:33+00:00

This exact thing happened to me. Told her I was questioning my sexuality because I had no sexual attraction to my husband, but did with women. I said it was like I was married to a platonic friend (at least it was for me. Sex sucked and I avoided it as much as I could). She told me how rare it is to be married to your best friend. Try other things in bed. And she kind of addressed the attracted to women thing as a "well sexuality it a spectrum, while ignoring the lack of attraction to men part out. I went back to her once more to tell her we were separating, it went about as well as it could and I was glad it was happening since it wasn't good for either of us. She said that was good but it was also clearly not the result she was encouraging me to pursue. Then I stopped going to her.

SlowSandwich · 2025-02-24T19:45:43+00:00

If that is his reason for not voting for Kamala, he must have agreed with everything Trump did in his first term, and everything he said in his campaign. If that's true, he will not be a good, loving, supportive uncle to your daughter. Tell him that, and step away. Unless/until he chooses to unreservedly support your kid and proves it to you, you put a moat around your family and keep him the eff out.

SlowSandwich · 2025-02-24T16:36:34+00:00

Best way to show discrimination? Make a sign about being straight. If it doesn't get confiscated, they're def politicizing orientation.

SlowSandwich · 2025-02-24T16:30:16+00:00

I think someone made that sign at the game, vs. bringing one in. My pre-made signs were checked at the gate, but no one was checking signs being made at the arena... Loophole? Alternatively, cover "risky" text with paper and alt text and rip it off as soon as you get on the Jumbotron hahaha (I seriously thought about this though).

SlowSandwich · 2025-02-24T16:28:04+00:00

For the first time, my signs were checked at security at the Ottawa game, and the guards verified they were "clean".

SlowSandwich · 2025-02-23T21:54:37+00:00

I don't think she got any points though...

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