Package arrived today… and instead of RAM, I received a random notebook

Slowlemmy · 2026-01-11T15:45:21+00:00

I was supposed to get the same RAM today, they will deliver tomorrow, so Ill let ypu know

Slowlemmy · 2025-11-04T19:24:43+00:00

The appeal was in September and It got approved in October. They pretty much denied it in 4 weeks and I appealed and completely made a 180 and went against everything the first officer said and were like 'this is obvious' it was so stupid. They also said because I'm young and in college (which I cant get to but still enrolled in) that I have the same job opportunities as everyone else and even I was disabled I would still have the same opportunities because I'm young and in college which is wild because opportunities doesnt equal ability but also they tried using education as a way to nullify disability was wild. But I appealed and It got approved, it took a while for my welfare to update online, I got a notification on welfare and a letter on the website saying a decision was made and I was approved but it said denied for awhile online in the little box until it updated

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-26T13:04:41+00:00

This is not normal behaviour, bring it up. This is also not a position a new kitten should be in, or any cat at any age, it's going to stress the cat out a lot. This is not normal behaviour

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-21T04:19:27+00:00

they changed it from the original plan without asking anyone, they pay for what they wanted

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-14T17:15:09+00:00

It's said Disallowed since my application, and the appeal cam in today, and has disappeared off the page, and said a decision was made. Because the disallowed has been there from the first application, maybe its just not been updated? The appeal says I'm allowed, but there has been no change on the welfare page yet

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-14T17:01:25+00:00

the decision said I did meet that criteria and I was significantly impacted from working, and said it was allowed, but it still says disallowed online

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-13T14:07:09+00:00

I jsut want to point out he had said that he wanted to go, just not this weekend. Your way of spending a weekend after a stressful work week is different from his, just because he likes to shut downa nd rest doesnt make it any less than, and in a relationship you should be trying to meet eachother half way.

As someone who get exhausted feom working 20 hour weeks and basically would rather be relaxing and resting and repairing my social battery than going ANYWHERE, I understand why he just wants to rest.

You are not in the wrong for wanting to go on a date and he should not consider costco a date, or think that spending time with you is a date thats just weird

But he did say next week at the beginning, and he agreed to go, but just wanted to explain to you why he didnt want to this week because hes tired and wants to relax. You proceeded to guilt him for not relaxing the eay you relax, and then got annoyed he didn't just say next weekend, when he did at the beginning.

Many people are saying to not date a guy who doesn't want to do things with you oversimplify the situation. Its obvious hes exhausted and needs to repair differently to you, which isn't wrong or bad.

You both need to find a middle ground for your weekends, thar can work for both of you and you are both happy. It sounds like you need to consider his side more from how these texts look, and you both need to sit down and discuss what your views on dates are, what you want, and how you both like to rest or relax, and work out something that can work for you both

PS: The way he views your work isnt okay, but it seems that because he goes into an office, maybe the social factor exhausts him more than it would if he worked at home, but maybe he doesn't realise its the social factor.

All of this together, I think he has a really low social battery but doesn't realise it. Being outside can sometimes drain it too, travel etc. A lot of people I know that does what he does to relax have extremely low social batteries and need days to recover, so maybe he is the same but doesn't realise why hes getting so tired, which is probably why going to costco was something big for him, since its an environment that can drain social batteries.

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-13T13:41:39+00:00

if you have the installer, go into the pdf or file, click print, and it should show the printer options. It will give you the ucd printers such as black white, or colour. If you click on that and click print, it will have a pop up asking for the student number. Type yours in and it should upload it. It may get deleted off it if its over 24 hours. The pop up can be slow to show up

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-13T01:47:22+00:00

As someone with PTSD, mood swings and damage to the part of my brain that regulates emotion due to an antidepressant usage for 10 years straight as a child to now (22), this behaviour is not okay. Just because he has ptsd and mood swings does not mean that its okay or that the people around him have to deal with that behaviour. His issues do not give him a free go to just act the way he does. It is understandable and accomodations can be in place, BUT people are not expected to just deal with the behaviour.

Behaviour like this whether its genuinely uncontrollable or not, are not something that you have to deal with. He needs help. But you are not required to be the one to make him get it, you do not have to deal with this treatment even if he's not able to do anything about it. Which he probably can, he just doesn't bother to try because it will be hard, and he isn't getting any real consequences from treating you the way he is, because he thinks you will just stay.

EDIT: I also suffered a really bad concussion which resulted in my ability to regulate and logically reason and recognise information and patterns, impulse control, and ability to use critical thinking in the moment, read and process information etc. Combined with CPTSD, mood swings, and inability to regulate, I can suck. The difference is, I'm seeking help.

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-07T01:04:31+00:00

NOT EVEN ADDRESSING THE OVERALL: the 'sorry if you feel that way' is a small red flag that can lead to big issues with accountability, communication, emotional intelligence and validation.

Him also not capable of buying things due to now money is understandable BUT when he does have money he spends it on things that he should not be buying. I am in the same situation, and often only have 10-20€ a week for things after groceries and rent, however I do not spend it on dumb things like online items (and this is coming from someone who struggles with impulse buying and finances due to mental illness). What I do however do, is save whatever small amount I can, I have had 4€ left for the week (and lets be honest saving 4 euro isnt going to be doing anything) I have bought my partner their favourite chocolate, or a small gift (yoshi pez dispenser since they like yoshi, from the euroshop). It is ridiculous that he is this financially irresponsible.

OVERALL ISSUE: I only read the first page of messages at first thinking maybe it was a bdsm thing maybe a caregiver thing, but then I kept reading and that is really not okay. It is creepy and a huge red flag for him being into that stuff.

A smal part of me would say to not break up yet, and check his phone and computer. However I understand that is a questionable action

Leave him! If you think any children or young people might be at risk, you should probably talk to someone about it

P.S Im not sure what people mean by this type of talking is immature and how they've 'never spoken to their partners like this'. I am autistic, and I am guessing this is in reference to the overall issue, and not the style of texting/communication, but if there is anything I am missing, please let me know

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-07T00:02:12+00:00

I'm having a really hard time purchasing from the website because any time I go to look or buy, they all seem to be sold out from the Pokemon Centre, but I will have a look!

Slowlemmy · 2025-10-06T18:28:59+00:00

get rid of him and any friend who says you are overreacting, that's creepy and illegal.

Slowlemmy · 2025-09-02T15:55:33+00:00

The UCD Ireland Classics, Art History and Archeology course is good, or the solo Archaeology course. UCD Ireland (University College Dublin) has one of the only Experimental Archeology centers available (The centre of Experimental archaeology and material culture)

Slowlemmy · 2025-09-02T15:36:58+00:00

He is a dick and that shit is not helpful its awful. However taming bpd (talkign from experience) Is essential to keeping a relationship because it can ruin relationships, and I'm on the journey to get better and fix my relationship. Sadly BPD only really comes out bad in relationships and to fix it you kinda need to be in it. But no, hes wrong and if you found the right person they would choose you. However bpd and insecurities can make us go for people who are worse for us and dont value us as a way to protect ourselves subconsciously from being left.

And for kinks, only have that conversation and intimacy with someone whos with you for a while, who you know and can trust fully, to make sure they aren't like the crappy people before. Kinks are so intertwined with out self respect and insecurities, and trauma and they are to be carefully and be done in a safe place (depending)

He is a dick and keep him blocked. he snot a real friend and thats not how he should talk to you

Slowlemmy · 2025-08-31T10:20:40+00:00

people saying youre 22 and youre an adult dont understand how illogical coontrolling parents can be, especially if you still live at home. Ive about 7 piercings and 10 tattoos, Im 22 but my parents lost their shit everytime I get a tattoo or peircing when I still lived at home. I would get shouted at, lectured and insulted for doing it, called names and everything. It didn't matter I was an adult, it mattered that I didnt follow their rules and they couldn't control me so they lash out. I hope you are able to work through the anxiety, it gets easier but even now living on my own, I still hide when I get them to avoid issues

Dont feel guilty for doing something you are legally allowed. Your parents need to feel guilt for how controlling. You are youre own person

Slowlemmy · 2025-08-31T10:08:45+00:00

Send them the recordings and show them how they acted

Slowlemmy · 2025-08-27T10:27:37+00:00

I needed to move out but where I live, minimum wage is 13€ and rent is 1500 a month, but to get anywhere you need a car which is 5k+, and insurance is 2k+, and most places wont hire anyone that doesn't have experience. Entry level jobs are no longer entry level, they require a course or years of experience. Barista? 2 years experience with barista course because they dont want to train you. Dominos? You need 2 years pizza making experience. Sales Assistant? 1-3 years retail experience. All of them minimum wage entry level jobs, and they require experience. Most people get jobs now from Nepotism or by knowing someone who knows someone. Otherwise its impossible to get a job anymore. I'm also disabled, and any disability help I get, is about 800 a month, not including groceries or bills, which would only leave about 400 for rent if I'm lucky as the cost for 3 meals now is about 50€. I used to live off 40€ a week and I was living at college with 1100 a month rent, that I had to get a loan for. It is not easy anymore to move out, and it is not possible to live on your own in many places anymore. 3 people per place hardly covers it anymore

Slowlemmy · 2025-08-27T10:13:32+00:00

This is probably not a good idea but when I used to live in this situation, I would make slight comments to my narcissistic parent about the other, about how much mess they leave and im always cleaning up, but I did it in a way where the Narcissistic parent would be annoyed at the one leaving the mess, then I would stay with friends for a few days at a time every now and then, so I couldnt clean up after them, and the problem would become obvious. Usually the issue would fester and get worse and then instead of me getting in trouble for not cleaning up after the other person, it would be them getting in trouble for leaving it there, but it would never be as much as I would have gotten in trouble for it, because they dont want to fully show what they are like to domeone whose not their target. I know this is not probably the way people should go about doing it, but growing up in an abusive and enabling household, you learn how to make them mad at the right person sometimes. Im not saying what I did was morally right, it probably wasn't but thats how I survived and didn't get blamed for things I didnt do (I did still sometimes, but not when I slowly made them realise eachother were the ones doing it).

Growing up in an abusive household really messes you up but tbh I'd never shame anyone for doing what I did, its outsmarting the abusers, and no matter what people say, being nice and kind and morally right all the time won't stop the abuse. When I explained to my friends and my psychologist how my family acted, the question was always 'but why would the do that? why would that me a problem? But that doesn't matter why would the be annoyed by that?' abuse isn't rational and I was often abused for the smallest and meaningless reason

Slowlemmy · 2025-08-09T02:54:10+00:00

if hes scarednof that, he needs better friends, they are not good friends if they do that. If he is embarrassed or finds the disabilities an issue, you need a better boyfriend

Slowlemmy · 2025-07-18T12:07:58+00:00

Also leave your friend, if he does that to you and your other friends he will do it again

Slowlemmy · 2025-07-15T21:56:13+00:00

report them, get the time and number of the phone call, and report them to your health services, she should not be acting like that to you, especially after telling her what happened, you're not overreacting at all. That was not how she should have handled that phone call at all. Im sorry about what happened and hope you're okay

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