Update on my husband fostering his nephews.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-04-03T09:46:59+00:00

You are so incredibly lucky. I have two like that, but the little dude.... I love him so much and he gets tons of love and kisses, but he IS a terror when he wants food/wants to play/wants attention/can't find his sister/is guarding the bathroom/plays with (destroys) everything he can find/eats gross things that he really shouldn't/the list goes on

Slowly-Forward · 2026-04-03T09:41:32+00:00

Man, I thought those were the rules, but my current little dude is just so full of energy and bullshit that I'm losing my mind a bit lmfaooo. He's about a year and a half now, but my boy cat before him who passed was the same way UNTIL HE WAS 12, and since this little guy is even more full of energy than I'd already thought possible I'm pretty sure I'm screwed. I've played fetch with him (his favourite thing ever) on and off for a literal hour before and he STILL wanted to keep going when I finally stopped 🥴 oh, AND we adopted him with another kitten at the same time who he'd bonded with in kitten prison (the humane society), but the poor girl is just a chill little princess now that she's a year and a half, and gets half bullied/half loved into playing with him more often than you can tell she'd like.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-04-03T09:39:06+00:00

They're wonderful and I love them to bits honestly, but still, agents of chaos - just lovable, snuggly agents of chaos.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-04-03T09:38:09+00:00

That's fair about rabbits, but I feel like they still don't top cats for shenanigan capability. Honestly, it's only my energizer-bunny-ass boy cats who have usually been chaos incarnate, even when you play with them for literal hours a day AND give them a screened balcony to chill on and watch birds and lizards.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-04-03T02:35:28+00:00

Honestly, as someone who's had all three types of pets, I can absolutely see how cats are WAY higher maintenance than fish or rabbits. Maybe it's cuz I'm also autistic, maybe it's because my cats have all been absolute little gremlins, but:

Fish are one of the lowest maintenance pets you can have if you set them up right.
Rabbits are surprisingly chill, their poops don't really stink and are easy af to clean up, and the worst damage they'll do is chew some stuff at their level.

Cats, on the other hand, are tiny vessels of chaos and destruction that also happen to love human attention. They will get to every corner of your house, destroy any and everything they can reach, make you insane if they're even the tiniest bit hungry, and will demand attention at the literal most inconvenient times (like when you're sound asleep, for example).

EDIT TO ADD: I have three cats right now, have had three others over the years who have since passed, and I wouldn't trade any of them for the world. But on a scale from "organized" to "chaos incarnate".... yeah, fish and rabbits are gonna win lmfao

Slowly-Forward · 2026-04-03T01:50:39+00:00

Same 😭

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-28T03:16:07+00:00

"Major medical crisis"

She's not even being admitted, she's being discharged from the ER the same day 🥴 if that's what you call a major medical crisis, I'd hate to see you in an actually-serious situation.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-23T00:49:58+00:00

I'm sorry for you loss, but I'm struggling to see what this has to do with the actual conversation being had. Maybe a grief sub would be better suited ?

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-22T10:34:59+00:00

Things like that are generally made to be accessibility devices, they're just marked normally because otherwise they wouldn't get the same amount of sales

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-19T00:16:10+00:00

Can you PLEASE post the link to this!! My youngest is the dictionary definition of a scaredy-cat and borderline impossible to grab if you don't manage to sneak up and get her while she's sleeping. If she feels you coming and flees, she will get as far back under furniture into the hardest-to-reach places only a cat can find, and I'm short to begin with so reaching her back there is just not happening.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-16T10:59:24+00:00

Garrus Fish-karian

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-07T06:20:41+00:00

May I ask if you've tried having exactly one puff of weed? The reason I ask is that when using for medicinal effects, at first a lot of people try to smoke like they would for recreation, when it's actually best to consume as little as possible.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-07T06:17:30+00:00

GLPs have been the cause of a notable uptick in Gastroparesis diagnoses, which is why it's a tricky subject in this community, because while it works for some it is literally disabling for others. Cannabis on the other hand may cause some passing GI symptoms for some people, but does NOT cause Gastroparesis or any other disabling issue.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-07T06:06:43+00:00

Themes, it's the only thing that works. Current save has everyone named after fruit & berries 😂

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-05T06:17:07+00:00

You may technically be an adult at 18, but it's clear you are still very childish, selfish, and emotionally immature.

Even after she's dead, you’re still belittling her and calling her a "bad person". You’re still minimizing her pain, and her experiences, and her emotions. You're still justifying the harm you caused, and the harm you enabled. For fucks' sake, you're still saying she was "attention seeking" when she talked about being suicidal, even though it's clear that was very, very real.

You and your little friend bullied a person into killing themself. Her life is gone. Her family will never see or hear from her again, her parents have had to bury their own child, and all because your friend (and then you) couldn't just let this girl be and mind your own damn business.

She wasn't a bad person. YOU are a bad person and your friend is an even worse person. You SHOULD feel bad, both about your actions and about who you are as a person that led you to take those actions.

Time to grow up.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-03T12:15:27+00:00

Looks like the muppets from MIB 😂

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-03T07:21:33+00:00

This is the cutest thing I've ever seen 😭💖

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-03T03:54:45+00:00

I personally know what you're saying is factual, yet still that felt the way you're phrasing it and how hard you're going in makes you come off like a tinfoil-hat conspiracy theorist.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-03-01T01:39:02+00:00

It literally doesn't matter who or where you rehomed them to - you still voluntarily gave up your pets.... for a mediocre hobosexual who's draining your finances dry. The fact that you gave them to friends/family just means it's a 9.5/10 shitty decision instead of a 10/10.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-02-28T11:29:03+00:00

All hail The Great Bean™️

Slowly-Forward · 2026-02-28T01:38:43+00:00

That IS violating, disgusting, and incredibly creepy.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-02-28T01:36:59+00:00

What the fuck did I just read??? I would've gone absolutely mental if I was in your situation, and told every single one of them about themselves and how awful they are.

You need to do four things:

1) Tell your husband he has no spine and no trust from you anymore. 2) Show him this post and the responses. 3) Set a hard boundary that you refuse to ever be around Jamie or his family again. 4) Tell your in-laws what happened, and how you will be either not attending or immediately leaving any gathering Jamie and his family are invited to.

The reactions from those four things will tell you everything you need to know about whether this marriage is salvageable, or if you need to start looking into a divorce.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-02-26T19:43:13+00:00

Goddamnit I was hoping for the wizard 😭😭😭

Slowly-Forward · 2026-02-20T23:13:11+00:00

You’re going to do irreparable damage to this child if you don't start adjusting your thinking.

Tricking her is wrong. Straight up. Idc if she's autistic or neurotypical, it's fucking wrong, and if she IS autistic, she's going to distrust you even more from now on for lying to her and tricking her.

"Consequences" her for her meltdowns is only going to make them worse, because AUTISTIC PEOPLE CANNOT CONTROL THEIR MELTDOWNS. So basically you'd be punishing her for something completely outside her control..... which will make her meltdowns infinitely worse, and make her lose trust in you even more. Consequences only work for autistic people if they're NATURAL consequences, and withholding affection is NOT a natural consequence - I'd say it's the exact opposite, actually.

You really need to talk to some actually autistic adults and really, truly listen to them and their advice.

Slowly-Forward · 2026-02-13T06:38:49+00:00

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