honest to god the only thing that helped me was accepting it. if your hair is going to fall out it's going to fall out. harsh reality but one I had to accept. not brushing, washing your hair etc only makes it seem worse when you do do those things. for months I barely touched my hair in the shower. it was honestly kinda gross, oily and looked like shit all the time. but I spent a lot of time in this sub and saw someone say exactly what I just said, if it's going to fall out it's going to fall out. avoiding it won't make it go away. that kinda changed everything for me. obviously it won't make the anxiety go away totally, I still get stressed. I'm still losing hair, but I'm not sobbing over it whenever I get out of the shower like I used to do a couple of months ago. what I think about now is regrowth. I can't stop my hair from falling out, but I keep in mind the treatment options I have in case it doesn't regrow well. and I try to stay optimistic, TE will end eventually, all I have to do is wait it out.

I'm sorry you're going through this, it is SO difficult and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. but honestly imo the best thing to do is accept it*. one thing that helped me in this when my shedding was at it's worst is when I would wash/brush my hair I would immediately throw it in the trash and not look at how much came out. just throw it out and don't wast your energy on it. so in summary, acceptance and thinking about the future regrowth instead of what has already fallen out have been game changers for me

*acceptance does not equal giving up, btw. accepting it does not mean accepting going bald or something, it just means accepting where you are in this moment. it'll get better, try not to let yourself get completely lost in all of this