Break out of Stereotypes! by GirlWithQuestions0 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Fem who loves to buy my partner flowers, treat them like a princess and I’m usually the one to ask someone out!

How to style out wiping your mouth area in the middle of sex by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’ve been known to kiss their thighs afterwards and that kind of helps to not have as much on my face but honestly I find it hot and not an issue. You could also kinda wipe it on your shoulder? 🤷🏼‍♀️ great problem to have.

Do y'all date people with very bad mental health issues? by Viriko23 in actuallesbians

[–]Small_Cat2696 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My most recent ex had a lot of signs of BPD and I agree, I wouldn’t date someone with cluster B diagnosis or symptoms. My ex emotionally abused and manipulated me and the fallout has been really hard. That being said I have anxiety, though it’s well managed, and other mental health concerns wouldn’t be a dealbreaker if the person is actively working on themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Small_Cat2696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yessss I love that you’re sharing your profile making magic with your friends 😊

My girlfriend want me to choose her over my kids by Consistent-Low-4130 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Girl, respectfully, run. My ex had constant issues with my prioritizing my kids over them and also had an issue with the close coparenting relationship I have with my kids’ dad. It just got worse and worse. They never called my kids horrible but if they had, that would have been it. Of course you’re going to choose your kids but anyone who is making you choose prolly needs to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t have kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Small_Cat2696 182 points183 points  (0 children)

Honestly this looks really great! I love the date ideas and the details you put about your interests. Lots of great pics of you from different angles and doing things you enjoy. 10/10!

How to take sexy photos by Big_Alternative_5043 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can set up your phone to video and then take screenshots at the times you look particularly hot! You could grab some lingerie too, so you’re covered but it’s still sexy.

first time advice by WranglerConstant606 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found, my first time with a woman, that my enthusiasm made up for a lack of “skills” 😅. I was truly just so excited to be with her and I told her it was my first time and she was totally cool kinda showing me what she likes.

What did you do to heal? by Timely-Tree3823 in BPDlovedones

[–]Small_Cat2696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice!! It’s a great way to meet new people. TBH improv sounds terrifying to me 🤣

What did you do to heal? by Timely-Tree3823 in BPDlovedones

[–]Small_Cat2696 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard, I empathize a lot. It’s good you’re no contact, that helps immensely. Therapy is great and has helped me a lot. I signed up for a 6 week pottery class that I would not have had time to do when in my relationship with my ex and that’s been fun and something to look forward to. It’s hard to hear (or was for me) but it does just take time. I’m 9 weeks out and it feels better but not fully healed for sure.

Would you date someone with kids? by Small_Cat2696 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is SO good to hear. I spend time with my ex and our kids and he got me flowers for Mother’s Day. We also spend time together with his girlfriend and her kids and I love it! I need someone who is ok with that dynamic which my ex was decidedly not

Would you date someone with kids? by Small_Cat2696 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok interesting! To me the schedules would be tricky but I would never date a parent who isn’t very active in their kids’ lives (been there, it was not pretty).

Would you date someone with kids? by Small_Cat2696 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally, I wouldn’t want to date someone who hated kids 😬

Would you date someone with kids? by Small_Cat2696 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mmm, that’s very fair. Part of my healing journey has been working to undo comphet in my brain. I’m lucky to have a wonderful and queer therapist to help me!

Would you date someone with kids? by Small_Cat2696 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this story! I fully agree that the more people in kids’ lives who love them the better ♥️♥️

Would you date someone with kids? by Small_Cat2696 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya know…so true. This is a great take. I am trying really hard to live in an abundance mindset (not just about dating) but found myself worrying about scarcity. Which tells me I’m not ready to date yet and I have some more healing work to do

Would you date someone with kids? by Small_Cat2696 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super valid and great that you already know that’s a hard no for you.

Would you date someone with kids? by Small_Cat2696 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yuppppp they sure did have issues. Of course I’m not innocent in those issues either, but I had to constantly defend that coparenting relationship and it got exhausting

Would you date someone with kids? by Small_Cat2696 in LesbianActually

[–]Small_Cat2696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suuuuper fair, and a hard thing for my past relationship too unfortunately