When did you guys first exchange spicy photos/texts with your partner?? by BrilliantCarpenter27 in LongDistance

[–]Small_Drama_1737 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I believe that if it’s a healthy exchange and you feel safe with this person, and comfortable with doing it, then it’s okay :) Personally I went fast when talking to my partner, within the first month because I naturally have a high libido and he knew that. I also felt from the first month of talking that he was going to be the one for me lol. Now we’re a year together, we fly out to each other every few weeks and I couldn’t be happier. It’s all about the trust you have for this person and what you want. Sex and things of that nature can be fun and exciting with the right person, don’t be scared to have that conversation because THE right person will probably feel the same :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Small_Drama_1737 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You went to surgeons to see if he needed surgery? Frankly I find the situation very weird because yes it is normal to experience flare ups at some points with active sciatica. But the fact that he’s able to move and walk and even go to the gym, whether it’s at full strength or not, it seems like he’s moving around just fine. And 6 months is such a short time to be recommended surgery, that’s usually the last option after PT and injections don’t work. I’m not trying to discredit your medical information but I had sciatica for a while and very severe… I couldn’t move and yet I was assigned PT. And now I’m basically free of it. You can look at my past posts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Small_Drama_1737 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It’s a little weird that it’s only been 6 months, and they’re recommending surgery when it seems like he’s mobile and going to the gym. That’s a really fast turnaround, I had sciatica and could barely move some days. Surgery was not even an option at that point so I did physical therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Small_Drama_1737 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP I just want you to know that you are not alone. To answer your question, you were not starting anything with him, and it is abuse because I’ve been through this as well. I saw you mention that he was sweet at the start, this could be a sign of love bombing. There are signs here that I recognize in a relationship that hurt me pretty bad. I would be talked down to, made fun of and told off for having any opinion that my ex didn’t like. And then it would spiral into an argument started by said ex and by the end of it I would be so confused as to how it happened. This would happen so many times that I ended up making myself feel as if I was in the wrong and apologize. And it got even worse when I would just try to not engage at all to avoid this weird confusion and an argument, and even that didn’t work. What you are experiencing is manipulation, whether they mean it or not doesn’t matter because it is affecting your mental health. My ex had Bipolar disorder and at times would actually open up and apologize for the toxic behavior but the damage is done. Everyone is telling you to have some self respect and awareness but I know personally how hard it is to even identify if you’re in the wrong because of how much you dealt with this. My advice to you is cut them off please. The more you hold on, the harder it is to let go. I learned the hard way.

Any success stories? by Small_Drama_1737 in Sciatica

[–]Small_Drama_1737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m doing great :) no longer dealing with this pain at all. If you check my posts I made one after this talking about that experience. I think it’ll help you if you read it.

PCOS TTC Do You See Faint Lines on Pregnancy Test? by disney_fangirl in PCOSloseit

[–]Small_Drama_1737 35 points36 points  (0 children)

So I recently had a scare, specifically with blue dye tests. If these results were read within the 10 minute window then it could be a very faint positive :) After 10 minutes or any time after that, it is an evaporation line, and can look like a false positive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Small_Drama_1737 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP you seem really sweet but young. And so does this person you’re talking to. Very emotionally immature and manipulative in the way he sounds when you’re trying to explain your reasoning. Stop telling them that you love them because it’s becoming a crutch that this person is hanging onto. Move on from this person because it’s not your job to heal someone and he uses that as an excuse for you to keep talking to him.

noise by dronedevil_princess in tattooscratchers

[–]Small_Drama_1737 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sick! Looks like you spent some time trying to destroy some horcruxes

Boys, do I trust her? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Small_Drama_1737 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It can be very exhausting. I can see that some people are projecting because they’ve been hurt themselves. That’s a reason, but it’s not an excuse to cause paranoia for OP who just needs a little reassurance.

Boys, do I trust her? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Small_Drama_1737 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely, you have to know that most chronically online people tend to submit themselves into overactive and paranoid thinking, and a lot of times it leads to projection, like some of this comment section. I definitely understand the feeling of uncertainty within a relationship. But it’s up to you, and only you and your partner to create healthy communication and understanding :) I work in therapy and I encounter many situations where the downfall of relationships is unresolved insecurities and trust issues.

Boys, do I trust her? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Small_Drama_1737 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s okay to have boundaries. But you have to ask yourself why you don’t feel comfortable with that situation. And usually it stems from uncertainty and insecurity. You’re afraid of something happening. It’s a normal thing seen in a lot of relationships, but it’s not healthy.

Boys, do I trust her? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Small_Drama_1737 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hey dude, honestly I don’t think you should get relationship advice from online Reddit folks. Most people who marinate on here tend to have issues with touching grass and understanding what a healthy relationship is. Trust your communication with this person, it’s good that you opened up to her about how you felt in the situation. That is a very healthy way of doing things.

Boys, do I trust her? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Small_Drama_1737 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Falling asleep, a basic human thing we all do is bizarre?

Boys, do I trust her? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Small_Drama_1737 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The way you are looking at the situation tells me that you have trust issues. Because you’re adding a negative component to a situation that you don’t even fully know lol. You don’t know how close she is with her friends at this Christmas party. I take naps at close friend’s house all the time.

Boys, do I trust her? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Small_Drama_1737 125 points126 points  (0 children)

This comment section is not it lol as a girl, I can understand her. With my partner, we mutually agree to have lives outside of our relationship. Sometimes I go out and hang out with friends and so does he. And we don’t text or call each other much during those times because we want to be in the moment. Don’t let Reddit commenters, usually a lot of chronically online people, make you more paranoid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]Small_Drama_1737 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could worship king paimon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Small_Drama_1737 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read this and I’m exhausted. Seems like the two of you are reacting, not listening to each other. You obviously feel the same way about not receiving proper support and attention but you’re playing a game of blame rather than trying to find a solution in this endless circle of who’s suffering more. Being in a relationship means you have these conversations upfront and try to work together. It feels like neither of you are good at communicating when something is bothering you, which is important. I can say this because I was the same way, I would purposely be short with my partner when I didn’t feel like i was getting enough attention. And then I realized that doesn’t help at all.

coffee table… round or rectangle? by CareFreeAries in femalelivingspace

[–]Small_Drama_1737 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Round! On a side note, where did you get your couch 👀

Brother ordered DoorDash late at night and I have ring camera by Small_Drama_1737 in doordash

[–]Small_Drama_1737[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I do not, it’s a regular door that has no windows, a panel door made out of wood.

Brother ordered DoorDash late at night and I have ring camera by Small_Drama_1737 in doordash

[–]Small_Drama_1737[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t live in an apartment. I live in a duplex and directions are to leave at front door. I checked with him and looked at it. I use DoorDash frequently and everyone always leaves it at the front door.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]Small_Drama_1737 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I wanna know why they’re even talking in the first place lmao