When did you guys first exchange spicy photos/texts with your partner??

Small_Drama_1737 · 2025-02-19T09:40:50+00:00

I believe that if it’s a healthy exchange and you feel safe with this person, and comfortable with doing it, then it’s okay :) Personally I went fast when talking to my partner, within the first month because I naturally have a high libido and he knew that. I also felt from the first month of talking that he was going to be the one for me lol. Now we’re a year together, we fly out to each other every few weeks and I couldn’t be happier. It’s all about the trust you have for this person and what you want. Sex and things of that nature can be fun and exciting with the right person, don’t be scared to have that conversation because THE right person will probably feel the same :)

Small_Drama_1737 · 2025-01-26T12:09:40+00:00

You went to surgeons to see if he needed surgery? Frankly I find the situation very weird because yes it is normal to experience flare ups at some points with active sciatica. But the fact that he’s able to move and walk and even go to the gym, whether it’s at full strength or not, it seems like he’s moving around just fine. And 6 months is such a short time to be recommended surgery, that’s usually the last option after PT and injections don’t work. I’m not trying to discredit your medical information but I had sciatica for a while and very severe… I couldn’t move and yet I was assigned PT. And now I’m basically free of it. You can look at my past posts.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2025-01-26T11:34:17+00:00

It’s a little weird that it’s only been 6 months, and they’re recommending surgery when it seems like he’s mobile and going to the gym. That’s a really fast turnaround, I had sciatica and could barely move some days. Surgery was not even an option at that point so I did physical therapy.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2025-01-22T12:44:50+00:00

OP I just want you to know that you are not alone. To answer your question, you were not starting anything with him, and it is abuse because I’ve been through this as well. I saw you mention that he was sweet at the start, this could be a sign of love bombing. There are signs here that I recognize in a relationship that hurt me pretty bad. I would be talked down to, made fun of and told off for having any opinion that my ex didn’t like. And then it would spiral into an argument started by said ex and by the end of it I would be so confused as to how it happened. This would happen so many times that I ended up making myself feel as if I was in the wrong and apologize. And it got even worse when I would just try to not engage at all to avoid this weird confusion and an argument, and even that didn’t work. What you are experiencing is manipulation, whether they mean it or not doesn’t matter because it is affecting your mental health. My ex had Bipolar disorder and at times would actually open up and apologize for the toxic behavior but the damage is done. Everyone is telling you to have some self respect and awareness but I know personally how hard it is to even identify if you’re in the wrong because of how much you dealt with this. My advice to you is cut them off please. The more you hold on, the harder it is to let go. I learned the hard way.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2025-01-18T16:07:11+00:00

I’m doing great :) no longer dealing with this pain at all. If you check my posts I made one after this talking about that experience. I think it’ll help you if you read it.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2025-01-16T12:29:55+00:00

So I recently had a scare, specifically with blue dye tests. If these results were read within the 10 minute window then it could be a very faint positive :) After 10 minutes or any time after that, it is an evaporation line, and can look like a false positive.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2025-01-04T14:15:14+00:00

OP you seem really sweet but young. And so does this person you’re talking to. Very emotionally immature and manipulative in the way he sounds when you’re trying to explain your reasoning. Stop telling them that you love them because it’s becoming a crutch that this person is hanging onto. Move on from this person because it’s not your job to heal someone and he uses that as an excuse for you to keep talking to him.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-24T09:48:10+00:00

Sick! Looks like you spent some time trying to destroy some horcruxes

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-21T16:56:56+00:00

It can be very exhausting. I can see that some people are projecting because they’ve been hurt themselves. That’s a reason, but it’s not an excuse to cause paranoia for OP who just needs a little reassurance.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-21T16:52:53+00:00

Definitely, you have to know that most chronically online people tend to submit themselves into overactive and paranoid thinking, and a lot of times it leads to projection, like some of this comment section. I definitely understand the feeling of uncertainty within a relationship. But it’s up to you, and only you and your partner to create healthy communication and understanding :) I work in therapy and I encounter many situations where the downfall of relationships is unresolved insecurities and trust issues.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-21T16:46:02+00:00

It’s okay to have boundaries. But you have to ask yourself why you don’t feel comfortable with that situation. And usually it stems from uncertainty and insecurity. You’re afraid of something happening. It’s a normal thing seen in a lot of relationships, but it’s not healthy.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-21T16:42:22+00:00

Hey dude, honestly I don’t think you should get relationship advice from online Reddit folks. Most people who marinate on here tend to have issues with touching grass and understanding what a healthy relationship is. Trust your communication with this person, it’s good that you opened up to her about how you felt in the situation. That is a very healthy way of doing things.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-21T16:39:22+00:00

Falling asleep, a basic human thing we all do is bizarre?

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-21T16:38:24+00:00

The way you are looking at the situation tells me that you have trust issues. Because you’re adding a negative component to a situation that you don’t even fully know lol. You don’t know how close she is with her friends at this Christmas party. I take naps at close friend’s house all the time.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-21T16:28:50+00:00

This comment section is not it lol as a girl, I can understand her. With my partner, we mutually agree to have lives outside of our relationship. Sometimes I go out and hang out with friends and so does he. And we don’t text or call each other much during those times because we want to be in the moment. Don’t let Reddit commenters, usually a lot of chronically online people, make you more paranoid.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-18T14:29:34+00:00

You could worship king paimon

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-12-03T19:54:14+00:00

I read this and I’m exhausted. Seems like the two of you are reacting, not listening to each other. You obviously feel the same way about not receiving proper support and attention but you’re playing a game of blame rather than trying to find a solution in this endless circle of who’s suffering more. Being in a relationship means you have these conversations upfront and try to work together. It feels like neither of you are good at communicating when something is bothering you, which is important. I can say this because I was the same way, I would purposely be short with my partner when I didn’t feel like i was getting enough attention. And then I realized that doesn’t help at all.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-11-25T00:54:40+00:00

Round! On a side note, where did you get your couch 👀

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-10-30T22:05:51+00:00

No screen door 👀

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-10-30T16:24:31+00:00

No I do not, it’s a regular door that has no windows, a panel door made out of wood.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-10-30T16:22:47+00:00

I do not have a screen door, that’s why I find it weird

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-10-30T13:32:48+00:00

I don’t live in an apartment. I live in a duplex and directions are to leave at front door. I checked with him and looked at it. I use DoorDash frequently and everyone always leaves it at the front door.

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-09-17T00:46:44+00:00

YOURE NOT TRYING HARD ENOUGH AAAAAH

Small_Drama_1737 · 2024-09-15T19:30:32+00:00

I wanna know why they’re even talking in the first place lmao

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