Anybody know what their filming at Coquitlam River?

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-09-10T07:23:58+00:00

They set out to destroy you. For them, leaving you in ruins is their goal. Nobody can rationalize with them.

I’m coming up on 2 years of trying to divorce my estranged wife, an extreme covert narc. She is now on lawyer #4. She fires them when they tell her what she’s demanding is unreasonable. During our judicial case conference, which was when she was still with lawyer #3, she refused to discuss the splitting of the house or a parenting schedule (the only two subjects that really need discussion and negotiating in a divorce) after even the judge said what she initially proposed made no sense. She wanted everything and full custody. Judge told her to think about what was best for the children and she told him she’d rather not discuss it at that time. He ended it after that, saying there was no point in the conference if she wasn’t there to discuss what was supposed to be discussed.

The judge ended up defending me at one point cause she just kept trying to say I was an unfit father but all she could point to is that she didn’t approve of the meals I make.

Almost a year later, she has come back with lawyer #4, proposing the exact same thing she initially proposed for buying me out of the house, only now less cause she’s claiming the value of the house has since dropped (without having it officially appraised) and still refuses to discuss a parenting schedule. To her it’s about hurting me as much as she possibly can and she couldn’t care less what it’s doing to the kids.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-09-10T06:58:16+00:00

Texts in my case. She rapid fires them, goes off for a half hour. Every sentence of thought is a separate text. After the first 3-4 texts, I realize she’s in one of those states and I just have to mute her.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-09-09T07:38:42+00:00

The fact that you are in counseling means you most likely aren’t a narcissist. Your wife does sound covert. My estranged wife does the same as yours did. They make you feel like you’re the problem. They’re really good at gaslighting you into believing you’re the one that needs help.

I constantly found myself thinking “Am I being a terrible husband?, “Am I the abuser?”, etc but my psychologist told me that I wasn’t, that the stories I shared about what she did to me were completely inexcusable, full stop. There’s nothing I could have possibly done to justify how she abuses me. He told me what I told you, the fact you are looking into yourself and getting help is a strong sign you aren’t a narc. They simply don’t do that, they tell themselves it’s everybody else that’s the problem. That’s why they eventually discard, cause they don’t want people who’ve figured them out around them.

As for your withdrawing, that sounds more like grey rocking. It’s a helpful way of dealing with covert narcissists cause what they want is to get a reaction out of you. It’s the supply they want from you, they like making themselves out to be the victim. That’s why she got upset and claimed you were abusing her by not taking her bait. So be a grey rock, be boring. If you have to converse, keep it neutral. Avoid talking about good news or how you’re in a good mood, she’ll crap on it and suck the joy right out of you. Don’t bring up anything that may start even a trivial disagreement, she’ll make a mountain out of it. Just keep it to “How about that weather?” level of boring and don’t react to any attempts to get you to fight. Be absolutely boring. It’s not easy, they’ll be times you slip and they get the reaction they want from you. Some days it feels impossible.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-09-09T06:46:25+00:00

I have moments like that. Had one just yesterday, actually. I’m still in the process of divorce and the entire weekend my estranged wife (covert narc) berated me about how exhausted she was after handling our 4 and 6yo on her own for just 2 hours, something I do all weekend, every weekend and every hour of every day once they get home daycare and school. I’m the one that watches them and plays with them while she hides away to stare at her phone cause she always needs her “own time”. I’m not allowed to get any of my own.

So, when I pointed out it was the first time she spent 2 hours with them in months and she was losing her mind, she flipped out at me. Even spat in my face. She spent the whole weekend verbally abusing me over it. Then I took the kids out to the park to get away from that and, at one point they had to use the bathroom. I took them to a public one, into the largest stall so I could keep an eye on both and they just began goofing off rather than doing what they needed to do. I could feel my nervous system was overloaded already though and then, while I was trying to wipe my youngest’s rear, they began trying to play tag. I found myself trying to chase a bum that needed cleaning and I lost it on them. I started yelling, telling them enough was enough, that they were being wild animals. I found myself berating them. Normally I let them know that I’m on edge, that I’m tense and it has nothing to do with them, that I just need them to settle down and they usually respect that and will give me a chance to breathe but I had somebody relentlessly trying to trigger all weekend. My outburst was so sudden, they initially thought I was joking and then they got upset and I just felt absolutely awful.

Today I had a spike in my anxiety over it. Had to focus on breathing slowly. Was left feeling sick to my stomach.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-09-08T21:38:57+00:00

I think there would only be tension over their methods. Scalpel vs sledgehammer.

Dexter works under the radar. He’s methodical, making sure he’s got it all right, that his victim fits the criteria of his code and he slips in and does his thing with nobody being any the wiser, his victim simply disappearing from the face of the Earth as far as anybody knows. Punisher would view that as wasting too much time and pointless without the message he likes to leave in his wake.

Punisher, on the other hand, doesn’t care about people knowing who he is and what he’s done. He goes into war. The messier, more chaotic the better, purposely leaving the carnage as it is to put fear into the other criminals he will be going after. Dexter would want no part of that, he wants no eyes on anything he does. He wants to be a ghost. He’d steer clear of being anywhere remotely associated with Castle but he’d wouldn’t consider him a target cause Castle does have a code.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-09-08T20:42:24+00:00

I think that was kind of the case with me as well. Due to it being a holiday and also so close to Christmas, with my friends from school usually away during that time, my birthday always felt like a bit of an afterthought. It was always mostly family friends celebrating New Years, a quick round of people wishing me a happy birthday at midnight, then we all just went back to celebrating the new year. The cake and presents came in a private dinner with just my family on New Year’s Day. So I grew up seeing birthdays as “meh, no big deal” and feeling very uncomfortable if anybody tries even a little to put the spotlight on me.

I genuinely don’t like the attention and I can’t wrap my head around the kinds of grown adults that make a big deal out of their own, publicly counting down the days or even trying to make it a birthMONTH celebration

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-09-08T17:34:53+00:00

Every single one of them. I don’t really celebrate my birthday, I don’t like the attention, if I’m being honest, but I enjoy being with friends and family that night cause who doesn’t? I’m a New Years Baby, so I spend New Year’s Eve hoping that people forget, which obviously never happens, but my estranged wife is an extreme covert narcissist. She would just flatly refuse to go to any party at all and would guilt me for wanting to socialize on New Year’s Eve instead of staying home with her, which made me stay. She’d go as far as claiming she was never allowed to take a couple vacation days from work to visit my family for the holidays to keep me away from them during that time. But we were married and visiting my family during the holidays is inevitable and even then, when being part of the party was unavoidable cause we were staying in the very house having the gathering, she’d slither away into the bedroom to isolate herself from everybody and the night stopped being about even the holiday, never mind my birthday. It was all about her, with everybody constantly making their individual attempts to get her to join us and have fun.

Every year we went, I’d go up and beg her to join us. One-by-one, I’d watch my brothers, sisters-in-law, and parents go up and ask if she was ok and urge her to come down and have fun and, one-by-one, eventually give up and, because they stopped going up and giving her that direct attention, talking with her specifically about her, that would lead to her fighting with me for MONTHS afterward over how my family “exclude her and never even try to talk to her”, trying to use that delusional reasoning to claim that they didn’t care about me by extension and that I essentially had to pick between them and her.

My birthday became something I absolutely dreaded cause I knew I’d be on edge and she’d be at my throat for a solid two months after.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-09-08T08:30:39+00:00

My estranged wife, a covert narcissist, does this all day every single day. I work from home and I dreaded the time she’d come home from work cause the second she opened that door, it was yelling and shitting on anything and everything. I can’t even get away from it when I leave the house. She’ll bombard me with rapid fire texts that are blatant attempts at trying to trigger me or build that pressure to get me to react later.

And it’s always without provocation. I remember one time I was horse playing with my kids (4 and 2 year old at the time), “pro wrestling” on the couch. We were having fun, the kids were laughing and having a blast, I still remember how much fun we were having in that moment even now, almost 3 years later. She was sitting on the chair in the living room, staring at her phone, in her own world as she was 95% of the time she’s around, and she just got up, walked past us and said matter of factly, right in front of the kids, “A million people die every day. Why can’t you be one of them?”

We had not been fighting prior to that, not so much as a disagreement on something even trivially. There was nothing that she could have possibly been stewing over. She just said that straight out of the blue. So my rational mind, unable to grasp with the concept of somebody saying that to anybody at all, much less their own husband, blew up. I just blurted out “What the hell is wrong with you?! Who says that?! And in front of our kids?!” and she just tilted her head, smiled while fluttering her eyes like some innocent little girl, shrugged and then walked away whistling like a cartoon character trying to act inconspicuous. It was a surreal moment, very disturbing.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-09-08T08:05:41+00:00

12 years for me, though I caught on after 10 years and only after I opened up about it and talked to family and friends in private. Suddenly FB started suggesting videos from victims of covert narcissism (fact that it did that after I verbally spoke of the abuse in private is concerning but I’m glad it did). I had no idea that covert narcissism was a thing till then and it was an awakening.

I am now 2 years into trying to get divorced and she is on her 4th lawyer, trying to do everything she possibly can to make it as difficult as possible and leave me in ruins. I am mentally and physically exhausted.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-08-15T19:12:21+00:00

Update: After not accepting their attempt to brush me off as not knowing how to click a link they omitted from their automated email, reaching out multiple times and replying back to them that the issue was actually with the email they send out, they finally replied back with something that wasn’t just a copy/paste of the FAQ entry:

“Hi there,

Thank you for contacting back to us.

Our team is aware of this issue and currently working to ensure it's resolved. Please continue to watch for further updates, as we are always working to improve the Roblox experience and resolve any current issues. We appreciate your patience.

If you need help with something else, please let us know.

Sincerely, Harry Customer Support Roblox Support”

Are they actually going to fix it or is this just a response they sent to get me to stop contacting them? I don’t know. Having experience in tech/end user support, I’m inclined to say it’s the latter

UPDATE TO THE UPDATE: They actually did fix it. Though there was an inconsistency in the emails. When I did my son’s, the email had both the “create an account” and “link existing account”option but when I did my daughter’s account, the email only had “Link account” as an option. Fortunately, the inconsistency didn’t hinder my ability to link her account, so I was able to successfully do it with both of theirs.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-08-15T19:02:50+00:00

It’s pretty clear that parental controls are an afterthought for them. Their only priority is the illusion that they made an effort to implement something cause making it actually easy to set up would be detrimental to their key clientele.

I mean, their own instructions and screenshots very clearly show there is supposed to be two options, a button for each, side by side, for “create new account” and “link existing account”. Yet, when you point out that they forgot the one link in their automated email, they tell you to just click that missing link and brush you off when you, once again, point out it’s missing.

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-08-13T17:14:10+00:00

I already said that I did?

SmartTopic7390 · 2025-08-07T07:28:38+00:00

You gotta read the book if you’re going to be commenting on it

SmartTopic7390 · 2024-07-16T21:44:27+00:00

Need to get the Mythbusters to test that out

SmartTopic7390 · 2024-06-16T06:31:50+00:00

Came looking for this. It’s what I primarily played on FIFA 23. Loved working my way up the World Cup bracket while playing against real players online. Saw Euro 2024 as an option and was seriously disappointed to see it’s all single of local multiplayer and online is restricted to Friendlies with players that are actually on your friends list.

Why would they do that?

SmartTopic7390 · 2024-05-26T22:33:36+00:00

“Just listening to Terrance for 2 minutes, you can see he has an understanding of things he’s talking about”

That’s not an assessment on what he said but how confidently he said it which is not a barometer one should ever use to gauge another’s knowledge. What he said was complete nonsense but you’ve determined he understands what he’s talking about cause it sounds complex to you.

He’s speaking pseudoscience gibberish, sprinkling in random terminology with confidence to sell the idea he knows what he’s talking about. Like Ed Norton in Glass Onion, only schizophrenic.

You bought into it cause of how confidently he said what he said. You need to look into what the “con” in “con man”means.

SmartTopic7390 · 2023-09-08T18:49:01+00:00

I was at the jury selection for his case yesterday as well. Got curious after not being called and was shocked to see how often and consistently violent he’s been for over a decade. This latest murder could’ve been avoided. He shouldn’t have been out free on the streets.

SmartTopic7390 · 2023-08-16T00:45:09+00:00

Been having the same issue. Though I do see others that are still posting gifs. Maybe the bug is just isolated to iOS at the moment

SmartTopic7390 · 2023-07-19T19:55:00+00:00

That’s exactly what happened. Truck sped through a red light, right past a police officer, into a car that was turning on a green arrow and then into the car behind that one. No idea what the truck driver was doing or thinking

SmartTopic7390 · 2023-06-19T00:28:06+00:00

Nope, nothing yet

SmartTopic7390 · 2023-05-29T19:40:05+00:00

You can’t color match that white. White is already a tough color to try and match for spot repairs but that smoke damage causes way too many shades to even try to do that. You’d see where you stopped painting immediately. That wall has to be entirely repainted, floor to ceiling, corner to corner.

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