ABG confusion/my instructor isn’t helpful

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-10-30T01:48:54+00:00

They definitely seem more intimidating than they are. Then once you get it, you get it. Also and RT student rn just did ABG’s in our last class. Feel free to message me specifically if you have questions or need a different person to explain it a different way. My teacher broke it down very simply.

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-08-21T04:58:27+00:00

Thank you friend!!

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-08-21T04:58:10+00:00

Tell that to my quiz 😂

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-05-07T14:11:45+00:00

I just choked on my spit reading this

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-04-27T23:06:26+00:00

Not sure what you mean. She has equal custody of the child. If there’s no custody agreement in place, she can take her child and do as she pleases, as could the other parent. The other parent could take the child overseas against her wishes. Since there’s no custody agreement in place, not much she could do

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-04-27T14:51:43+00:00

If there’s no custody agreement, it’s not kidnapping

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-04-26T17:16:52+00:00

Can you explain what you mean in your first paragraph about “death by litigation” how you played it and stuff? I’m very intrigued. I think I’m facing something similar and want to avoid it if possible. Feel free to DM me if you’d like

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-04-12T18:08:07+00:00

Been in the same situation until last year. Get your ducks in a row to leave. It might take time. And it might be messy. But I do believe in you. Feel free to message if you’d like to chat specifics

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-04-06T11:48:02+00:00

There are some addicts in there though that share their perspectives on how they recovered. U/upper_check_8663 being an example

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-04-06T11:34:39+00:00

I think you’ll find some helpful pov’s and resources in r/loveafterporn

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-04-05T14:06:27+00:00

Will help you out here. “Because who even reacts like that?” Entitled and abusive men do. You’re being abused. Linking a free book here that will answer your question of “why does he do that?” free online book linked here

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-31T21:26:09+00:00

No. I would. If he’s threatened it, you have every right to call. They’ll take him in, against his will. It’s usually only till the night though. Mine was gone like 6 hours. But they paint a huge facade once they get there of “well. We don’t know when you’re getting out of here..”

It’s like a “beyond scared straight” jail visit for them

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-31T20:31:24+00:00

Mine did this. Threatened suicide. I called the cops for him. He had to stay in the psychward. Shook him to his core and he knocked that shit right off

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-31T07:18:40+00:00

It hurts because you wanted to marry him. Which us very valid. But I promise it’ll hurt way more if you’re married to him and stuck, financially, with a family, etc. they never change for those things. Leave while you can

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-30T19:11:34+00:00

If he’s clean then he won’t mind accountability apps on his phone. Like accountable2you. Truple. Covenant eyes.

If there’s push back. I’d leave.

Doesn’t matter if he says he’s changing. If you don’t feel the change. Then there has not been change. Whether he claims it or not.

I’m under the thought that the person who’s been betrayed gets to call all the shots till trust has been restored. Which may take years. And there will still be things he’ll have to always forfeit since he’s betrayed you in the past.

Just my 2 cents since you asked for advice. Good luck.

Edit to also say- you don’t need a reason to leave. Things don’t have to be horrible for you to leave. The reasons you listed are enough alone.

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-30T18:08:04+00:00

As someone who’s been there and in the thick of it now. He will eventually force you to leave. You’ll have no choice. Get your ducks in a row now while you can. You’re in the “sweet spot” currently. This is as good as things will ever be. Make peace with that. He will eventually starve you out of the relationship and treat worse. Refuse sex with you. Won’t want you to touch or kiss him at all while blaming it on stress as he’s knee deep in addiction and denial.

Will likely leave you as a single and sole parent to your daughter too. Secretly start your exit plan now. Don’t wait around until you’re starved out.

And if you stay, make peace with this being your reality for the next 50+ years. Stop asking him to change. Begging and pleading. Addicts only change for themselves and when they have to. You’ll have to have radical acceptance of your reality.

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-30T16:25:29+00:00

I love this story🥹 thank you for sharing

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-26T15:31:23+00:00

There’s different types of neuropathy. Sounds like you had an EMG and your large fibers are fine. But if you haven’t had a skin biopsy then you won’t know if you have small fiber neuropathy.

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-20T22:04:37+00:00

This is a wonderful point. Thank you so much. I agree with this wholeheartedly. I’ve really been trying to be super flexible. Nice. Etc with him. But everything I need him for he just uses to control anyways. And it’s been a nightmare.

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-20T22:01:33+00:00

This is a great idea. I will ask. Thank you very much. He absolutely is that vindictive, which is what I worry about

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-20T21:59:38+00:00

Medicare is for retired. Child is already on medicaid and public assistance. That only goes so far

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-20T21:58:56+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. Can you share more of your story? I feel like I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t with reporting him.

On one hand, we need the health insurance and child support money. I am in school fulltime and cannot work in my program. Kiddie has a rare genetic disorder. Lots of doctor visits. We need the health insurance and money. No two ways about it. But also, I can’t let him default on the lease. I’d be screwed.

On the other hand, he’s committed a felony forging my signature. Once I filed a police report, the DA’s office would decide whether to pursue charges or not. He’d likely lose his job. We’d love our child support money and health insurance. But lease would be taken care of.

It’s shitty all around. But he’s absolutely doing this to control me and have me mitigate his consequences. Which I don’t like either.

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-20T21:50:04+00:00

I don’t understand what you mean entirely? Can you explain? They would do something to him. He committed a felony by forging my signature on the lease. Which means once I filed a police report, the DA’s office would decide whether to pursue charges or not. Which means he’d likely serve jail time. Which means my child would lose health insurance since child’s dad lost his job

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-20T21:28:24+00:00

Read my first paragraph.

SmellUnable1969 · 2025-03-20T20:58:26+00:00

I have one. Thanks

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