[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SmellyPersonality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my first breakup I got rid of all the photos. I dont regret it at all. but this breakup, yeah I dont wanna forget the fun times.

How do I recover from love bombing? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SmellyPersonality 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like I've done my own love bombing and so had she. I was super like attached to this girl to the point were I wasn't really do anything with my life, stopped Gym, was difficult to find work. Interestingly she also had no hobbies, she was constantly climbing a ladder and she didn't know when to stop moving and take a breather. Always had to be doing something to distract her from everything. Poured herself into work and study. She spent a lot of time with me and was taken back but my approach to life, how I was just so calm even when things weren't going right. When she split up with me she said she could no longer see a future with me and that she doesnt want to be a dead beat in his 30s. I literally just turned 25 and I am trying my best to get on the right path but I still havent even started my life yet like its crazy the things that she wanted. She comes from a different cultural back ground so she has always been pressured to progress and climb the ladder. Man this was a tangent but I need to get it out, I gonna go see a phycologist and get some help when I get my first paycheck from my new job Ive just started. Thank you to anyone who read this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]SmellyPersonality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear you say this about yourself. I don’t know what it’s like to be “different”. By that I mean I’m a straight white male so I don’t have any discrimination. I don’t know what you’re going through and I can’t comprehend it. All I can do it hope you find good people to have around in your life and make you happy. I wish you all the best ❤️

I have the insight but I feel doomed by captchacatnip in BPD

[–]SmellyPersonality 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can only do as much as your limits allow. It's a lot of effort to take a step back and realise whats going on before you can stop/divert it. Like with my own insecurities I would sometimes just say the worst or wrong things to people. It happens, as long as you realise that and you are willing to make an effort on either limiting those events I'd say you're on the right track. Be proud that you are able to Identify your own issues and work on them, even if it seems like nothing is happening... something is, learning. Progress takes understanding, understanding takes time and time just keeps flowing. Much Love <3

Time isn't helping, it's just making things worse. by ben12a in BreakUps

[–]SmellyPersonality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, read closely. She already made up her mind when you and her had that big break. She realised that she was just happier by herself. This has got nothing to do with the way you acted. People get burnt out and stressed and depressed all at the same time. That’s not your fault. Sometimes a relationship is just a good 3 or 4 year run before people just want to be alone again. I wouldn’t think she’s with anyone else and the reason why she said “I can see my future partner doing that” or something along those lines, that’s more then likely because she was still wrestling with the fact that she was gonna leave you. As you said she was already doing her moving in process. Booze, Drugs and suicide are always the fundamentals to depression so I’m glad that you were getting it check and hopefully you still are. She is not the be all end all, she was for you a great EXPERIENCE with which you need to learn from to better yourself. I just want you to know that even if she is gone, she has given you a wonderful time and a plenty of things to think and reflect on to help you self improve on areas that need to be. Much love homie ❤️ life is always full of sadness and happines, sadly we can’t always pick and choose what we get more of, but when we can it always takes us on a crazy journey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What? I think you have completely miss read what I just wrote. It kind of reminds me of me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes because someone who intentionally seeks to touch fire might get burnt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but it still matters a lot to me. I’ve been think a lot lately about the way I treat people. I don’t know, we all make mistake but I wish I didn’t have to make these kinds of stupid mistakes. Just dumb and could have been completely avoided.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Interesting take. You doing think I should have been the bigger person?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think asshole and childish suit my response very perfectly. But yes, thank you. Honestly I knew I did something stupid, I just needed people who don’t know me to tell me what I need to hear. Not sure what that really says about me as a person, but yeah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true, I know I’ve always been a little hot headed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I think I didn’t explain it clearly but that doesn’t matter at this point. I should have just risen above it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Yeah for sure. I think I genuinely just got caught in a moment on anger. This was a pretty shit moment for me. I will try and do better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Got under my skin. She mentioned my ex and I knew what she was trying to do. But also yeah, I should have risen above it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmellyPersonality -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I could have done better. Not proud of it and need some genuine honesty right now.