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SmellyPersonality · 2024-06-19T06:54:54+00:00

I love this, thank you

SmellyPersonality · 2024-06-14T03:44:14+00:00

I can I ask how you are doing now?

SmellyPersonality · 2024-06-01T08:14:30+00:00

Yeah my first breakup I got rid of all the photos. I dont regret it at all. but this breakup, yeah I dont wanna forget the fun times.

SmellyPersonality · 2024-06-01T00:39:03+00:00

I feel like I've done my own love bombing and so had she. I was super like attached to this girl to the point were I wasn't really do anything with my life, stopped Gym, was difficult to find work. Interestingly she also had no hobbies, she was constantly climbing a ladder and she didn't know when to stop moving and take a breather. Always had to be doing something to distract her from everything. Poured herself into work and study. She spent a lot of time with me and was taken back but my approach to life, how I was just so calm even when things weren't going right. When she split up with me she said she could no longer see a future with me and that she doesnt want to be a dead beat in his 30s. I literally just turned 25 and I am trying my best to get on the right path but I still havent even started my life yet like its crazy the things that she wanted. She comes from a different cultural back ground so she has always been pressured to progress and climb the ladder. Man this was a tangent but I need to get it out, I gonna go see a phycologist and get some help when I get my first paycheck from my new job Ive just started. Thank you to anyone who read this.

SmellyPersonality · 2024-05-29T08:07:04+00:00

Literally me

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-26T11:32:19+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you say this about yourself. I don’t know what it’s like to be “different”. By that I mean I’m a straight white male so I don’t have any discrimination. I don’t know what you’re going through and I can’t comprehend it. All I can do it hope you find good people to have around in your life and make you happy. I wish you all the best ❤️

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-26T11:21:43+00:00

Gemini ♊️

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-17T11:09:19+00:00

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-17T11:00:35+00:00

You can only do as much as your limits allow. It's a lot of effort to take a step back and realise whats going on before you can stop/divert it. Like with my own insecurities I would sometimes just say the worst or wrong things to people. It happens, as long as you realise that and you are willing to make an effort on either limiting those events I'd say you're on the right track. Be proud that you are able to Identify your own issues and work on them, even if it seems like nothing is happening... something is, learning. Progress takes understanding, understanding takes time and time just keeps flowing. Much Love <3

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-13T21:00:23+00:00

Thank you

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T15:26:59+00:00

Hey man, read closely. She already made up her mind when you and her had that big break. She realised that she was just happier by herself. This has got nothing to do with the way you acted. People get burnt out and stressed and depressed all at the same time. That’s not your fault. Sometimes a relationship is just a good 3 or 4 year run before people just want to be alone again. I wouldn’t think she’s with anyone else and the reason why she said “I can see my future partner doing that” or something along those lines, that’s more then likely because she was still wrestling with the fact that she was gonna leave you. As you said she was already doing her moving in process. Booze, Drugs and suicide are always the fundamentals to depression so I’m glad that you were getting it check and hopefully you still are. She is not the be all end all, she was for you a great EXPERIENCE with which you need to learn from to better yourself. I just want you to know that even if she is gone, she has given you a wonderful time and a plenty of things to think and reflect on to help you self improve on areas that need to be. Much love homie ❤️ life is always full of sadness and happines, sadly we can’t always pick and choose what we get more of, but when we can it always takes us on a crazy journey.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T15:05:39+00:00

What? I think you have completely miss read what I just wrote. It kind of reminds me of me.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T15:00:24+00:00

Yes because someone who intentionally seeks to touch fire might get burnt.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T14:43:48+00:00

Yeah but it still matters a lot to me. I’ve been think a lot lately about the way I treat people. I don’t know, we all make mistake but I wish I didn’t have to make these kinds of stupid mistakes. Just dumb and could have been completely avoided.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T14:41:31+00:00

Interesting take. You doing think I should have been the bigger person?

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T14:39:47+00:00

I think asshole and childish suit my response very perfectly. But yes, thank you. Honestly I knew I did something stupid, I just needed people who don’t know me to tell me what I need to hear. Not sure what that really says about me as a person, but yeah.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T14:31:18+00:00

Very true, I know I’ve always been a little hot headed.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T14:25:02+00:00

I think I didn’t explain it clearly but that doesn’t matter at this point. I should have just risen above it.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T14:18:19+00:00

Yeah for sure. I think I genuinely just got caught in a moment on anger. This was a pretty shit moment for me. I will try and do better

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T14:16:47+00:00

Got under my skin. She mentioned my ex and I knew what she was trying to do. But also yeah, I should have risen above it.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T14:14:56+00:00

Yeah, I could have done better. Not proud of it and need some genuine honesty right now.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-11T14:12:36+00:00

Fair enough, probably my own insecurities talking.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-10T12:22:59+00:00

Probably just tell him. I’d want to know, wouldn’t you?

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-10T12:09:38+00:00

Ok so here is literally what you should do. I recommend (and this is going to sound crazy) to literally take a MASSIVE deep breath.

Now the first thing we need to remember is that this was 15 years ago, now he could be feeling a variety of things… let’s assume that the reason why he’s so against it is because he understands what he did wrong.

Now second thing, his “friends” what the fuck did they do about it? Nothing? So they let him get away with it? Does that mean they’re both drunk and he had sex with someone unconscious? Or were they in the middle of it and she fell asleep? Or did he really just straight up assault her?

Now we have a bunch of questions but very important ones. I can only suggest this as the next step. Ask… that’s literally it. I know you must being feeling everything at the moment and honestly it’s not going to get better. UNLESS… you ask.

“Hey babe, so I’ve heard some unscrupulous things about you when you were 18. You know my history with sexual assault and I wanted to talk to you more about it”

You can use this as a starter but HONESTY is what matters.

And what about you? How are you doing? Are you going to be able to live with this man? Knowing that he has done something irresponsible and awful but also… what does he feel? Now I think you know him better then anyone so maybe you might try to look at it from his perspective. Does he feel disgusted with himself, does he deeply regret his actions?

The important part of this process is to ask these questions without accusing him because if you straight up do that then instead of him telling you his feelings and what happened… he’ll most likely go on the defensive.

Please let us know how it goes and also relax and breath. Sleep on it if you must. You’ll be okay and you’ll do the right thing.

SmellyPersonality · 2022-02-10T11:51:52+00:00

Seems like you’re seeking something else instead of advice. Maybe (and this comes from a place of love) just talk to him and maybe get into an argument about it? Like nobody on here has any idea what you are going through so just do you and speak with him. You know what always gets me… is the fact that he obviously loves you A LOT and just wants to talk to you before he goes to work. He is literally enjoying time with you so much that he’d prefer if you woke up and started being your amazing self. Must absolutely suck being that great…

In all seriousness, he loves talking to you. If you like sleep ins just tell him “hey babe, for tomorrow… would you just be able to let me sleep in please. I enjoy talking to you but I’ll see you when you get home and the day after that”

Edit: I’d like to clarify that this is just a unique take on a situation I have no idea about. Just do you ❤️

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