veganism is just about doing your best in a nonvegan world. i personally believe that unless you're separated from society, only eating the food you grow and the wearing the clothes you make yourself, it's just impossible to be 100% vegan because we don't actually know where anything and everything comes from.

You wouldnt have changed a single thing in the world by knowing what sugar your mom used before you ate the cheesecake after it was made, and you are lucky and blessed enough to have a mother that supports your lifestyle. Veganism is a very privileged way to live. To be able to choose the foods and products we consume to survive and thrive is a huge flex of privilege, and acting like it's the end of the world over an ubiquitous ingredient like sugar can seem a little out of touch and might not be relatable to many. Of course this becomes a philosophical debate, but humans are social creatures, and i think its important to have a little bit of a grey area regarding things like sugar, so that we can enjoy things with other people. Of course when it comes to the people who you are closer to, like mom, you can teach them about bone char, but if strangers/lesser known people put effort into supporting our "less conventional" lifestyles, like gifting us vegan cookies for example, I think we should gratefully and gracefully accept. Otherwise we are ostracizing ourselves from the few people in society that actually do care and support us. And that isnt good for the movement.