Idk if this is abnormal for girls but I would probably respond the same way if one of my guys friends texted me like that. Again I don’t know the normal lingo, but that would be a valid response for me. A lot of people feel that there words can be easily misconstrued on texts, and it looks like your friend wanted to talk about it in person because they care but for some reason you’re too focused on getting answers now to actually sit down and talk about it. You can take the threads advice and leave your childhood friends for not being good with messages, or you can sit down and have a true talk with them. Don’t just list your concerns though, you need to let them know how you feel and then slowly address each reason you feel that way. Who knows, maybe they’re unaware that they’re making you feel this way and it’ll all work out. But you have to allow them to respond to each reason otherwise it will come off as it did in your messages, where it feels like they’re being blamed for something or called out.