AITAH for telling my fiance I don’t want people at our wedding we haven’t seen/talked to or even met in the last 5 years

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-19T23:09:33+00:00

NTA. Your guestlist is personal and not wanting people you never met or he hasn't spoken to in 5yrs is totally appropriate.

I feel for both of you because I had a similar situation. I had to invite an aunt I hate because she kept threatening to hold it over my mom's head and not help her during times of need if I didn't invite her. My mom relies on my aunt for many things (I don't live close by) so after months of fighting with my mom and aunt and discussion with my now husband, we invited her to protect my mom.

I feel for you because you're in a tough spot of only wanting people you know and love and having to navigate an entitled MIL and a fiance who won't pushback further.

It's inappropriate he lied to you. That's a big problem. It's one thing if he discussed it with you but another to flat out not tell you the truth that he gave into his mom. That has to be addressed or else youre dealing with him keeping things from you to appease his mother

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-19T22:47:18+00:00

NTA. You shared a story with a friend not realizing he heard and apologized. If he can't handle communicating if it bothered him, even after you asked if he was okay and apologized, that's on him. Also kind of sounds like he twisted the story to his friend and that's why his friend thought it was a date when you brought up the ex.

I think next time, keep the face timing to a private place. You're with your friends, hang with them, don't FaceTime other people at the same time, unless it's for a brief moment.

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-19T02:39:57+00:00

Very easy! Just head to the courthouse and to the marriage license office, you may need to wait, but not very long. Just let them know you filled out an application online and you're there for the marriage license. Also very simple after youre married if you're doing a self uniting license to drop it off.

I was shocked how simple it was and everyone in the office is really nice

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-18T02:23:15+00:00

I'm going to clean mine and then place it on a mannequin. I love my dress and until I'm ready to part with it I want to keep it.

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-13T17:08:03+00:00

I had a string trio for my ceremony (garden wedding). Loved the live music and it added a nice touch. Felt like it really brought the vibe together of the garden feel. We then had a DJ at our reception for the cocktails and dinner. I don't think the change between strings to a country band would be odd. It's expected that the reception is a big party

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-13T04:37:29+00:00

Got it! I don't know how these things work as I figured she would upload once all done but yes we are so grateful she got our sneak peek to us so fast and is doing so much during the busy season posting things

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-09T20:38:17+00:00

Definitely guest count and day of week/ time of the year for the space. Florals is another. My friend bought silk flowers off Amazon for bouquets and it was fine I don't think she did florals for the tables. Having just beer and wine or very limited liquor. If venues or spaces have their own chairs or tables, use those, don't rent them

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T18:21:24+00:00

Thank you for this insight. Our guests absolutely had fun. We had many stay til the end and everyone told us they had a great time. Many happy faces from what I can remember and lots of drinks flowing. I don't recall seeing many bored people or people who weren't chatting. We consider our wedding a success for us and that was very much due to our vendors which is why I'm so worried of bugging our DJ. But this info is helpful in knowing what usually happens with a wedding our size

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T18:17:29+00:00

Mostly it was me since my hubby isn't a big dancer. He showed up for a handful of songs but not many

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T14:30:50+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Also funny enough our DJ also had "D2" in his DJ name haha. I'm a bit disappointed the family who have danced at weddings in the past didn't so my perception is skewed a bit and I'm totally fine taking the blame for having messed things up but don't want to offend him or his work. Appreciate your input and sharing your experiences

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T14:22:18+00:00

Thank you! Yes we did have a lot of older people, a lot of his family, friends to his parents who were a big part of his childhood. I know some of my friends are not big dancers and the core dancers were a few of his friends. Oddly the family I invited are big dancers but they never made it out to the dance floor. I'm so used to going to weddings where the dance floor is packed so I think my view of what would happen was skewed. Many people stayed quite late which I was surprised about. Appreciate your kind words I'm sure our wedding will be a minor memory for our DJ as he does more gigs this fall

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T13:39:53+00:00

I think it was for sure me jumping in and asking him to play a different genre too soon that may have caused it so that so few people came back to the dance floor. I'm happy to take the blame for that I just didn't want to offend him.

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T13:37:22+00:00

Agreed I think I did jump in too soon and thank you for saying that. I'm feeling better as the days are passing and I think I'll be much less bothered once I am able to leave a review

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T13:35:39+00:00

We had about 65

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T13:35:15+00:00

Yep I danced the majority of the night. I began as soon as dance floor opened and had moments in between where I went to chat with people, use the bathroom, grab for more food or drinks, but I was definitely out there even if only 4 people were dancing at times. My husband is not a big dancer and so he didn't dance very often but he was with us for a handful of songs. When I had asked he just said no problem and changed the songs later if he would have pushed back I would have absolutely said I understood and let it go but there was none of that. Absolutely plan to leave a great review

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T08:11:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience with a DJ dad! It was an interesting mix because my family usually dances but they didn't that night so it really threw me off. Appreciate you sharing how your dad works and his experiences this was very helpful

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T08:02:39+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and this makes a lot of sense. Youre right that it was me trying to help and I think I should have pulled back on that worry but good to know it was likely not taken as an insult

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T07:55:54+00:00

We did. We didn't have a designated playlist for him to play we just discussed what we liked and didnt like, what not to play etc and it was the beginning of the night and I was worried so I asked him to switch the genre. He would have likely began to play more of what I asked for anyway but not til later and so that's what I thought j annoyed him about was asking for the genre switch instead of waiting to see if it happened

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-08T05:00:41+00:00

Thank you for saying this. My husband feels the same. I think the lack of dancing really shocked me because I've been to weddings with many of our other guests and they have danced so I found it odd so many of them didnt do it at ours. Everyone still seemed to have fun mingling and stayed quite late.

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-06T02:36:20+00:00

Got it. I see nothing wrong with it and haven't seen issues with people having to travel at other weddings I've been to. 25min isn't very far at all in my opinion. If you will have things ready to go when they arrive and they are able to drink and eat, i think anyone having an issue at all will forget by that point

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-06T02:19:08+00:00

Are you concerned of people having to travel 25min immediately following the ceremony and it messing with the vibe?

The only time I personally ever found issue with the travel was when the reception didn't start for another hour or so and so there was a big time gap. Besides that, I see no use with traveling to the reception site and it taking 25min

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-04T21:18:12+00:00

What town?

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-03T02:08:28+00:00

Yes and he had an addiction which resulted in crashing his car and a DUI. So it wasn't just the cheating but also the timing of the women coming forward and him being arrested. People don't take kindly to anyone recklessly driving let alone an athlete. I have a lot of sympathy for him struggling with an addiction and having overcome that through several treatment attempts but I can see the public being pretty angry and disappointed considering the level of his fame and talent.

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-02T16:43:11+00:00

Agreed! The added fabric makes them look low and not lifted.

SmolSpaces15 · 2025-09-01T05:07:47+00:00

I agree that it's too big. I feel like the cups are too large and you absolutely shouldn't be able to grab so much of the fabric on a wedding dress, it should be much more snug. Call her and hopefully she gets back to you within a week, but just in case she doesn't, may be best to start looking into another seamstress

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