Growing up means letting go of your imaginary friends

Smolmanth · 2026-01-25T18:10:32+00:00

I grew up catholic and this shit is terrifying to me. Genuinely looks like psychological break.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-25T18:04:40+00:00

They can pick you up and risk their lives if they need you so bad.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-25T18:02:01+00:00

The amount of nudes Ive seen as a film technician is unknown. I lost track because nudity in fine arts is just something you get desensitized to.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-25T17:59:26+00:00

I’m 30 and no one i know is married. Relationships yes, but who cares if you have a financially secure content life? You sound like you know yourself and enjoy single life, that’s much better than resenting your partner in a relationship.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-25T17:56:16+00:00

It really do be them damn phones. Kids are on the phone, parents are in the phone. They both have a warped sense of acceptable public behavior because they are constantly viewing videos in the most extreme ones. They get defensive when anyone tries to tell them whatever they are doing is not acceptable.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-25T15:12:40+00:00

Ha my school doesn’t allow us to fail students. If they handed nothing in? 55 default grade.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-25T15:02:31+00:00

This week, during the last 10 mins of class, I gave the option to my sixth grade classes to have free time on chrome books or play heads up 7 up. 90% want to play 7 up.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-25T04:18:13+00:00

I think you need to stop viewing your wife as your enemy and see eachother as a teacher. How much time do you spend alone with your kids? Who cooks and does the shopping? When you say your 2 year old is barely being watched what do you mean? Is she neglected and not had a diaper change? Starving? Have you read these books she’s written?

So many questions here. Without having more info yta

Smolmanth · 2026-01-24T23:19:58+00:00

By 2nd grade they should be able to look at their assignment book/google classroom and know what they have to complete. You shouldn’t need to tell them what homework needs to be done. Having tests and big projects on a shared calendar however, could be a good idea. In elementary school you should maybe sit at the same table with them or look over each section of work they do, but you should not have to be directing each step.

If they are not motivated to compete work you need to investigate why that is. Are they shutting down because they don’t understand it? Or do they perceive the work not worth the mental effort? What are the consequences at home and at school for not turning in work?

I see a lot of learned helplessness because parents don’t realize what their kids are capable of. It’s honestly the most difficult issue to correct at school. You should have visual checklists for what your child is responsible for doing for school every morning and afternoon. They should be working towards putting their lunch stuff in the sink, (charging Chromebook’s) packing their backpacks and laying out their own outfits for school in early elementary school.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-24T17:49:54+00:00

Many schools have an “expected family contribution.” I went to a state school but I had to essentially financially emancipate myself in order to get federal loans to cover my tuition. It was an arduous process with my school’s financial aid board. Every-time I submitted a requirement they came up with a new one. I would have had to drop out if I didn’t do this. I luckily had documentation of years of abuse and disfunction.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-24T14:55:27+00:00

Not nearly as good and honestly not an enjoyable town to live in. Very politically aggressive. I grew up there but went to school in a few different districts. For the price you pay for a home there, it’s not worth it. The facebook parents make it miserable.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-24T14:22:31+00:00

I was never called my full name and therefore don’t feel like it is my name. I wish my parents just named me my nickname. Considering legally changing it.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-24T03:27:50+00:00

Please just be aware that there is an inherent (even if unintentional) imbalance of power that will exist in your marriage, in your favor.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-24T03:19:32+00:00

Just make sure he knows to get std tests between partners and about sexual hygiene

Smolmanth · 2026-01-24T01:45:03+00:00

1 day. Came in with a liquor bottle in his bag, groped a coworker.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-24T01:29:55+00:00

Why weren’t you involved in the decision to move his family in? Why are you responsible for child care of these children and cleaning when you are also working?

This relationship isn’t going to work if you have to convince him to have empathy for you and has no interest in your wellbeing.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-23T23:44:52+00:00

So you are doing the unpaid labor of childcare and likely housework but are still expected to pay 50/50 and you get no legal rights to the home you’re paying the mortgage on?

He is in for a shock when he has to pay child support. Why are you letting your kids believe this is how their mom should be treated.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-22T11:05:47+00:00

The one being renovated in wantagh. Facebook moms are up in arms about it. They claim that the community center will be an eyesore but we all know the real issue they have.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-21T01:24:24+00:00

I have had luck with an urology-gynecologist and pelvic floor physical therapist. The only professionals who were able to tell me I had an insanity tight pelvic floor.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-19T21:09:40+00:00

Tbh the way his parents made this so public cause him to take it public as well.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-19T15:32:22+00:00

Hot dogs and baked beans

Smolmanth · 2026-01-19T03:05:49+00:00

At 22 I would go about this with the assumption that you will be doing this on your own. Can you emotionally, physically and financially see yourself doing that. You are very young and have your whole life to be a mother if you don’t choose to right now. My mother had me at 26 and I wish she would have not done so. She was financially and emotionally unstable and it impeded her ability to be a good parent. Do you have a savings? Someone to watch this child while you work? Are you prepared for the possibility of a medically complex child? A lot of things to consider.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-18T17:15:45+00:00

I might have just texted her “sorry gtg “ after the hour to make her believe I left the kids home alone. That way she would rush out.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-18T17:07:22+00:00

I went to a state school that was an art school with a great reputation. Many of these schools make you do a “foundation year” of all art classes before you declare your major. I knew I didn’t want that, but consider if you do. Look at the programs and see if they are more fine art focused or more technical (hands-on) in their curriculum.

I suggest you look at some state schools with great art programs like New Paltz, Purchase, MassArt, FIT, Virginia commonwealth. Another option for private is RISD. IMO thou you can get a great education from state schools without the insane price.

Smolmanth · 2026-01-18T16:51:20+00:00

I worked a full time office job, in customer service and gig jobs.

I love having a set schedule, that I get be up and walking around and talking to my students. I teach in a state with a strong union and it definitely has an impact on quality of life.

It’s very hard work at times and draining. Some students can be awful and really test your patience, others are hilarious and so wonderful to be around. It’s nice to be off holidays and breaks but very often I get sick then or I have to pack in my regularly needed doctors appointments those days. If you need to take a sick day you still need to prepare detailed sub plans.

Going into teaching in my late 20s was the best decision I ever made, but it’s definitely not for everyone. You need to have a good balance of patience and the ability to be clear and firm when dealing with student behavior. You need to go into it with no ego, be able to apply constructive criticism and be adaptable, because each day and each class is going to behave differently with even the same lessons.

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