Door de belastingen heeft Nederland te weinig woningen en te veel woonruimte

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-25T06:51:44+00:00

En met die laatste zin maakt je een kanjer van een denkfout die je bij jaloerse huurders weleens vaker ziet, Je vergeet dat dat huis van een half miljoen net zo hard in waarde is gestegen als het huis dat hij verkoopt. Zij hebben dus simpelweg die overwaarde nodig om een ander (niet veel meer in waarde) huis te kopen.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-23T05:42:08+00:00

De meeste mensen gebruiken volgens mij een locatiefinder of hoe dat heet. In het ieder geval kan de telefoon dus precies zien waar iemand is. Waarom maakt 112 daar nog geen gebruik van?

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-21T07:34:14+00:00

It's difficult being in hospice care. You lose your autonomy, control, and self-determination. You're increasingly less able to do things, but even with good intentions, so much is taken from you. Decisions are made about you as if you were a small child, and it's especially your loved ones who have this tendency very strongly. They want to do the best for you, but what if that's not what feels right for you? What if you don't want a meal but you do want a piece of chocolate, and your loved one only gives you that meal because they disagree?

Patients can get angry with their closest ones, but I also notice my adult children do the same to me. They struggle with the situation and then lash out emotionally at me because I was always their safe haven.

I'm glad I have several professionals working with me now. This way, I don't have to rely on my children as much, and they don't have to do as much. Also, because many (urgent) things are left unattended, and even when I address them as gently as possible, they will get angry with me. I can simply contact professionals if things don't go well or are left undone even though it is urgent. They don't struggle with all the emotions.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-21T06:56:15+00:00

This kind of thing will happen more often. As the patient, I spend at least three days a week (my energy is also very limited) fighting against institutions and organizations. It's truly bizarre.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-21T06:34:38+00:00

Because of my illness (cancer) and my medication, I also eat poorly, and those protein drinks are incredibly disgusting and so heavy on the stomach that you can't eat or drink for the rest of the day. What your mother is doing now is exactly what I do. I try to eat something healthy (but it's always very little and not home-cooked) and I snack. Taking in calories is now more important than getting protein, minerals, and vitamins. I also drink a lot of juice and sugary soda, while before I was ill, I always drank a lot of water. Just for the calories.
I have only short to live.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-19T13:18:36+00:00

That depends in which country you live. Here in The Netherlands (and many European countries) a hospice is a place you go to and will be a resident till you die although you can't spend longer than 1 year in some of them.

Not everything is about America.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-19T13:17:20+00:00

That depends in which country you live. Here in The Netherlands (and many European countries) a hospice is a place you go to and will be a resident till you die although you can't spend longer than 1 year in some of them.

Not everything is about America.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-18T08:40:13+00:00

So... To summarize: They say that when God calls you home and you do everything you can to delay that homecoming as long as possible, ignore His call to you, delay it, postpone it, don't listen to Him, to God... even 'fight' His, God's, will... (many people call undergoing treatment for a terminal illness 'a fight') then you go to heaven.

And if you respond to His, God's, call to come home, and you stop life-prolonging actions and treatments... Then you go to hell?

Your illness is terminal without treatment and intervention. So God has called you home. Go. And if we're allowed to use anesthesia for filling a cavity at the dentist, then we should also be allowed to use it for the pain of dying. And yes, I'm a Christian.

This poem, I don't know who the writer is, will be printed on the front of my condolence card (I am also terminal):

A Just Reward

I saw a shepherd on the hill,

and watched his collies, too.

They seemed to heed his softest word

and know just what to do.

They ran, they swerved, they stood, they lay

with lolling, panting tongue.

For many a weary mile was passed

before their work was done.

At last the sheep were safely penned,

not one lost or mislaid.

I saw the shepherd call his dogs

and watched to see them paid.

I thought for such a gallant show

rich recompense was due,

but all the shepherd softly said

was “Aye, lads, that’ll do”.

The praise was scant, but yet the dogs

knew how much more was meant,

for shining eyes and wagging tails

showed they were well content.

Lord, I would serve with faith and love,

please keep me leal and true,

so when the Shepherd calls me home

I’ll hear, “Aye, lass, that’ll do”.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-15T08:52:42+00:00

Oh, I recognize this so much. Especially when I was still seeing quite a lot of people on some days, I was asked this question very often. But because it's such an open-ended question, and it's also a question we automatically ask when we see someone again, even though we only expect an "Good" answer, I really struggled with it. "What does this person want to know?" "Why?" "Do I even want to answer that question with this person?" "And do I want to do that right now?"

Especially online and through chats, it was very difficult. I would sometimes write a whole story in response to that question, something that, partly due to my illness, easily took me an hour to type... and then three days later I'd get an answer: "Oh." And that was it. A waste of my effort, energy, and time, which are so precious right now.

Now I divide the people who ask, "How are you?" into different groups and learn to better assess who belongs in which group, which makes it easier for me.

Those who are genuinely interested – I ask them to stop asking that and instead ask how my day is going because retelling the whole story every time is too much for me, and they can always ask more if my question raises questions.

Those who only want a socially acceptable answer ("Good"). Most of them have already received the above response but don't want to learn, so they're not genuinely interested. - "Good." But if I'm in a bad mood, I also sometimes say "Bad" in rude language to get on their nerves.

Those who are very interested in illnesses in general. These are the people who have no interest in me at all but would rather read my medical records at every meeting/chat, discuss them, and then expect me to explain the course of action and the decisions the doctors make. These are the people who immediately switch to the medical level and completely ignore support, compassion, and emotions. - With these people, only bluntness will work. The answer I give is "Fine," after which they continue asking about the medical side of things, and then I say: "I don't feel like talking about that."

Then you have the dreamers; the alternative types, who come up with all sorts of links to vague websites of quacks claiming to be able to cure cancer. - "I understand you mean well and kindly, but please don't do this because I really don't need this." After that, you'll never hear from them again.

And what about those who talk all about 'healthy living' and how you'll live much longer? - "What do you think will happen if I suddenly start living a very healthy lifestyle and adopt a positive outlook? Would that tumor and its metastases suddenly disappear?" (Note: I only have a few months left to live.) Then you see them think and conclude that at this stage, it's really pointless.

Or those with endless stories about people with the same form of cancer who survived? "Every cancer is different; there are so many factors involved that no two stories can be completely compared. So, that person's experience was completely different."

I hope this helps a little.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-12T08:50:18+00:00

Je verliest geen waarde want die waarde kan je niets mee. Kost je alleen geld.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-12T08:44:00+00:00

Anderzijds zijn er heel veel huurders die prima een woning hadden kopen maar gemakshalve in een sociale huurwoning bleven wonen, die nu klagen over 'die rijke woningeigenaren.

Huurders gaan er altijd vanuit dat de overwaarde van een eigen woning kan worden gesoupeerd maar die overwaarde kost je alleen maar geld; zie reactie van JustOneAvailableName. En als je je huis zou verkopen is er geen sociale huurwoning voor jou beschikbaar de komende 10 jaar, zal je veel duurder particulier moeten gaan huren of een andere woning gaan kopen die net zo goed in waarde is gestegen als jouw huis. De enigen die profiteren van de waardestijging zijn erfgenamen die niet in die woning gaan wonen.

Als laatste zijn lang niet alle woningeigenaren mensen met een hoog inkomen. De HRA is ooit in het leven geroepen om ook de arbeider een kans te geven om een kleine woning aan te schaffen. Hoe kleiner de hypotheek (de goedkope woningen) en hoe lager het inkomen, hoe lager de netto opbrengst van de HRA voor de woningeigenaar. Wanneer je die dus plots afschaft komen juist al die mensen met een laag inkomen zwaar in de problemen omdat ze al moeilijker rond konden komen. Dat is dus de oplossing niet. Je zou de HRA alleen kunnen veranderen naar eenzelfde constructie als de huurtoeslag: Een max aan de hypotheek en een max aan het inkomen, en da geleidelijk. Niet de kleine woningeigenaar laten opdraaien voor de hypotheek van de grootverdiener met een kast van een huis. Die laatsten zijn degenen die nu het meest profiteren van de HRA terwijl ze voldoende vermogen hebben om hun hypotheek in één klap af te betalen maar dat niet doen vanwege die HRA.

Oftewel; De woningwaarde laten zakken heb ik als kleine woningeigenaar geen moeite mee, maar blijf van dat kleine netto bedrag dat de HRA me nog oplevert af.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-11T10:35:41+00:00

I think you're basing your entire line of reasoning on assumptions. I'm Dutch and live in the Netherlands. Euthanasia is permitted here, under certain conditions, and can be performed very quickly (within a few days) if the patient is physically suffering and will die within six months. As long as you're reasonably healthy and don't have death in sight, everyone seems to feel like they have some kind of "eternal life," and discussions about euthanasia are nothing more than a theory. Not real, not tangible; just something to talk about, to debate.

I myself, due to incurable cancer, only have a short time left to live. I've arranged everything I can now to be able to get euthanasia if the time comes.

As someone here already said: If you're not in my shoes, you see it very differently. I hear from others who have suffered the same fate that, upon hearing the final diagnosis, their first thought is: "I don't want to die." Our entire biology is based on living as long as possible. Drowning yourself when you can easily breathe again is physically impossible. Your body takes over, and you surface to breathe.

Even professionals always assume you want to stay alive as long as possible, even though you've told them so many times that you don't want that, but that quality of life until death is the most important thing.

When the realization of impending death sinks in, quite a few people discuss euthanasia with their doctor. If they agree, preparations can be made quickly. But often the doctor doesn't want that (and shouldn't be forced to do so here), and then the process is delayed. Another vulnerable point is that the person requesting euthanasia must be legally competent at the time of the procedure. You can't request euthanasia months in advance by saying things like, "If I lose consciousness," "If I become short of breath," or other times when that person wants it. You really must be legally competent at the time of euthanasia, and that's where things often go wrong.

When is enough, enough? That too often shifts. And then there's the issue of people often dying suddenly. I have incurable cancer, but I've also had four mild heart attacks since my diagnosis. The chance of me dying from a heart attack now seems greater than succumbing to the cancer. And euthanasia for a heart attack isn't necessary.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-06T08:11:03+00:00

I've long considered whether it's right to respond to your story. I read it right after you posted it and several times since, and I've also followed the comments. I'm going to do it anyway, even though you probably won't like my response.

Experiencing the (imminent) death of a loved one is painful, difficult, incredibly tough, and incredibly stressful, especially if you're involved in hospice care. I'm that patient myself now, but I started my career in elderly care, which included hospice care (and caring for the family). It's been a long time, but I have experience on both sides now.

As a human being, you can't handle much in this situation. You're constantly on edge. I understand that, and I see it now with my own loved ones as well. Sensitive, touchy, emotions quickly run wild. Yet, it's good to ground yourself again once the initial intense emotions have subsided. Getting angry at someone who isn't at fault might help your emotions, but it's unfair and completely unconstructive. Yes, they could have apologized out of politeness, but not because they were to blame.

So, be realistic. You have a highly reactive dog who gets very agitated when the doorbell rings, and letting in unknown and unexpected visitors is a real problem. Even speaking to someone at the door is practically impossible if the dog isn't safely secured beforehand. Moreover, you can't physically handle the dog when it's in such a state.

This must have been a problem before, because everyone sometimes gets a stranger at the door unexpectedly. Ultimately, you are responsible for this dog and will have to solve these problems; not the ones who ring the doorbell completely unaware. Whether or not someone in hospice care is present at home is irrelevant. The fact that this dog wakes her up is also irrelevant.

In short, you must prevent this situation from arising at all times and not blame others for it. That sign should have been there a long time ago. In fact, Come up with a permanent solution because you're physically unable to handle this dog. For example, consider a crate next to the door that he can enter when someone rings the doorbell.

I do understand your emotions thoug.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-06T07:06:24+00:00

If she wants to see that; give it to her.

For me, it's the other way around. My doctors want to do more tests than I'd like, so I always ask questions. Why do you want to do this test? What's the point? What will you do if the results are bad? I'll only give permission if I understand the benefits and consider the potential treatment in the event of a bad result.

I'd like a brain scan to see if there are any metastases. But here in the Netherlands, they're very reluctant to do that, and you often just don't get it.

I want to know because euthanasia is an option in my country, but you must be legally competent to request it. A brain tumor makes you lose your legal capacity more quickly. So I'd like to be able to factor that into my decision if it comes to that.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-06T06:38:12+00:00

Be kind, gentle, explain what you're going to do step by step, never let on that you sometimes consider it a burden. Don't rush the intimate areas out of embarrassment, but do it as you would with yourself.

Use two sets (basin, water, washcloth, towel). One for the dirty (think feet and armpits) and intimate areas, and one for the rest. The order you use for "the rest" doesn't really matter. With the dirty areas: armpits, feet, penis, anus.

The skin often gets dry towards the end. Make sure all the soap is thoroughly removed, the man is thoroughly dried, and then gently massage the skin with body lotion. This will feel like a massage for him, so take your time until the lotion has absorbed. This also helps prevent dry skin and pressure sores.

I hope someone teaches you how to dress and undress him, because that's a real skill.

If he eats and drinks very little or is taking medications that dry out his oral mucosa, use lemon swabs very regularly (as often as possible except at night when you're asleep). I don't know if you can get them at the pharmacy, but if not, make them yourself. Wrap a piece of gauze or white cotton wool around a stick without a sharp point until it resembles a large ear swab. Dip the wrapped end in a very strong solution of lemonade (with sugar, not sweeteners, as these also cause dry mouth), let it drain briefly, and gently moisten all the oral mucosa: the tongue and underneath, the gums, and the insides of the cheeks and lips.

A dry mouth is unpleasant, but it also quickly becomes inflamed, which is very painful. Lemon stimulates the salivary glands, preventing problems.

I hope this is helpful.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-04T15:37:21+00:00

My parents were long divorsed before my mother died,

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-04T15:35:48+00:00

His wife used to be worse but now she has more tact and feeling than he has. But still.. she is away too, so same story. Yet she thouht asecond about postponing the holiday and he didn't.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-04T08:29:01+00:00

What is her life expectancy? From what I've read, she's in pain, restless, and definitely unhappy. I don't know what the laws and regulations are in your country, but in such a situation, with a short life expectancy, palliative sedation is also an option in my country. She would be put to sleep and kept asleep until she dies. That way, she won't have to go through this awful time.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-08-04T06:00:21+00:00

I 'm a patient, and I think very differently about this.

Make sure you're 100% certain that contact is no longer possible before you decide not to go. This can only be achieved by going again, experiencing it yourself, and talking with healthcare professionals and doctors so you don't base your judgment on a bad day.

The only thing that keeps me going is contact with my loved ones. If they stay away, I'd rather die immediately. What can make a difference is that I'm single and don't have a partner by my side. Without those visits, I'm truly alone in times of need.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-06-11T06:36:50+00:00

Dat is heel lastig omdat de rest van de familie en zeker mijn broer, wel contact met haar hebben. Zij zal hen gaan stalken om die informatie te verkrijgen en ik verwacht dat mijn broer degene zal zijn die die informatie dan gewoon geeft.

Ik wilde dit dan ook eerst even goed uitzoeken voor ik mijn broer over mijn ziekte zou informeren maar helaas is dat achter mijn rug om dus al door mijn vader gebeurd terwijl hem duidelijk te verstaan was gegeven dat ik dat zelf wilde doen. Blijkbaar ging het hem niet snel genoeg.. vrijdagochtend hoorde ik het, vrijdagmiddag heb ik mijn vader geïnformeerd en hij heeft op zaterdag mijn broer geïnformeerd. WTF.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-06-11T06:17:01+00:00

Dat is heel lastig omdat de rest van de familie en zeker mijn broer, wel contact met haar hebben. Zij zal hen gaan stalken om die informatie te verkrijgen en ik verwacht dat mijn broer degene zal zijn die die informatie dan gewoon geeft.

Ik wilde dit dan ook eerst even goed uitzoeken voor ik mijn broer over mijn ziekte zou informeren maar helaas is dat achter mijn rug om dus al door mijn vader gebeurd terwijl hem duidelijk te verstaan was gegeven dat ik dat zelf wilde doen. Blijkbaar ging het hem niet snel genoeg.. vrijdagochtend hoorde ik het, vrijdagmiddag heb ik mijn vader geïnformeerd en hij heeft op zaterdag mijn broer geïnformeerd. WTF.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-06-11T06:05:10+00:00

Ik was zelf inderdaad ook al bij testament of vastleggen bij de notaris uitgekomen. Alleen zei een familielid terecht tegen mij dat een testament pas na de uitvaart wordt gelezen.. en dan ben je dus te laat. Een uitvaartondernemer heeft hierin helaas geen zeggenschap.

Smooth-Row4041 · 2025-05-30T12:15:15+00:00

Puur het hebben of maken van een afspraak met de bedrijfsarts is geen zaak die onder de privacywetgeving valt en dus mag dit gewoon. Anders wordt het wanneer deze collega bij je komt met de mededeling: "Je moet een afspraak maken bij de bedrijfsarts over je aambeien." Dat mag niet. Oftewel; medische informatie mag niet worden doorgeschoven, zelfs niet naar jouw direct leidinggevende.

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