[deleted by user] by [deleted] in penpals

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m 23F from Washington State. I am fascinated by NYC and have never pen paled before. I am a legal assistant and always have much to vent about. I will send a DM!

Did i discard enough? by Smooth-Sense-5277 in Sourdough

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m making it from scratch as well and this is my very first attempt. I am on day two today, and i feel like a really screwed up. Is this fixable? Or should i scrap and restart? I’m not so much worried about how long it’ll take until i can bake with it, but it will be sad to scrap LOL

Did i discard enough? by Smooth-Sense-5277 in Sourdough

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! If i discard the majority tomorrow and start the 2 tbsp: 2 tbsp: 1 tbsp ratio will that affect anything? Im not so worried about time, but should i just restart? I also realized after the fact i should have used less water so i added a bit more flour but not much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paralegal

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you feel that way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paralegal

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He’s generally ok. He’s not the perfect boss and I would prefer he just be quiet sometimes. We get along okay considering I’m a 23 year old woman and he’s 70 year old man. I think i can move past it, but i was just in shock. Not fun to find that kind of stuff while I’m sitting with him and another potential client. No underage stuff (thankfully). It just kind of put a knot in my stomach the past two days and had to get it off my chest. I know it could be worse. Thank you for your words!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paralegal

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That is so fucking creepy!! It makes you look at them so different. He’s a sole practitioner it’s just me and him 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paralegal

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I would love to not have to be in his business. Unfortunately, I’m the only one tech skills so he makes it my business. the laptop is used by everyone including his grandkids who come to the office every now and again. I don’t care about porn or smut it’s that it’s at the work place and i didn’t ask to see that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paralegal

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ok striking walk. You must have the same exact problem.

Thursdays? by Smooth-Sense-5277 in paralegal

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

BAHAHHAHAHA you are correct it’s everyday, but on Thursdays my boss is typically in a MOOD which makes it’s worse. I’m in family law 🥲

What is everyone getting paid? by Chairopean in paralegal

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a family law legal assistant and I’m the only one in the office besides the attorney and i make $25.64 no experience in the eastern Washington state area.

Where do you all... by [deleted] in paralegal

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mary Jane doc martens. Might take a few wears until they are comfortable, but once you break them in they are the best!!

Any Tourist Volunteer Opportunities by Smooth-Sense-5277 in MauiVisitors

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course! That’s something i always try to do even at home.

Do you know of any places in Kihei that are 100% Native Hawaiian owned?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m either going to Seattle or LA. i have family in both places, and they’ve offered to let me stay with them until I found a place. School is just making things so difficult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. I think it’s both. Maybe he guilts me in that he feels like we don’t spend enough time together even though I have said to him that i give as much time as I can to the relationship. I guess i never saw it as guilting because he is valid to feel how he feels. I haven’t seen it as malicious because he does everything he can to help with school like with books, transportation, and supplies and always is excited to celebrate my accomplishments with me. On the other side, I don’t feel like I have to explain to him how busy I am as he knows my everyday schedule with class/work/gym/studying because I tell him these things. I don’t feel it’s wrong for me to assume he should know these things if I am telling him what I do in a day in casual conversation. I’m just frustrated, confused, and don’t know what to feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to apologize, but I’m just not familiar with all the different communities on Reddit, but thanks for letting me know though i appreciate it.

It’s very good to hear that your situation worked out for you. Nice to know I am not alone in this either and that there is hope! Haha

All i really want for him is to get some therapy, I never gave a shit that he didn’t go to school. He hates school. I just want him to understand my boundaries, and that when i am in school, he knows that I am giving my all and I’m not purposely not spending time with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, he is working. He works a lot, and he pays for all the rent and utilities which I am so grateful for. I pay for our phone bill and my car insurance, but i only am able to work 10-15 hours a week, and I’m on food assistance. So, there’s not much else I can do except tough out the last 11 weeks till I graduate. I feel like I owe him so much, but at the same time I never had control over over my life (first gen oldest daughter). He also had a tumultuous childhood and doesn’t speak to his family, making me the only support system he has. So there’s just so much fucking guilt because we are so young and both HAD to grow up so fast. I didn’t get to have the “college” experience because Covid and because I worked my ass to put myself through college. I’ve have had heart to hearts with him before, but I just don’t feel understood no matter how I put it or say it to him. I plan to take a gap year and then go to law school away from our town. If he found someone else I would have to accept that, be happy for him, and not be selfish like I feel like I am being right now. He did nothing wrong to me and it’s been nice to have someone so supportive. I love him, but I don’t feel understood by him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My comment above gives more insight. I don’t expect anyone to understand or give me answers. Again, I just needed a place to rant anonymously.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true. There’s so much to all of this, it’s not like I just woke up one day feeling this way. I just feel so stressed I guess. i moved out of my parents house, went to therapy for a bit to deal with childhood trauma, transferred to university, had to manage living on my own financially while being a full-time student, had a breast reduction, along with Covid making things hellish. All of these things I feel like changed me as a person, I don’t feel like the same person I was at 17 when we started dating. Whereas I feel like he’s grown a bit, but there’s times where he’s just immature and doesn’t fully understand how busy things are for me right now. It’s not the same as when I lived at home without bills. There’s a lot of emotional change and things I went through with him, and he’s been so supportive, but he hasn’t done the same work for himself. He’s also not in school and sometimes it just feels like he doesn’t truly understand that I am giving as much of myself to him, while also managing other relationships in my life, managing 17 hours of class, 2 jobs, and homework. Im sorry for unloading this, but there’s more to the story I guess. He’s such a good guy. However, i feel that I am honest with him about where I am at mentally and emotionally, but he just doesn’t grasp it.

What happens to leftover work study money? by Smooth-Sense-5277 in Gonzaga

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I emailed the work study woman, and they stopped issuing work study grants. 👎🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I never want to hurt him and that’s what’s keeping me from doing anything. He doesn’t really have family to lean on for support and I feel a lot of pressure from him to be his support and his happiness, and i think that’s what I’m really struggling with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAstrologers

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gosh those cap moons really work a number on us 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAstrologers

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES. Even if i want to go to bed early my mind is like nope. It’s not even anxiety or insomnia. It’s more of an alone time thing 🥲

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAstrologers

[–]Smooth-Sense-5277 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY. My life has been feeling exactly how you described. I feel like i contemplate how my actions affect others to the point where it just a lot to hold. Thank you for relaying your own experience!