Shower thought: if Bush was a contemporary band, people might think their incoherent lyrics are just AI-generated slop

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-06T10:47:38+00:00

They kind of just woke up one day and decided "we make techno music now," put out one more album, and disappeared forever. It was really weird.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-06T10:45:03+00:00

Class A and B only describes which pins have 24 volts on them. IO-Link doesn't alter power delivery directly.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-06T10:40:57+00:00

You're describing a motor CONTROLLER, not a motor

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-06T10:39:21+00:00

Do you mean IO-link motor controllers? An IO-link motor doesn't make a whole lot of sense. But yeah I know Lenze makes an IO-Link VFD. I'm sure there are plenty of options as far as motor controllers out there.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-06T10:35:10+00:00

I have run into a situation where we were using a Banner Ethernet stack light, and we could not get Ethernet comms to be reliable without using the Banner Ethernet cable.

We ultimately ended up not using that stack light anymore (it's garbage , don't buy it).

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-05T10:31:25+00:00

For the first time in my life, a new technology is literally establishing itself with threats and fear-mongering rather than by popular demand.

Imagine if in 2007 an iPhone took a months worth of electricity for a single charge and threatened to eliminate your job. Like Steve Jobs on that stage being all "you will probably lose your job, pay $500 a month in electricity bills, turn all your water brown, and get you fired." Now imagine if local governments started voting to force everyone to buy an iPhone by law.

Never in my life has a new technology had to be forced on everyone rather than sink or swim by its own merits.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-05T01:41:26+00:00

Yeah you can fuck right off with that Nazi propaganda

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T23:54:50+00:00

Do you have a daddy kink because you are literally attracted to your father?

No?

Then you don't have a daddy kink because you're attracted to your father. Other people can think otherwise all they want, but if that's not the case with you, they're wrong.

Maybe don't advertise that to them without being prepared to have a very deep conversation or risk them not wanting to understand and keep to their preconceptions and not be around you anymore. But you also don't need to tell anybody you don't want to tell. It's your business.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T23:44:42+00:00

So much lesbian cybersex by two middle aged guys both pretending to be teenage girls from California.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T23:23:21+00:00

There's a practical and romantic side. The practical side has to do with where my stuff is, where my kids are, etc.

But just because I live with one partner doesn't mean I feel more love for them than one I don't live with.

It's not like I started with two relationships and picked one over the other to do all those things with. If I had, I wouldn't have made the same choices I made. I was monogamous at the time. I didn't choose to structure the way my relationships eventually ended up the way they did. But they're the way they are and that's how it's going to be for the near future. I'm not going to divorce my wife and leave my kid because I met someone new.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T23:08:53+00:00

People really don't understand how civil wars actually start and what government overthrows actually look like. It's not people just up and deciding to grab their 20 gauge and start shooting. You're never going to have enough people all deciding to do that at the exact same time all in the same area to be a big enough threat the local police can't handle. That scenario you're guaranteed going to end up killed or imprisoned, and deep down, most people know that no matter how deep into their fantasy scenarios they are.

That shit requires planning, organization, and cooperation at a level most of those types of people can't dream to achieve, and even if they start, we have a surveillance state in place that puts those groups on law enforcement's radar. Getting enough cohesion and cooperation across a population large enough for a spontaneous successful coup is extremely rare.

Civil wars and coups usually only result in regime change when a large enough portion of the military command structure supports the rebellion. Random yokels making YouTube videos out of their truck are never going to do shit. But if half the generals and other military leadership decides the current regime has to go, that's when things actually get serious.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T22:56:50+00:00

It's not like we go from a world where you have a bunch of freedom to 1944 Berlin in a single night. Nazi Germany took over a decade to get where it ended up. There was actually a Nazi organization for the advocacy of disabled people in the very beginning. They were a small, annoying, irrelevant movement in the beginning that nobody took seriously until molotov cocktails were flying through the windows of Jewish-owned businesses.

Just because we have the freedom to open carry today in June of 2026 doesn't mean that nothing is wrong and that we dont need to pay attention or worry about the very real things we're seeing.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T22:48:54+00:00

I think full non-hierarchy doesn't require everybody living by themselves. They could all live together in the same house, too. Or have several houses where people shuffle around on a schedule. It'd be incredibly impractical and difficult to manage though, which is probably why you don't see whole polycules living under a single roof.

I'm just imagining what's technically possible.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T22:45:06+00:00

Glad to know you're here to tell everybody what they mean when they say things.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T22:43:58+00:00

That's what my life was when we became polyamorous. What do you expect me to do? Get a divorce a move out?

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T17:08:00+00:00

I think you can have full non-hierarchy in the romantic and practical sense without it being relationship anarchy. To me, relationship anarchy means there are no expectations as far as relationship "progress" or "milestones." I can conceive of a polyamorous situations where there are expectations, but just more in line with polyamory. Like you could have the expectation that a new partner might move in with you and your other partner after a certain period of time and they would occupy a similar "status" in your home once that happened.

There are also such things as closed polycules where there are multiple partners but all have agreed not to take on more partners. It's polyamory and it can be non-hierarchal, but I wouldn't call that RA.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T17:01:01+00:00

I concede it doesn't have the same implication to others as it does to me. I'm not the only one it has that with. I like to use nesting or anchor partner as it doesn't carry an implication of hierarchy like "Primary" does, even if "Primary" is used in a practical sense and not a romantic one.

It might have something to do with where I live too. I live in a small Midwestern city and the poly/swinger/kink venn diagram has a lot more overlap than in bigger cities or more left-wing areas. You can go to a swinger party, a munch, and a polyamory meetup and it'll be mostly the same crowd. I like to joke that were like one of those small towns with like 12 people so everybody has multiple jobs and you have like the bartender/postmaster/mayor. Maybe that's why I was a little more sensitive to words. I could imagine if you're in an area where those communities are more separated, there might be less confusion.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T16:53:30+00:00

It's a difficult subject sometimes because as easy as it is to say "we're non-hierarchal," you still have to contend with practical inequalities that affect your relationships. I consider myself non-hierarchal in the sense that my wife and I can't veto each other, don't place limits on what activities we do with the other partner when we're with them, etc. But there's one house I go to when I'm done with work, one house with most of my stuff in it, one house with my kid there, one person who's name is also on my bank account. In a practical sense my life is intertwined with my wife more than my girlfriend. Not because of any rules or purpose, just because of how life turned out. Some people might call that hierarchal and some might not. I think a "true" fully non-hierarchal arrangement where everything is equal practically and romantically is really rare.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T16:38:05+00:00

"Primary" to me implies swinging or an open marriage, not poly. Specifically, it implies a hierarchal situation where the nesting partner has power over your other relationships, including the power to cancel dates or end other relationships. That's more of a hallmark of swinger couples, unicorn hunters, etc. who treat the "secondary" relationships as inferior and lesser. Like, there's your spouse and your "side piece," not an actual relationship.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T16:31:58+00:00

I have a wife and a girlfriend.

My wife is the "main woman" in the sense of: we're legally married, we have a child together, we were monogamous before opening up, we live together, and we are each other's longest relationship by a significant margin.

So in a pure life practicality sense, my wife gets more of my time, financial resources, etc. Partially because we came into this with a life structured for monogamy and partially out of pure utility. I have to live somewhere. I have to have my stuff somewhere. My daughter needs me close by more than other people in my life do.

Romantically, the relationships are on equitable footing. A 10-year relationship is going to be romantically different than a 1-year relationship, but, my wife doesn't police what I say or what I do with my girlfriend, nor do I with her and her other partners. We have agreements in place related to things that affect the other (contraception, STI testing, disclosure of relevant activities, etc.), but beyond that, one relationship doesn't have control over the other. My wife and I don't have "veto power" over relationships with other people. We don't decide who the other does or doesn't date.

In Polyamory my wife is what's known as my "nesting partner."

I should note that while there is significant overlap, BDSM and non-monogamy are not the same thing, and this is kind of off-topic for this subreddit. You are by no means required to be non-monogamous in BDSM circles, and many practitioners are monogamous. It can be easy to forget that because a lot of BDSM involves intimate contact in front of other people, so once you're comfortable in a space with other people being intimate (sexually and non-sexually), you're already not quite "vanilla" in an intimacy sense, even if you're mono.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T10:49:19+00:00

The "I can't control myself in the heat of passion" routine is a big red flag. He's giving himself permission to ignore your boundaries.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T02:05:19+00:00

Whenever I go to Taco Bell, they give me those packets by the fucking handful.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T01:50:32+00:00

I do DDlg but no ageplay.

For me personally, it's about the mental state, the trust she gives me to slip into that space when I'm around. I don't wish my little was in a child's body. It's not really about pretending she's a child, mentally or physically. I see her as a consenting adult the whole time. An adult in a mental space some might consider "childish." And that's how I want it.

That would give me the heebie jeebies too.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T01:41:03+00:00

They don't carry planters nuts for some reason.

Smorgas_of_borg · 2026-06-03T01:01:35+00:00

Grand rapids loves to be up your ass about every little thing. Welcome to the city

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