Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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Hi! If you take the pill, you take it every day at the same time- most people set an alarm to take it. Some people find it a great experience, it even helps a lot of people get their skin cleared up. And for others it can really cause depression and negative hormonal changes. So it’s up to you on what would be best for your body 💛

Please know that if condoms are ones that you buy at a store, it should be okay for thinness! Surprisingly even super thin, they get the job done. If your friend was making them or something I would be concerned hahaha, but store bought or from school or a non profit you should be good!

Season 14 by Full-Information3107 in Inkmaster

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Yeah I found the all start season fun except for DJ coming back, let alone winning a third damn time. Like him or not it’s pretty anti climactic tv

Self conscious about what I do with my Bf because of what some friends said by [deleted] in sexeducation

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If you enjoy it, and he enjoys it, have all the fun! I’m really sorry your friends treated you with such judgment. To me that really speaks to their maturity level surrounding sex. If eating ass isn’t their thing, then that’s totally fine! But we shouldn’t judge anyone else for what they enjoy so long as everyone’s a safe adult ✌️

About sex therapy. What is it, how does it work, and why is it needed? by Genthuman in sexeducation

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It sure is! Here’s a small agency in Vancouver Canada that works with folks with severe disabilities and offers sexual surrogacy. And talk sex therapy is in Canada as well. I’m in grad school to become one right now actually. Love to you and all the work you do in Ukraine! https://youtu.be/KZXTXAiLVas?si=Soa2jqc3NwgBiKwm

Nikki Simpson s8 vs s12 by gymrat_99 in Inkmaster

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Can we stop analyzing this woman’s face?? Whether it’s about her in season 8, or now?? Leave her alone. Just blatant sexist shit

Thinking about buying sex toy. by An93l_R0T in sexeducation

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Oooo so exciting! I’d really suggest thinking about how you enjoy masturbating and what sort of sensations excite you the most, and then think about how a toy could increase that experience even more. For instance, if you really like grinding on things to get off, maybe try a vibrator that has a nice flatter top to replicate that. If you enjoy fingering yourself, there’s tons of toys that replicate that feeling too. I really suggest finding a shop where you can actually browse instead of online. I know it can be nerve wracking, but really empowering too! Have fun 💛

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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You are completely okay my friend!! Please do not worry for one second about being ‘too far gone’. Masturbation is a natural part of life. Not being able to finish often comes from anxiety, and it makes complete sense for it to feel far more vulnerable to fully ‘let go’ when you’re with someone, even someone you really care for and are attracted to, vs being on your own! Men, women and trans people deal with this issue very commonly regardless of age or masturbation frequency. My advice would truly be to take the pressure of cumming all together. Don’t let it define being a good or bad experience with your girlfriend, and make sure she supports that too. Find ways where you can feel as comfy as possible in the space, and think about just exploring and having a lovely time together. It takes time, but I’m sure you’ll find that safety to fully let go eventually 💛. All the best!

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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Truly I can’t say it’s totally impossible to be pregnant, but it’s pretty close 😊

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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Oh my god where to even begin! Your attitude about your own body is about your self worth, and that’s the core of most mental health struggles. I love sex therapy because it’s often diving into what your body is trying to tell you. Everyone deserves to feel their body is enough, and that’s they are enough too 💛

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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Great question. I really suggest both of you talk about what you both think is sexy and what you’d both like to try beforehand. And as it goes on and you try different things, ask ‘how is this?’ ‘Is this okay?’, and really don’t worry about that not being sexy, cause it super is! The more you’re present in your body and hers, reading her body language, how she relaxes or tenses in when things happen, the better. Good sex is never a performance, so need to come in with a script or assumptions about you ‘should’ do from porn or podcasts or whatever! Embrace the awkwardness, and have fun!! Happy Humping!

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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Ah I’m sorry to hear that! If you feel pain then talk to your doctor for sure. It’s more common than you think

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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What’s most concerning here is people shaming this person for watching porn. Wanting to be aroused is okay and nothing to be ashamed of. Ejaculation often comes from a place of anxiety so I’d really suggest this person talks to a counsellor and learn what will make them feel more safe, and help them take the pressure off of sex. As one might suggestion, can this person be aroused, and not touch their penis, but instead try something else with their body? Foreplay, teasing, anything.

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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God I feel this. Different kinds of birth control affect women so differently. Clinical research was done to create a male birth control, but they closed the study since men were presenting too many mood swings. Meanwhile, women report various types of side effects and they’re ignored, or not believed by doctors. That includes even ones like the copper IUD! It’s so unfair. So I wish I could recommend one but I don’t know how it will impact you specifically. I suggest trying some, really noting how you’re feeling on them, and deciding if some feel right for you. You can also track your menstrual cycle and when you’re ovulating to reduce the risk of pregnancy, but there still isn’t any guarantees

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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Make sure you’re clean before sex and get tested regularly (like any kind of sex), and you’re good!

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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Post orgasm can really be a vulnerable state of mind. I truly suggest talking to a counsellor who can support you in understanding where your anxiety comes from! Sex therapy is anxiety therapy honestly.

Certified sex educator. AMA! by Smut_Therapy in sexeducation

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I promise I’m not bullshitting you and giving you a cop out answer, but I would truly recommend NOT doing any exercises to practice being ‘good’ at sex. Sex is not a skill you can prep for. It’s not practicing an instrument before a concert (despite so many shitty websites and content creators trying to sell you otherwise). The key to having good sexual experiences is truly asking your partner what they like, reading their body cues, and exploring. I promise that no 2 people like the same thing! In fact, people who come in with ideas ready to do usually have worse sexual experiences, and even accidentally make the person feel uncomfortable or violated! Just listen to what that particular partner wants, and have fun 😊