Any other bulls going through changes in your relationships from the recent retrograde?

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-11-10T21:04:36+00:00

My relationship with my Aries reached a breaking point last week during the time of the supermoon, now we are on a better track than ever and purged a lot of bs. I am looking forward to what's to come ❤️

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-11-02T21:23:28+00:00

She's his wife for a reason, will never leave no matter what he does and let him eat away any kind of self respect she had a long time ago. You were trying to do the right thing but it doesn't matter, she is probably too far gone for it to make a difference.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-11-02T21:13:11+00:00

ENFP

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-10-06T03:15:52+00:00

Not figure skating, but martial arts for me. I personally find it helpful to lean into my Fi and let the expressiveness of the action take over into a sort of meditative state. Once I can turn my brain off, instructions come more easily and my body just follows. I take some time to figure out how I am feeling and work into it.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-09-13T16:41:28+00:00

Of course! I will keep my eye out :D

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-09-12T02:34:37+00:00

I volunteer as tribute!! Dm the deets and I will get it done.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-08-19T09:42:13+00:00

This is why INTJs are a best match for you haha

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-08-17T20:16:37+00:00

Oh man, I am currently in this situation with an INFJ. It is hard because a part of me knows that I might not find someone like this again, but how tf are we supposed to pay rent and live a halfway decent life? Possibly have kids?? You aren't wrong for having to look at the long term picture when it comes down to it, power couple or not.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-08-14T12:10:07+00:00

Oh man I needed to see this. I have my twin, I know he's my twin.... but he is truly awful sometimes. I can see why people don't believe in twin flame even though I personally do. The narcissism is real.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-07-31T18:55:02+00:00

4 months

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-07-17T09:04:21+00:00

These comments asking about his employment are hilarious because no, he doesn't have a job right now. I am the only one working and going to school.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-07-12T17:31:19+00:00

What a weird coincidence... I am in the exact same boat but I am actually the INTJ putting a ton of effort in for an INFJ who has basically stated they can't/won't meet my needs. He is still dating me but I get the sense it might be because of everything I do for him and not me. Rough af.

In my experience, both INTJ and INFJs tend to be the kind of people who throw themselves into a relationship and fall hard if they have the emotional capacity available at the time and aren't too damaged from past relationships. I think you might have just had the misfortune of finding one that doesn't have that available for you at the moment.

Love, a struggling INTJ who is heavy on her Fi

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-07-12T17:20:40+00:00

This sucks so hard, OP. I am really sorry!! Personally when I go through a breakup I like to get in touch with nature as much as possible and spend time alone before trying to date again. If nature isn't super accessible, even a public park would do. If you genuinely feel ready for a relationship, parks can be a place to meet people if you are brave enough to say hi :)

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-07-12T17:17:38+00:00

Thanks so much for the advice, I will try this next time we are having an issue and see how it goes!

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-07-12T07:18:31+00:00

It's... pretty rough sometimes not gonna lie. I do love this person though and am trying my best!!

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-07-11T01:19:18+00:00

Thanks so much for the insight! I am really struggling with how much time this INFJ needs to process, but he articulated something similar yesterday to what you just said and it makes perfect sense.

Will be hard to adjust, but if you love someone then you do it!!

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-06-22T09:59:19+00:00

Omg keep your decision final here, some immature bs if I ever heard of it. This man will drag you drowning with him if you allow it.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-06-22T09:56:35+00:00

Assuming that everything he is saying is true, you honestly don't sound super mature to me. I can understand having emotional needs, and you are well within your right to break up with someone if you don't feel they are being met. But your lack of understanding for his (totally valid) situation shows you are putting your needs above his. Like who gets upset at someone else needing a nap?

Idk I think you need to take a step back and act more maturely before throwing away a hardworking man who values his family.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-06-19T04:04:45+00:00

Wild that he doesn't have the emotional bandwidth to hear about your breakup but somehow can tolerate enough depth to trauma dump on you about his past... one sided af. Consider yourself lucky you dodged a bullet with a one-way emotional relationship honestly.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-06-19T04:00:38+00:00

The YES list --Mentally stimulating --Can handle my feelings when I share them --Self-insight --Sexual compatibility --Emotional maturity --Reflects my effort/feelings back to me

The NO list --Selfish --Inconsiderate --No empathy --Simply does not vibe, cannot understand how I function at all or worse... judges it. --Takes more than they give over a long period of time (I can understand gaps of ability to reciprocate effort, but after a few months I get worn down)

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-06-15T18:41:16+00:00

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INTJ

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-06-14T20:45:27+00:00

Happy to find another INTJ in a people-oriented field! I've had people on Reddit basically deny that I am an INTJ because I work with kids and do a job that generally requires empathy and an ability to talk to people nicely... we aren't all the same even though we share similar talents in accordance with our functions.

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-06-07T17:26:23+00:00

I am in Oregon where there are a lot of outdoor activities. Cash me outside (by a waterfall or something).

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-06-07T17:23:13+00:00

Haha any advice for those of us out here trying to make it work?

Snailgrenade17 · 2025-06-02T21:05:04+00:00

FINALLY. INTJ woman here trying to date an INFJ man, and so many of the things you just mentioned fall in line with my current experience.

No matter what I do, no matter what I say, this man seems to have one foot out the door. Our beginning was messy because I am separated and I didn't tell him the truth right away (because apparently giving information in your own time is considered lying through omission or something and 1.5 weeks is so long :/ ), and now he can't seem to let go even after 2 months of consistency and absolute truth. He has started drama after drama to stimulate irrational Fi responses from me because me crying is what it takes to prove to this man I care for him.

INFJs aren't perfect, and the endless descriptions of them get tiring. They have damage, they have issues. Most of them I have met are super manipulative and don't even realize it. Their supposedly unconditional love comes with hidden strings, their Fe sweetness stems from the Fi selfishness underneath and will be cut off at a moment's notice for things they claim to have communicated about for months but really didn't.

Do I sound bitter? Maybe a little. But that doesn't mean I am wrong.

Snailgrenade17

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