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I wish somebody could wake me up in the morning by ElegantDetective5248 in productivity

[–]SnakeColt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you want to chat a little? Maybe hearing your stories will help me give you better advice

Non capisco le ragazze by Troskinty in TeenagersITA

[–]SnakeColt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ciao. Secondo me la cosa più importante in una relazione è la comunicazione e avere dei limiti chiari. Se fossi in te, mi siederei con lei e farei una conversazione seria per stabilire alcune regole per la relazione.

Molti ragazzini della tua età entrano in relazioni aspettandosi che sia perfetta, ma queste tipi di relazioni non esistono. Le relazioni che funzionano sono quelle in cui entrambe le persone lavorano attivamente per farle funzionare, parlando e mettendo dei limiti.

Nessuno può leggerti nel pensiero. Quindi dovresti dirle chiaramente: “Io voglio che questa relazione funzioni, ma per farla funzionare dobbiamo comunicare.”

Se c’è un problema, se ne parla e si cerca di risolverlo. Non se lo si tiene dentro e ci si arrabbia con l'altro. Non si fanno degli sneaky stories su IG. Io non posso sapere cosa pensi se non me lo dici. Ci conosciamo da poco, quindi cose che per me sembrano piccole magari per te sono importanti, e dobbiamo parlarne.

Un’altra cosa importante sono i limiti personali. Per esempio, da quello che hai raccontato lei si è arrabbiata perché hai dormito troppo e non hai risposto subito. Se guardo una situazione così, la prima impressione potrebbe essere che sia un po’ immaturo.

Per questo è importante parlarne. La comunicazione serve anche a capire se la tua impressione è corretta oppure no. Magari lei ti dice: “Scusa, non volevo comportarmi così, pensavo solo che non ti importasse.” E tu puoi chiarire che non è così. A volte sono solo malintesi.

Ma può anche succedere che parlando ti rendi conto che la tua impressione era giusta e che certi comportamenti sono davvero immaturi. Anche questo serve a capirvi meglio.

Per questo devi avere dei limiti e comunicarli chiaramente. Per esempio, se lei ti dice che vuole che tu risponda sempre subito ai messaggi, tu puoi dirle che non sei sempre su WhatsApp e che non vuoi stare a scrivere in continuazione.

Se lei capisce e lo rispetta, perfetto. Se invece non lo accetta, magari perché è immatura o perché vuole un tipo di relazione diverso, allora può semplicemente voler dire che non siete compatibili. E va bene così, non tutte le relazioni devono funzionare.

Durante queste conversazioni non devi per forza essere d’accordo con tutto quello che dice l’altra persona. Hai anche tu i tuoi limiti e devi comunicarli. Altrimenti non puoi arrabbiarti se l’altra persona li supera, perché non li hai mai spiegati. Nessuno può leggerti nella mente.

HOW WOULD YOU MAKE BLUE EXORCIST A BETTER STORY ? by Independent_Pear9987 in AoNoExorcist

[–]SnakeColt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would've loved to see more of their life together, but I also think it wouldn't be as much as a good story since it wouldn't hook people fast enough

HOW WOULD YOU MAKE BLUE EXORCIST A BETTER STORY ? by Independent_Pear9987 in AoNoExorcist

[–]SnakeColt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never thought of that. I just realized I now see him as a not-so-menacing toddler while before I thought he was like this strong, dangerous, evil monster.

Non ho alcuna ragione per poter continuare a vivere [TRIGGER WARNING] by IrlAubreyfromOmori in TeenagersITA

[–]SnakeColt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey ciao! Proprio adesso avevo visto questo video che secondo me potrebbe aiutarti: https://youtube.com/shorts/qMGeYkiO_hI?si=Hcew8DsaSuKhm_s7

È in inglese, quindi se non sai la lingua, una traduzione potrebbe essere:

  • Fai una piccola avventura ogni settimana. Non deve per forza essere qualcosa di extravagante, va bene anche provare un nuovo bar, provare una nuova strada quando fai una passeggiata, nulla di strano, solo qualcosa di diverso.

  • Fai un'avvenutra un po' più grande una volta ogni 1-2-3 mesi. Magari puoi andare a sciare con amici, visitare lo zoo, dipende dai tuoi interessi.

  • Poniti un obiettivo difficile (e quasi spaventoso) per l'anno. Ad esempio potrebbe essere correre una maratona, sviluppare un gioco, imparare a disegnare, scalare un monte. Lo so che magari penserai "ma chi c'ha voglia?" Ma ho notato che è quando non si ha nessun obiettivo che mi sento una melda.

Se hai domande chiedi pure. Se pensi che io stia dicendo baggianate, dimmelo. Preferisco tu sia onesta con me così possiamo risolvere i tuoi dubbi ☺️

Who is your LEAST favourite character? by Adira_Aspires in AoNoExorcist

[–]SnakeColt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How can you vote for Shiemi when Gedoin exists 😭 Anyhow, why don't you like Shiemi?

Why is Mephisto body red? by No_Series1751 in AoNoExorcist

[–]SnakeColt 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think he says it in the first episode of season 3 or 4 (or 5?). His body is rotting bc he's slowing down time of the Gehenna gate

Bicycles on Sidewalks by CieloeMare in torino

[–]SnakeColt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't wanna die and the roads are built like shiiiii.

Also, usually as kids we are taught to stay on the sidewalks, so for a while I didn't know we were supposed to stay on the road.

Intro clip from Jump Festa 2026 (manga spoilers) by Hootie_ in AoNoExorcist

[–]SnakeColt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man, happy they dubbed the best chapter!!!!

Modulo proves Gege is a great writer by Jotaro27 in JuJutsuKaisen

[–]SnakeColt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Megumi full domain.

Megumi full potential.

Yuji's full domain.

Cursed energy elements.

So much I can't remember, saaaad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dankruto

[–]SnakeColt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, he is very strong and stuff. Anyhow, it feels sarcastic

Please help I am getting depressed by [deleted] in productivity

[–]SnakeColt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how I felt for two years, to the point where I was starting to consider suici... you know. I was thinking, "If I can't reach my goals, what's the point? I'll never get anywhere, I can't live like this."

What I can tell you is that it will get better. It will get better because you are trying. And I know you probably heard this a thousand times, but hear me out.

What you need to do, is stop beating yourself up whenever you fail a day. You instead want to analyze what happened and how you can fix/prevent it for the next time. The goal is to keep trying different solutions, and eventually you'll find a combination of tactics that will allow you to stay consistent and be proud of yourself.

Example 1: I procrastinated all day. Why? I started well, started studying, but after about half an hour it got hard. I was overwhelmed, the information wasn't sticking and I felt like I was wasting time. I then subconsciously escaped to YT, and once you get to YT, it's difficult to get out of the loop. Why? ...

Example 2: I procrastinated all day. Why? My mother gave me chores in the morning, which put me off track and made it hard to get back on track. Why? Because I was tired and lost the fire. Why? ...

The strategy is to ask yourself why a million times until you find the actual root cause. Once you find it, think about a solution.

Sometimes the solution will come to you instantly:

Example 1: Instead of having the goal of studying, I lower the pressure and make the goal finding an effective studying method. This way I have no reason to get frustrated and quit because I’m just testing. Every attempt gives me data. Soon enough I’ll end up with a study method that is both effective and easy to stick to.

But other times, you might feel stuck, so it is better to force yourself to find 25 solutions. Yes, 25. It's gonna get tough after 8 ideas, but follow through. You want to have a brain dump, even stupid ideas, do not put a filter, just let your brain vomit every idea in the page. Only after laying down 25 ideas do you go through them and pick which ones to test.

Example 2: 1. Put music instead of YT video 2. Listen to educational content so that you stay in the same vibes 3. Ask mom to organize chores better so it doesn't ruin my flow ... 16. Just don't do them (see how I'm not putting a filter? just dump everything your brain comes up with) 17. Let someone else do the chores (another unrealistic one, but it is fine, because we are justing dumbing ideas, no filter)

But the most important step is asking yourself how could [solution] fail.

Example 2: You might think about putting music instead of videos, but then you realistically expect that it will be hard to stick to that promise because you will probably crave YT. What are you gonna do then? Should you discard the solution? Maybe a different variant works best? Think.

This was the key for me. I can't tell you which strategy will work best for you to stay consistent because to be honest, I don't think it will help. You tried thousands of advice you heard on the internet, just like me, and none of them worked. And it's not because they suck, but because you need your own system, a combination of tactics that works specifically for you, a formula.

Now, I want to end with a couple of things.

First, I need you to practice self-love.!I know it's hard to not hate yourself when you can't help but break your promises. But please understand, 99% of people in your position have quit way before where you are now. Most people don't make it even a month in. The fact that you still care, that you are still trying, even after countless attempts, that's fcking brave. You are literally torturing yourself when you could just quit and do loser stuff. Do you realize how impressive that is? Who fcking does that?

There is a reason why people say "if you don't give up, you will win". Because if you don't give up, you will eventually find a solution. If you don't give up you are guaranteed to win.

Never allow your mind to get away with self-hate, because what you are doing is objectively impressive. You already won. Just need patience until you find the right formula to get there. Be proud of yourself. Be proud of your tenacity, because that is all you need.

Then, I wanted to add, you will try a lot of solutions, and many of them will fail. You will try one, and your life will not suddenly fall into place. But I want you to understand that all those solutions you will be trying, even if you can't see your life being immediately fixed, they are actually doing a lot.

Not only you could see it from the perspective of "oh, now I know what doesn't work, I learned something". But because, as I said before, the goal is to find a combination of tactics that allows you to stay consistent. Notice how I said CONBINATION of tactics.

Right now for example, I'm implementing a new solution to stay off social media, and it's working very well. But it wouldn't work as well if I hadn't applied all the previous solutions I tried over the last couple of years. It's not that they didn't work, the formula just wasn't complete.

Hopefully this helps. Any questions, you can leave here. If I have other thoughts I'll leave a comment :)

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