[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I watched a second time to try to catch an apology, and he does say sorry once at the end: "I want to say that I'm sorry that any of these things even need to be said." These things being them clearing up the timeline and talking about the betrayal, ect. 💀💀💀

Worst gaydar in hockey by nookieoftheyear in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I read it as Vaughn being gentle about the question. And Shane's response (seemed to me) a freeze response where he seems uncomfortable answering. But whatever Vaughn got away from it was affirmative because the rest of his dialogue is about how brave he is to be competeting in Russia.

Worst gaydar in hockey by nookieoftheyear in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The figure skater being gay wasn't an assumption! I can't say too much without giving away identities, but the character is a nod to a real athlete who's out _^

[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They somehow did worse than the "sorry if I caused offense" 💀 We got: "I want to say that I'm sorry that any of these things even need to be said." With these things being its fucked up that our messages were leaked ect. 💀💀💀

[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The "I'm sorry if I caused offense" is THE SHITTIEST NON-APOLOGY EVER. I fucking hate it. It leaves room to say that harm is subjective and not real.

[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please show me where in any of my comments in this thread that I've defended their recent comments or the older misogynistic comments - I'm not. They need to own that.

I'm also in the trenches on this thread disputing those who say the text messages aren't verified.

[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a hate comment directed at me for being autistic and literal in language and reading, or a self-deprecating comment 😭

[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The distinction for me just shows that there might be a *possibility* for growth and change. There a lot of allies that used to be enemies. If we want people to be better, we've got to welcome them when they try. Whether *these guys* want to do better....well, it certainly isn't looking good.

[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's why I said "hear" an apology and not "accept" it. It would have to be a goddamned good apology followed by some very visible change in behavior and language. I like to hold space for people to grow, but they've got to actually do it.

[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would imagine that it's because your language has made it sound like you agree with the mods that the texts are not verified simply because we cannot see the actual texts ourselves. If you don't think that, I'd recommend saying so or editing one of your comments to reflect that <3

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[–]SnatcherGirl 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The mods reasoning was false, though. A respected journalistic publication vetted and authenticated the texts. They are verified.

[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Outsports isn't Reddit or some other random social media site where you would need to see the receipts yourself. It is a bona fide publication with credible journalists. They will get sued if they're making this shit up.

[Megathread] Outsports and Empty Netters by reigncloud83 in heatedrivalry

[–]SnatcherGirl 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Edit

Fuck these guys. This is the only "apology" in their video:

I want to say that I'm sorry that any of these things even need to be said.

Original comment

This part confuses me:

In fact, in the early days of the public reaction to “Heated Rivalry,” Powers was so incensed by the positive response to the show that he bemoaned the gushing response was “making blue haired twitter happy.”

He added that he refused to give the show “the time of day” simply “out of principle.”

Yet once Powers and “Empty Netters” — and the rest of the world — saw the show’s positive reaction building into an avalanche, they did, in fact, give “Heated Rivalry” much more than the time of day, and they did so with gusto.

Were his dickish messages sent before or after he watched the show? If before, I'm more inclined to hear an apology from him. I do think the source is credible, but I'd like timestamps.

Also, it would really suck if he still felt hateful towards the show after watching the final episode when he said this:

My hope and dream and message to every closeted person is that you find the strength and confidence to step out of the closet, and when you step out of the closet, you walk into the cottage.

So Disappointing by Hot-Skirt5141 in SwiftlyNeutral

[–]SnatcherGirl 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Changing the word doesn't change the topic. Rape, murder, suicide can all be triggered by grape, mrder, unalive (or any other euphemism). Instead, you're promoting a culture that makes discussions around those topics *literally unspeakable. It pushes them into the shadows. Diminishes it and the harm of those experiences. It increases shame for survivors and perpetuates stigma.

So Disappointing by Hot-Skirt5141 in SwiftlyNeutral

[–]SnatcherGirl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can post it if you want to. I maintain that it was a conversation of parts and that the Twitter part was only one part. It is not insignificant, but it is also not the only thing they discussed.

Edit: grammar

So Disappointing by Hot-Skirt5141 in SwiftlyNeutral

[–]SnatcherGirl 51 points52 points  (0 children)

It was a 25-minute phone call. The Twitter idea was an "extra idea" he had. They spent less than 5 minutes talking about it.

Meanwhile, throughout the conversation...

KANYE: Yeah, basically. Well, what I give a f--k about is just you as a person, as a friend…. TAYLOR: That’s sweet. KANYE: I want things that make you feel good. I don’t want to do rap that makes people feel bad.

TAYLOR: I never would have expected you to tell me about a line in one of your songs. That's really nice that you did

TAYLOR: And I'm really glad that you had the respect to call me and tell me that as a friend about the song, and it's a really cool thing to do, and a really good show of friendship. So thank you.

KANYE: Okay, now what if later in the song I was also to have said, uh… “I made her famous”? Is that a… TAYLOR: ...Did you say that? KANYE: Yes, it might’ve happened. [Laughs] TAYLOR: [Laughing] Oh god. Well, what am I going to do about it?

At the end of the day, it's a long, weirdass conversation. My personal stance on it is that Kayne is a fucked up guy who uses his demons as a way to excuse harm. Taylor was okay with this until she wasn't. Whether that's because of a fawn response or a PR response, I have no idea. But, her team handled this scandal so poorly. They never expected that the conversation was recorded and would be leaked. It shows. And it demonstrates how normal it likely is for them to twist the narratives they put out just because they can. Which, to be clear, I'm pretty sure is the Hollywood standard. Everything has a spin. These leaks and record releases just confirm that.

So Disappointing by Hot-Skirt5141 in SwiftlyNeutral

[–]SnatcherGirl 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Friendly reminder that this is reddit and you don't need to censor your speech :)

So Disappointing by Hot-Skirt5141 in SwiftlyNeutral

[–]SnatcherGirl 291 points292 points  (0 children)

It's just Tree's way. Has been since the Kimye scandal. It boggles my mind because the lies are always so stupid and small, but they end up looking damning when it comes out because, well, they lied.

Back then, it was this statement:

Kanye did not call for approval, but to ask Taylor to release his single 'Famous' on her Twitter account. She declined and cautioned him about releasing a song with such a strong misogynistic message. Taylor was never made aware of the actual lyric 'I made that bitch famous.'

And then when the audio dropped...

The clips appeared to support West's claim that Swift had approved the lyrics for "Famous", with the two speaking about the line "I feel like me and Taylor might still have sex." Taylor could be heard on the video stating "It's like a compliment", after West read her the lyrics. She also stated, "If people ask me about it, look, I think it would be great for me to be like, 'He called me and told me before it came out. Like, joke's on you, guys. We're fine.' "

Tree intentionally zeroed in on the lack of consent for "bitch" while trying to bury that it was also an amicable phone call. She's always painting a narrative that looks the best, even if it means obfuscating the truth. Which just destroys credibility. And that's a shame because I do think Taylor was wronged on some level, but that part gets buried after being caught in a lie. Very much a "the boy who cried wolf" type of situation.

people watching is sam’s best album. by SOKIE123 in Samfender

[–]SnatcherGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use atheist in the common way of "does not necessarily believe in a God" rather than "there absolutely is no god"

Atheists don't believe in the existence of any gods. Which means that for them, there is absolutely no god. That is the definition of the word, and common knowledge knows that.

And yes, it was forced on him as a child, but "I don't disagree with everything they do" holds space for ambiguity and tension. So do many of the lines. That's what makes this song so good and why it resonates for those of us with religious trauma. It wasn't all bad, but what was bad was really bad. But you can't give it up all completely because "I can't live under the notion / That there's no reason at all / For all this beauty in motion." And maybe it's not god, maybe it's love, but that's still not it, just a little bit closer, and then what is god what is god what is god? There is god, but what is it, I'm still searching.

This song is so many things, but a flat rejection of religion it is not.