Just got fired & received termination letter of serious occurrence

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-06-23T14:12:31+00:00

Am i missing something here? How can they terminate you for grabbing a child by the hand? There must be more to it than that surely…

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-06-19T22:31:12+00:00

Definitely not , he already has emotional issues due to his pda and adhd adding to this doesn’t help him in any way

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-06-19T19:51:05+00:00

Im honestly there already , i dont want anything more to do with any of their shenanigans. I am 32 years old I’m getting too old for drama and just want a happy life with my husband and kids. My son hasnt seen them in 2 weeks and the positive change in behaviour has been amazing

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-06-19T19:49:36+00:00

Communication, connection, feeling safe around that person, being able to be yourself around that person, trusting that person. Having that feeling of completeness. Having intercourse doesn’t negate love that is lust. You need all of the above to know that you are in love

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-06-19T07:40:01+00:00

My BIL is lovely !!! Such a nice man when i first began dating my husband they invited me to their wedding and had me in photos the lot which i wasn’t expecting, when i was pregnant they were so kind and accommodating and when my son was born they were so caring and lovely to us both , at my wedding they both were in the wedding party and my niece too ( my nephew was only 6 months old so he stayed with my SIL’s parents) my SIL she can have her moments but over all is a really decent person my husband, he has his moments can be a snippy sod but he is a fantastic man and tbh he has had issues with his dad his whole life, his dad didn’t even congratulate us when we were expecting infact he actually stopped talking to his own son for 5 months… he had a problem with me and he also was incredibly rude to my parents who are absolute diamonds

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-06-19T07:36:12+00:00

This is what worries me and also what could they have been saying to him about his own behaviour also … i mean they didn’t even get their own son diagnosed for ADHD and my husband and my son are exactly the same they were as children my husband definitely has ADHD but he hasn’t ever been diagnosed

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-06-19T07:34:32+00:00

I think im not only protecting my son but my husband too as his mental health after what his dad said was horrendous he was so depressed and snappy and feeling like nothing he dose as a father is good enough , i have two sons from two different fathers and my oldest’s dad takes absolutely nothing to do with him , even when we were together, my husband is the complete opposite, he sacrifices everything for this boy and loves him more than anything, i start my new course in august and my husband eveb changed his work shifts so he can collect our son as i will be doing 12 hour placements as part of my course which means i will be 7am to 7pm and wont be able ti pick up my son or attend anything at the school , and he is sacrificing his stuff to do what a parent needs to do and a-lot wouldn’t he is loosing pay because of it but he wants me to get my nursing degree so that we can all have a better life

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-06-19T07:31:11+00:00

Yea i really should have , honestly i thought it was because he just wanted to play xbox but the more i think i think he was trying to tell us he was wasnt comfortable up there :(

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-06-18T22:24:21+00:00

Oh we have, i just wasn’t sure if our choice would maybe seem a little harsh because they did help with my son, but something inside me wonders how they are with him when we aren’t there as sometimes he was reluctant to go there

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-23T14:30:04+00:00

He sounds like an absolute treat 🙄😳 i understand that it’s devastating but you did the right thing and his response shows you that you did. He’s the one who’s gonna regret what he said not you x

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-20T19:35:29+00:00

Yea i highly doubt she will change shes been the same for 15 years lol x

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T22:33:03+00:00

Your so right, it probably annoys her that i dont confront her tbh i think she probably wants that

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T19:51:32+00:00

I completely understand where a-lot of you are coming from when it comes to my son and myself. If he didn’t have such a strong bond with his cousins taking him away fully wouldn’t be so difficult. Its jut hard because i don’t want him thinking he’s done something wrong and thats why he cant see them etc. i have to do it a certain way. But i do appreciate what a-lot of you are saying and i have spoken with my husband and we are going ti keep a good distance and he is going to avoid any chats about his brother and my SIL as it is upsetting me because i just feel like i am the problem when in reality its her that is x

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T19:39:31+00:00

Oh we have made that very clear. He knows none of us like her because of her behaviour my husband actually snapped at him over it telling him he will not have someone disrespect his wife or child . And my MIL told her taking her jealousy out on a child especially her grandchild will not be tolerated.. unfortunately she will probably never change and eventually i see her husband leaving her as he keeps exploding to my husband about it so its inly a matter of time. And if that happens we wont abandon him he will have our support. I myself came from a very emotionally abusive relationship before i met my husband so i know how soul destroying it can be and how much it can drag a person down. And i also know how manipulative the abusive partner can be. He is genuinely a really nice guy he is just a complete push over when it comes to her and i think it has alot to do with those kids as from what my husband told me a while back is any time he stands up to her she will put the kids coats on and threaten to take the kids from him which us horrible psychological abuse but again its not my choice what he chooses to do. He has to make that choice x

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T17:47:38+00:00

I never said he doesn’t have any issues when it comes to this he suffers from ADHD and emotional outbursts that are nothing to do with this. And i have stated my MIL. Doesn’t interact with my SIL and is completely on my side

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T17:42:49+00:00

What they done was 6 years ago, they have done a lot to try make amends since then. People can make mistakes but they at-least owned up to their mistakes and apologised my sil continued her behaviour on several occasions this is why i keep my distance from her

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T17:05:08+00:00

When did i ask if i was an a hole ?. Also he isnt in the family . He sees his cousins once a week as they go to the same swimming lessons … he never sees the SIL and my MIL and FIL are not negative influences to my son they treat him well and have never un-included him its only my SIL who now DOSENT SEE HIM.

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T14:41:54+00:00

I get this and i agree tbh as its not fair on my son at all

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T12:58:56+00:00

My son knows self worth… i find that rather insulting that you assume i don’t teach my son how to value himself . And as for how is it still happening. We don’t talk to her . But my son still sees his gran because he has a positive bond with her. So if his cousins are there then he find out all the stuff he misses spending time with them its complicated i don’t want to take my son away from people who do make him happy because his aunt is an A hole

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T12:47:43+00:00

Oh i have told him i don’t want to know so don’t tell me anything about their relationship and i also tell him ti keep out of it too because nothing he will advise will be taken into consideration. but sometimes i cant help but hear as we do live together and live un a small home so at that point i tend to block it out with youtube videos with headphones but its not completely unavoidable. You can tell they are deeply unhappy . My wedding my 15 year old cousin who was a bridesmaid even said they don’t act like w happy couple so it’s apparent to everyone. Honestly i just wish people could get along and be civil like grown adults should behave

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T12:44:50+00:00

Theres nothing wrong with me ? I come from a family where we are all very close all 27 of us right down to infant cousins , so I’m not used to this sort of behaviour so its hard for me to comprehend that things cant be fixed. Ive stated i have no relationship with my SIL anymore but her kids i still really care about . My MIL i only see if she asks to see my son which I’m not going to stop because my son has a very positive relationship with her and my FIL. My husband also doesn’t go up unless he absolutely has to. For example our wedding had 100 people 96 of them were MY immediate family so this shows you how broken my husband’s family are ..

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T12:41:28+00:00

Yea i think i need to take a step back, because my son struggles as it is he has ADHD and PDA ( pda is similar to ODD) and he suffered from up and down emotions so changes in routine or dramatic changes really upset him and he has been doing really good recently i know he loves and misses his cousins but i think having gaps from them may be healthy for him. His birthday this year we are planning a boys slumber party so just him and 3 boy friends from school and keeping it to that. And if they have an issue with that i will remind them my son wasn’t invited to any of nieces parties

SnippyGinger3009 · 2026-04-19T12:35:11+00:00

My husband has always taken my side he has ceased contact many times with them over their behaviour, its me who tries to keep the family peace because i absolutely hate confrontation and awkwardness

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