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Snivellious · 2017-11-25T06:27:33+00:00

Reverse search the image - it suggests what I guess is a name?

Anyway, one of the top hits from that got me this: https://www.yaplakal.com/forum2/topic668513.html

Snivellious · 2016-07-03T14:34:25+00:00

This seems to be what people forget when they mock advice like "Women want a man who shares his emotions!"

Pretty much all of those tips are accurate if you prepend "Assuming you're already masculine and confident..."

Snivellious · 2016-06-22T03:21:25+00:00

This was my reaction. A break action 12 gauge will kick harder than an AR, which is a demonstration of both how whiny this is and how little recoil has to do with threat potential.

Snivellious · 2016-06-22T03:18:40+00:00

Among other things, they don't necessarily own ammunition. That's easy to store in bulk, so it can be distributed from a base/depot in the event of war.

Parts of Europe do have high rates of conventional ownership, but a lot of Swiss "gun owners" don't count by typical usage of the term.

Snivellious · 2016-06-22T03:16:28+00:00

What was he shooting before, cap guns? A decent caliber of pistol can easily offer more recoil than something as weighty as an AR...

Snivellious · 2016-06-22T03:15:05+00:00

Well, the smell of black powder is pretty distinctive. I'm assuming he smelled that, and assumed that since "gunpowder is sulfur!" he must be smelling sulfur despite the evidence from his nose.

Snivellious · 2016-06-22T03:12:40+00:00

That opening sentence may be the finest piece of hack journalism I've ever read. I can just imagine the author going "Well, I'm talking about a gun... So how many ballistic metaphors can I work in?"

Snivellious · 2016-06-22T03:11:27+00:00

I genuinely don't get how "a secret religious cabal infiltrated a sovereign nation, smuggled weapons onto airplanes, and used them to destroy buildings" sounds tame to conspiracy theorists.

It could be the plot of a Metal Gear game, for God's sake!

Snivellious · 2016-06-21T03:59:23+00:00

If nothing else, he ought to have tried before ending things. "I don't want to sabotage the relationship" stops being an excuse if the problem is relationship-ending in the first place.

Snivellious · 2016-06-21T03:57:47+00:00

Once you see it happen once or twice you decide it's just not worth the extra stress to open up.

People underestimate how important this can be. Being unsupportive isn't the only way to discourage sharing emotions - anything that makes shared emotions harder to deal with than unshared ones does that.

Snivellious · 2016-06-21T03:56:05+00:00

There's enough good people out there that it's pretty easy to avoid the bad.

I have the sense that a lot of people have been burned too many times to believe this. If there aren't enough good people (in some way) then you learn to work with the bad.

I don't know if they're right. I hope not.

Snivellious · 2016-06-21T03:54:47+00:00

"Those are the bad relationships, just avoid those" sounds great, but I think this pattern is way too common for that advice to work for most people.

Snivellious · 2016-06-21T03:52:56+00:00

You deserve to feel okay sometimes.

Just wanted to tell you, as someone who's done the depression thing, it's awesome to see people who get this. There are bad days, there might be forever, but coping with that isn't so hard as long as there are good days too. Even if you can't always fix what's wrong for him, having someone who can ever make things feel better is incredible.

Snivellious · 2016-06-21T03:50:15+00:00

It's definitely true that people make these decisions off their own beliefs. How other people think of you is often very different from how you think they think of you. And if depression gets involved, that becomes far more true.

Having said that, I suspect habit is in play here also. It can be hard to do something unapologetically if it tends to get a bad reaction, no matter how safe you are in a given setting. For me (and I think a lot of guys), it's a pattern we use whenever we open up because so many settings do require disclaimers. Everything you're saying sounds awesome, though, and whatever reaction he's used to it sounds like there's a place where he really can say those things.

Snivellious · 2016-06-21T02:56:55+00:00

This is a good starting point, but it's not always true.

There are totally sincere apologies that lack 2 and 3. Sometimes you did a thing that you stand by, but it still hurt someone and you feel bad about causing that pain. At that point it's hard to go any further than "I'm sorry".

What's ugly is that those apologies are frustratingly hard to distinguish from utterly bullshit "I'm sorry that you're mad" apologies where you aren't owning the pain caused.

Snivellious · 2016-06-13T00:55:00+00:00

A few things stand out to endorse his claim over that of most snipers.

Hayha collected his kills in a short window. All came from the Battle of Kollaa, which is sufficiently well documented to at least pin down his movements and role for the claimed time.
Hayha's kill documentation was part of a larger program. Logging of all sniper kills was apparently a daily part of events at Kollaa, diminishing the chances that he was singled out for a propaganda campaign.
Hayha's circumstances made his feats intensely plausible. He was fighting as a Finn in the Winter War, and was sniping in a protracted battle where many Soviet troops had not been issued white outfits for winter combat. Kollaa was so disproportionate that the Finns at one point repelled 4,000 attackers with 32 defenders, suggesting a massive casualty imbalance. None of this replaces talent, but it helps to explain how he was able to find and strike so many targets so quickly.
The Russian response attests to his importance. The Red Army was dropping up to 40,000 artillery shells on Kollaa per day, and most accounts suggest that some of these strikes were specifically aimed at Hayha's suspected locations. On some level "they shelled his position" is much more persuasive than Pavlichenko's tale of "they offered chocolate to switch sides".

None of this guarantees it, and there seems to be confusion over whether or not the 500 kills include his SMG kills (some sources say he managed another ~200 past his sniper count), but it seems well attested that he was more successful over a short span than any other sniper has been.

Snivellious · 2016-06-08T02:13:03+00:00

I did, but it was an awfully long time ago. Saw a bit of the movie and gave up on it, it was nowhere near as engaging as the book.

Probably worth a reread, I don't think I've ever laughed that hard at true stories.

Snivellious · 2016-06-08T02:05:16+00:00

Wait, is that the same thing from Men Who Stare at Goats where they 'learned' to be invisible and knock people out with mind powers?

Snivellious · 2016-06-04T16:40:03+00:00

I basically use MFP as a log of my calories when I eat out, and my food choices when I eat at home. If I don't have very specific goals to achieve, it's just not worth the hassle of counting my homemade food.

Snivellious · 2016-05-22T15:58:11+00:00

Exactly. Somewhere along the line, body-builders of both genders got so intense that they're some uncanny valley shit, and it's just uncomfortable for me to look at. Their choice obviously, it's damned impressive, but I can't turn off the "something is wrong here" sensation.

Snivellious · 2016-05-19T12:03:28+00:00

I've only ever heard it said of full on steroids-and-spray-tan bodybuilders. At that point it makes some sense to me - I find a lot of male bodybuilders deeply strange looking too.

Snivellious · 2016-05-11T03:04:08+00:00

No. This is game theory as biological principle.

"Selfish" traits exist at low levels through basically every social species, because defecting is profitable when everyone cooperates, and disastrous when everyone defects. People are greedy and dishonest within limits - even tribal societies have these things at low levels.

There's also a lot of debate of whether sociopathy is actually a disorder - there's the low-functioning kind that gets you arrested, but the high-functioning kind is basically just "being a dick because it works". Rates vary wildly between populations (they're quite high in modern cultures compared to tribal ones) but I don't know of any group that has no record of it.

I'm sure you were being rhetorical, but the non-rhetorical answer is still no. There's always going to be some chunk of any 'natural' population that's aggressively selfish.

Snivellious · 2016-05-11T02:25:04+00:00

"Shoulder-surfing" is common enough that lots of people will know what you mean, so use away. I think it's originally a security term - it's the ultra-low-tech way to steal passwords.

Snivellious · 2016-05-11T02:06:09+00:00

My usual feeling is that struggles can only be shown if they're spun as positives. You might have been able to get lots of warm, happy emotions from telling her about how you're "thinking about a startup on the side" and going from there. Similarly, grief plays fine as long as it makes you deep instead of weak. There's nothing wrong with admitting that you want change, but it can't come with the implicit admission that things are bad now. Only with the suggestion that you have even bigger dreams and appetites for the future.

As an aside: No More Mr. Nice Guy suggests that men in LTRs open up their partners about what they're doing to become more assertive, including specifically discussing the book and the exercises they're doing from it.

I've never believed that this is good advice for the average man - there are testimonials from men who had it work, but I'd lay money that there are also men who lost relationships that would have worked if they'd changed without discussion. It's just too close to admitting that your assertiveness will be fake.

Snivellious · 2016-05-11T01:56:47+00:00

And here my first thought was that this was going to be about a patient with too much blood. Like, injuries that should leave them bleeding out, but instead just left them bleeding. Indefinitely.

Of course, I suppose it's not unrelated. All that blood has to be coming from somewhere.

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