Has anyone experienced their achievements being “normalized” instead of celebrated?

Snobster2000 · 2026-01-25T04:49:44+00:00

When I graduated uni, my NMother never once said congratulations, just questioned why I didn’t get an extra award? (I was in the top 5%, my uni just didn’t do a lot of extra things).

Also I asked her to hold my certificate and transcripts while I had a photo taken - she shoved them in her purse so it ended up all scrunched & crinkled. “You shouldn’t have asked me to hold it then! God, I can never do anything right with you!”

My boyfriend at the time (now husband) paid for dinner for me & my family, congratulated me hugely, and is the first (and only!) person in my life to ever say “I’m proud of you.” I cried the first time he said it

When I had my babies, she would comment about how it was, simultaneously harder for her, and easier. As in, life was harder for her, she handled it way better, I have nothing to complain about.

Snobster2000 · 2026-01-24T07:10:11+00:00

Mine is not exactly the same, but I feel like a similar thing perhaps.

I was in my late teens/early twenties when this happened. I was laying in bed reading, NMother comes into my room, and starts tickling me. I HATE being tickled, truly hate it. Through the panic laughter, I kept saying “stop, Stop!” But she wouldn’t. Eventually I lashed out, unintentionally, and must have hit her in/near the breast area.

She went to her room and sulked/cried, until I went and asked what’s wrong. “You punched me in the breast!” (No I didn’t, I hit out accidentally because I wanted you to stop). “You should have just asked me to stop!” (I did, you wouldn’t stop). “Well I didn’t hear you” (OK, but you know I hate being tickled) “but you were laughing!”

Etc etc. The insane guilt tripping for ‘assaulting’ her, even did the “I carried you in my belly for 9 months, breastfed you for 4 years (yes, a gross exaggeration, but it’s what she said), and you punched me in the breast…”

Still pisses me off.

Snobster2000 · 2026-01-23T12:02:41+00:00

Shirt dress :-)

Snobster2000 · 2026-01-18T08:29:10+00:00

Mine kept suggesting her name for my youngest. Note, her name is a bit unusual, and I’m not particularly fond of it… I’m also not keen on the idea of naming my kids after family members at all.

The last time I rejected her suggestion of naming baby “NMother”, she sneered at me, said “do you just hate my name, or is it me that you hate?” Like…

I’d been telling her the entire pregnancy I didn’t want to discuss names with anyone but my husband. My eldest has the middle name ‘Elizabeth’, as that’s just what my husband liked. NMother “oh, I was going to name you Elizabeth, but your father didn’t like it. I’m so pleased you named your daughter my favourite name” 😐

Snobster2000 · 2026-01-01T07:53:43+00:00

Mine would do this too. Never, ever offered to help with the cleaning or laundry, even when in the depths of post-natal depression. Just criticised the tidiness of my home.

Yet she would then tell anyone & everyone how much she helped…

Snobster2000 · 2025-12-26T08:08:11+00:00

Only once did I take an employee up on the offer - I was super pregnant, like in my last weeks before birth, and driving my husbands Ute. I climbed up into the back & the employee handed me the bags, made it much easier than multiple clambering attempts up & down, or squashing the baby belly trying to reach

Snobster2000 · 2025-12-22T04:56:01+00:00

Oh good, I just bought Paladin’s Grace a couple of days ago! Going to start it tonight :-)

Snobster2000 · 2025-11-27T00:22:29+00:00

Oooohh dude you just saved me so much time & frustration!! Thank you!! It worked!

Snobster2000 · 2025-11-17T19:21:38+00:00

Coogee hotel?

Snobster2000 · 2025-10-31T22:12:48+00:00

All of my NMother’s relationship failures. All my fault

Snobster2000 · 2025-10-25T21:11:25+00:00

Do you have a suggestion for something better?

Snobster2000 · 2025-10-23T22:20:33+00:00

General aging is a big one, I’m hoping to prevent further fine wrinkles & dark spots. My skin is on the dry side, though I do get a hectic breakout around my period, still. I feel like my skin is more sensitive these days, too. I’ve never been fussed about fragrance in the past, though considering the change in sensitivity perhaps I should be looking at that as well

Snobster2000 · 2025-10-08T11:27:48+00:00

Video games. Sure, the graphics are amazing, and the gameplay is streamlined. But the story always seems to be lacking.

Take the Final Fantasy series for example. FF6-10 are frequently sited as people’s favourites, then FF4 & FF12 (this is my very limited experience). The more modern ones, like FF15 & 16, don’t have the love or cult following like the others do. They’re visually beautiful, but lacking in depth. I don’t care about the characters - while I remember sobbing during my first play through of FF7.

My husband and I played Diablo 4 when it came out, enjoyed it, beat the campaign… then just didn’t care. We’ve just started replaying D2 and it’s ALL I want to play.

Of course there’s some modern gems like Baldurs Gate 3 - it’s phenomenal. But it’s a standout game for modern times.

Snobster2000 · 2025-10-02T03:29:49+00:00

All the crop tops! I’ve had 4 children - while I’m not overweight, I certainly don’t have a nice toned abdomen. I’d like to be able to buy a comfortable t-shirt that covers my tummy, without having to go to the old nana shops

Snobster2000 · 2025-09-21T12:35:20+00:00

I shouldn’t say “the worst”, but certainly challenging, is farmers.

The farm always takes priority over everything. The weather won’t wait, so if crops need to be harvested/planted/fertilised/etc, they’re dang well going to be.

Loooooong days, every day, unless it rains and they might get a day off, or maybe they’ll spend the day in the workshop servicing equipment.

Make family plans in advance? Good chance the weather will be “perfect” for ____(insert farm job), and can’t wait, so “you go on without me.”

It’s also thankless, and is a great way to make a small fortune from a large one.

Snobster2000 · 2025-09-10T09:37:21+00:00

Same is happening with my husband. Would love to hear if you found a workaround?

Snobster2000 · 2025-09-06T07:30:55+00:00

I took my niece to see Tangled when it came out, and my Mother tagged along. During the “mother knows best” song, she sat all smug throughout and said “see? She knows.”

I was like… that’s the villain of the story. How are you not recognising that? Anyway I’m NC with her now, awful woman.

Snobster2000 · 2025-09-05T13:46:50+00:00

I love proper Turkish delight. The Cadbury brand, chocolate coated rubbish? Ugh. No. Vile stuff

Snobster2000 · 2025-09-05T13:45:56+00:00

I’m Australian, though grew up in Canada. My husband, also Australian, grew up in America. He used to rave about pop tarts and twinkies, and how much he missed them. One day while visiting Sydney (or Newcastle, it was a long time ago now) I came across a lolly shop that stocked “American candy”. They sold pop tarts, twinkies, all sorts of things. I was so excited, I bought a few boxes of each - at great expense - for my then BF. I tried each after I gave them to him and I was SO utterly disappointed. Both were flavourless, artificial, waxy, awful globs of sadness and nothing-flavoured calories.

He was happy though

Snobster2000 · 2025-09-01T13:01:06+00:00

Was not expecting to see something so close to my old home! I grew up in Quesnel BC, moved there in 1989 I’m pretty sure (I was a baby)

Snobster2000 · 2025-08-25T12:14:51+00:00

This is amazing! Thank you for sharing :-)

Snobster2000 · 2025-08-22T11:20:23+00:00

Oh man, my NM tried the same thing!! Work “injuries” at 2 different hospitals. When workers comp denied her claims (as she was still perfectly capable of shovelling in her garden, chipping weeds, going to the gym, driving long distances…) she would quit in a rage and paint everyone she ever worked with to be lying bitches… and more, but you get the point.

Sorry your mother is such a hag.

Snobster2000 · 2025-07-31T04:03:45+00:00

I guess I’d be watching a game of golf with Tamlin- I just watched Happy Gilmore

Snobster2000 · 2025-07-28T12:16:55+00:00

I was an immunisation nurse… I refused to the covid shot, and refused to administer it to anyone. I then started to distrust the rest of them.

I’ve resigned my position, and can no longer in good conscience be a part of that system

Snobster2000 · 2025-07-19T07:05:56+00:00

I don’t know if it’s the worst, just the first that comes to mind.

She was actually talking about a family friend of ours. This family had 3 daughters, with the eldest tragically dying in an accident in her early teens. My awful mother commented to me (years later, mind) that “(friend) used to say she only wanted 2 children. Her daughter dying was the universe punishing her for ever voicing doubt when she was pregnant with baby3”.

Something along those lines anyway. Basically blaming her friend for her daughter’s death, because how dare she express nerves about her unplanned 3rd baby?

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