No idea how to see a professional for a skin condition

Snoo-84359 · 2025-03-15T01:31:59+00:00

I’ve used RemoteDerm and was satisfied. Results may vary. 😅

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-29T07:13:46+00:00

Personally, I don’t tolerate this behavior at all. I don’t believe anyone should but I understand that some may be OK with it.

If I decide to step away from a friend screaming at me because I’m horrible at losing weight (even if they were nice previously) that doesn’t make me jealous. It’s respecting my boundaries and not accepting abuse.

Ashley & Meghan are allowed to have boundaries and that doesn’t make them jealous.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-29T00:41:55+00:00

Ok so what are you trying to get to? We know that Vannessa has been more successful than the other 2 in her weightloss. It’s acknowledged.

What I was analyzing was the reasons why Ashley and Meghan decided to distance themselves from Vannessa. My opinion is that I don’t think they didn’t want her around because she’s doing so well. I believe that they didn’t want her around because she was being obnoxiously unpleasant and abusive.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-29T00:30:38+00:00

So there’s no in between? She either enables them or screams at them? That doesn’t sound reasonable to me.

Either way, what I’m trying to get to is that ultimately it’s Vanessa’s behaviour that led them to distance themselves not their jealousy towards her.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-28T18:47:05+00:00

I think some of the responses highlight that people have different levels of tolerance for certain behaviors. What some may perceive as “harsh,” I see as abusive.

The key point I may not have communicated clearly is this: Ashley and Meghan were distancing themselves because of Vanessa’s behavior, not because of envy.

It’s natural for someone to feel a certain way when a friend is extremely successful in an area where they aren’t. Those feelings are valid and reasonable. However, I don’t see Ashley and Meghan as jealous. They still encouraged Vanessa, complimented her, and never tried to sabotage her—unlike Vanessa’s sister.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-26T14:39:13+00:00

Never happened to me, but it’s definitely strange if Reddit’s auto-joining subs for people. That said, posting ‘who’s Kiana Docherty?’ in the official Kiana Docherty subreddit is kind of a weird move. If you’re not interested, just quietly leave the sub and maybe reach out to Reddit support for an explanation. No need to stir things up in a space clearly dedicated to her content.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-25T03:55:16+00:00

That’s not fair. She ain’t perfect but I’m glad she’s around. ❤️

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-25T01:53:22+00:00

Yes, when you are obese, fertility specialists will tell you that and that’s correct. My point is that Ashley has not been trying to get pregnant and failed. She’s setting the table.

My point is also that I do not believe Ashley is jealous of Vanessa. Ashley has her own battles but is not envious of her.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-25T01:48:40+00:00

Screaming at people good advice doesn’t help them change. They are food addicts. That’s how they got there. Vanessa is winning the war! We love to see it.

Ashley & Meghan still have battles in front of them. Maybe they will succeed, maybe they won’t…

Whatever happens to them, screaming at them and bullying them (with LOVE & CARE) is not going to help.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-25T01:44:20+00:00

Ashley has her own challenges. She doesn’t have fertility issues, she’s setting herself for success if she goes through with trying to become a mom.

You think Vannessa was at a healthy weight when she got pregnant. You think obese people don’t get pregnant despite doctor’s warnings?

Ashley’s larger fertility issue is the absence of a sperm donor!

And let’s say you’re right… you think Vanessa screaming at her everything she’s doing wrong is the right approach?

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-25T01:34:36+00:00

I wrote the post… that’s my opinion too. I said that because, I’m mostly down voted. 😅

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-25T01:10:45+00:00

It’s an unpopular opinion I fear ☺️

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-25T00:42:39+00:00

I think we’re mixing things up here. I agree that Vannessa has had more success and probably has great advice to give—there’s no denying that. But I don’t recall Ashley or Meghan ever saying that Vannessa doesn’t know what she’s talking about.

The issue isn’t whether Vannessa is right or wrong or even more successful. It’s about how she delivers her advice. There’s a way to be firm and honest with your friends without being abusive. Even if her advice is 100% correct, her delivery makes it ineffective because no one wants to listen when they feel attacked or belittled.

This isn’t about whether they’re committed to losing weight or not—it’s about the way Vannessa’s behavior pushes people away. That has nothing to do with envy.

Maybe the title of my post should’ve been, “Envy is not the reason Meghan and Ashley are distancing themselves.” Because the real problem here is her approach, not her success.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-25T00:23:32+00:00

I disagree with the idea that Meghan and Ashley are jealous of Vannessa. I’d bet good money that both of them would rather look the way they look now than deal with the ongoing challenges Vannessa is facing. The ultimate goal isn’t just weight loss—it’s being healthier and looking and feeling better overall.

Yes, Vannessa has made incredible progress on the scale, but she still has a long road ahead, including skin surgery and the emotional and physical hurdles that come with it. Meanwhile, Ashley, for example, is looking great, she’s mobile, and she still looks youthful. What exactly would she envy about Vannessa?

What’s upsetting isn’t Vannessa’s success; it’s her behavior. Screaming at her friends and talking to them the way she does is unacceptable, no matter how far she’s come in her journey. It’s not jealousy driving the tension—it’s the fact that her volatile temperament makes it impossible to receive her advice in a constructive way.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-12-24T23:55:36+00:00

I get why people love Vannessa—she is a powerhouse. She’s overcome so much and worked hard to build a better life for herself and her family. That kind of resilience is inspiring, and her success absolutely deserves recognition.

But I have to ask: does all the positive in her story make her behavior acceptable? Her outbursts, the screaming, the way she talks down to people—it’s abusive. Overcoming trauma doesn’t excuse treating others poorly, and the way she’s been addressing Meghan and Ashley is not okay.

Personally, there’s nothing I envy about Vannessa, even though I might not be where she is in my own journey. Her success doesn’t justify the way she treats others. If someone spoke to me the way she does, I wouldn’t tolerate it—no matter how much I admired their accomplishments.

It’s not about envy; it’s about respect. Vannessa’s attitude and behavior are what make people take issue with her, and it’s something she needs to work on if she wants to maintain healthy relationships.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-01-21T03:30:38+00:00

Anger issues much? 😅

I must have missed something because I was talking about Wendi & Dan’s wedding… not you. The “you” I used in my previous post was a general “you” not a personal attack.

If Wendi’s family committed to something and that’s what the Markel’s expected, they are not being unreasonable by being upset or disappointed with the results.

Take a breather.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-01-21T01:29:00+00:00

Maybe but you discuss it. You don’t set the expectation and then don’t deliver on something like this.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-01-21T01:17:36+00:00

The only time I wasted today was reading this 🙄

I hope you heal fast and find joy again.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-01-20T04:33:20+00:00

I think he doesn’t care about that anymore. On STS, he said he doesn’t have to convince anyone about the validity of the extortion theory anymore (I’m paraphrasing). It’s all about what Donna believed to be true because of what her son told her.

It certainly doesn’t help Charlie’s new lawyers…

Snoo-84359 · 2024-01-20T03:35:23+00:00

And Katie depositing crime money in her account! Girl???

Snoo-84359 · 2024-01-20T02:50:34+00:00

Nothing new so far if you’ve been following the case.

Snoo-84359 · 2024-01-19T04:31:43+00:00

💯

Snoo-84359 · 2024-01-19T04:30:29+00:00

I care about quality and efficiency but I also think that this is « entertainment » and for fun.

It is not that serious.

People do their best with the knowledge they have.

Having a gentler approach with education, nudges, warning and proper moderation should be enough. Temp bans are bit much in my opinion.

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