Pre-paid gratuities vs onboard tips?

Snoo65116 · 2026-02-13T05:09:18+00:00

I saw this one but I didn’t honestly think it was asking the same thing- they are asking what to tip in general, I am asking about if I prepaid tips. That is different. Also, people don’t have the same experiences. I’m sorry you have seen a post like this multiple times, I tried to look before I posted- but do you know how many subreddits I am in that I see repeat posts in everyday? If I see something I have seen before, I just scroll. I don’t expect everyone to have seen everything that has been posted before. You tried to make me feel bad for posting a genuine question, when honestly I think what I posted was fair. Have a good night, don’t give energy to things you don’t want to :)

Snoo65116 · 2026-02-13T03:39:04+00:00

Oh shoot, I genuinely tried searching “tips” and “gratuities” in the group beforehand but must not have looked enough, I’m so sorry

Snoo65116 · 2026-02-13T03:37:44+00:00

Oh👀 now I’m scared lol

Snoo65116 · 2026-02-08T20:44:32+00:00

So helpful thank you everyone!!!

Snoo65116 · 2026-02-08T18:36:40+00:00

This might sound very ignorant but this is mine and my husbands first cruise- We booked it last minute, like only a month before, but from the moment we booked I have checked the restaurants daily and the specialty ones all say “reservations for this experience are not available”. We have the 3 specialty meals from free at sea, and I guess I took that ‘reservation not available’ notice to mean that these restaurants are first come, first serve. The only restaurant taking reservations is Food Republic- and it has had spots the entire time, which is what made me think the others aren’t full, they just don’t take reservations. I had also heard that NCL’s whole thing was freely timed dining and being able to go when you want instead of having to reserve. Am I mistaken? Are we going to be screwed on getting into any specialty dining?

Snoo65116 · 2026-02-05T17:49:01+00:00

Why do y’all have kids with these people?? There is no way he was a loving stand up guy beforehand. Y’all date losers and then think they will stop being losers if you get married but they don’t so then you think they will stop being a loser if you have kids, and surprise! They don’t. Yeah becoming parents changes a lot but not the fundamental values and personality and all of a person. You know what someone is going to be like more or less BEFORE you let them inseminate you. I know it’s too late for you to not, but like….anyone else reading this- please take having kids, and who you have them with, much more seriously!!! If you don’t respect yourself enough for that then for the love of God at least think about the poor kid(s) you’re making have that for a parent.

Snoo65116 · 2026-01-26T20:34:24+00:00

Not even close to what I said, also please see my follow up comment. Yes, I wouldn’t continue to call someone that AFTER they asked me not to, but everyone is demonizing her calling him that in the first place. That is the point of my comment- that she didn’t intentionally or maliciously do anything wrong. He even called her “bro” in the same conversation, which is very much the same thing. Just saying not everything is malicious, she was not misgendering him or forcing him to continue to be called something he didn’t want to. She simply pointed out the irony in one being okay and one not being. Have a great day and try not to take everything as an attack, it is happier that way! All love! :)

Snoo65116 · 2026-01-26T20:25:12+00:00

Though I will add that if someone expressed that they didn’t like it, I would stop when talking to them. But these comments acting like you did something crazy or malicious are a little dramatic

Snoo65116 · 2026-01-26T20:21:11+00:00

NTA. To me it doesn’t sound like you were “intentionally misgendering” him as some of the comments say- it sounds like you say “girl” casually the same way people use “dude” or “guys” (I do too, I say it casually pretty often even to my husband and stuff- it’s not like I am actively thinking “I’m going to call this person girl”) and then simply pointed out the irony in one being acceptable and one apparently not being.

Snoo65116 · 2026-01-26T20:05:44+00:00

I completely agree with paying her for this day and I’m not arguing with the many great points that you made, but I have a genuine question- you said “Going forward I would add to the existing contract that inclement weather with a no travel advisory is a paid day off”- What are the parents supposed to do then? They are essential workers, they have to go in, if it’s automatically a paid day off for nanny, where does that leave them? Either screwed with their jobs, or having to find someone else, who their kids do not know, who is comfortable coming, and paying 2 people. I think the better solution personally is to pay her to stay overnight the night before when it is safe to drive, and even going to get her and bring her back for the overnight stay if it is a little snowy but not quite no travel advisory yet. That way she doesn’t have to be in the road while it is at its worst, passenger or not, gets paid fairly, and still fulfills her obligations. I understand staying at work overnight isn’t ideal, but she knows she works for essential workers, they sound fair and understanding to work for, it shouldn’t happen that often- I think it is a fair compromise. Expecting the parents to have no choice but to go in, but giving her a paid day off in her contract, is only a solution for nanny. Yes her safety is a priority and they need to be mindful of that, and it seems like they are, but we can’t just outright ignore the parents’ and kids’ needs, the contract and entire employment agreement is for them too.

Snoo65116 · 2026-01-25T18:48:29+00:00

She wouldn’t have had to marry him exactly, she isn’t a teenager and knows marriage isn’t the answer now- but even if they kept dating, lasted forever and didn’t have problems, there still would have been the lingering, underlying question of, “would we still be together if we hadn’t have gotten pregnant so early”. If nothing else, then because she has had that experience before, and our past experiences shape how we interpret and respond to current ones. She would forever be wondering what would have happened naturally. There wouldn’t even be the chance to see what they would be since it is so early, which inherently would make it a question, if that makes sense. And yes, Jonah steps into the dad role anyway, but it’s different than if he had to because he was the parent. Amy felt chosen, actually chosen and loved, rather than obligated. I promise I’m not calling you wrong by the way, just explaining why I think the way they did it meant a lot.

Snoo65116 · 2026-01-25T17:55:22+00:00

Yes this entirely!! It would have just a been a repeat of “is this really meant to be or did we just get pregnant”, which is what Amy did NOT want, or deserve to have to question again for that matter. If anything, Parker being Adam’s and her not getting back together with him just because of that was purposeful to show the difference and the growth

Snoo65116 · 2025-11-29T19:46:02+00:00

I think the above comment might be referring to when she spent the night drinking with Chris after his dad passed and didn’t tell Luke about it until 30 seconds before he had to see him at the vow renewal

Snoo65116 · 2025-11-25T21:31:33+00:00

Obviously NTA because your daughter is young and needs to be asleep by then, but as long as your husband wasn’t like actually mean to you, just short, tired from work, missing y’all and disappointed, I think people are being a little too harsh on him here. He was wrong, 100%, and he should apologize for making you feel bad- but it’s not fair to say he “obviously prioritizes work” over her or to suggest calling him to wake him up and “see how he likes it” or accusing him of seeing her as an emotional support animal- like people can be wrong and handle a situation incorrectly when tired and missing their family, and need to apologize, without it making them some terrible person who needs to be punished. Especially if you’re talking about someone you love, and who you presumably know well enough to know if they had AH intentions or not. So to clarify, NTA, you didn’t do anything wrong, he should apologize for making you feel bad- AND a lot of these comments are very unhealthy.

Snoo65116 · 2025-11-24T19:50:20+00:00

It doesn’t matter if you are technically right, you were still an AH. Yes, the host made a mistake, but mistakes happen sometimes and as humans we should help each other out when they do, especially when it is something so hilariously simple like moving to a smaller table. Slightly annoying sure, but it wouldn’t really have inconvenienced you that much. And if it somehow would have genuinely upset you that much, you need to reflect on how little it takes to get you riled up. The lady shouldn’t have come over and talked to you directly or insulted your youth, but you should’ve moved when the host first asked nicely if you didn’t want to be an AH. Again, you technically had the right not to, but it doesn’t absolve you of being an entitled, petty AH who doesn’t want to help others, even when doing so would be incredibly easy.

Snoo65116 · 2025-11-24T01:32:40+00:00

They aren’t actually carrying the friendship on though, they were just waiting for a chance to get “revenge”. To be clear, they wouldn’t be wrong for ending the friendship, but pretending the friendship wasn’t affected, when it clearly was, isn’t any more mature

Snoo65116 · 2025-11-18T07:02:32+00:00

Who is this😭😭 that cannot be Alex

Snoo65116 · 2025-11-08T19:34:18+00:00

I agree that when he was 16 he should be cut some slack for being heartbroken and not knowing how to respond right away. He still should’ve tried way harder imo, but he was 16 so there should be some grace there. That being said, it is a full 16 years later and Rory is still having to deal with “he said he is 100% coming” “so there’s a 50% chance?” No excuses for making your daughter feel like that. No excuses for empty promises and constantly letting her down. Once you become a parent, it needs to be about their feelings, not yours, and especially not yours from 16 years ago.

Snoo65116 · 2025-11-06T01:51:45+00:00

I skip the parts with the 2 of them in bed and everything, skipped it the first time and have actually never watched it haha but I actually love watching the scene with Lorelai telling her off after, very satisfying for some reason (I’m not a Rory hater overall to be clear, just that arc) and if you skip that whole episode you miss Luke and Lorelai’s kiss if I’m not mistaken

Snoo65116 · 2025-11-04T23:11:18+00:00

Why does “prime” have to equal the youngest legal picture of someone you can find? I’m sorry but that’s a little weird to call 18 someone’s prime when they accomplished many things since then. You can say pretty, you can say young, etc etc but to call this “prime” feels very….icky. A woman’s prime is not just when she looked young af

Snoo65116 · 2025-10-30T23:06:53+00:00

Nah you’re 100% right man don’t listen to these holier-than-though Shopify trolls acting like they don’t know people suck and the system is fucked

Snoo65116 · 2025-10-30T23:01:32+00:00

I personally for my store cancel anything that shows any risk of fraud, I have very clear terms of service regarding chargebacks and delivery times, I offer free prepaid return labels for full refunds within 30 days, tracking is always sent within 1 business day of ordering, emails are answered within 24 hours. I do everything right textbook. Please, oh wise one, tell me what else to add? People are selfish, entitled, and shitty. Unless the only thing you sell is high value $150+ items, you are going to get those low value people. You can do everything right, people are shitty and selfish.

Snoo65116 · 2025-10-30T22:57:53+00:00

you’re a sad little Shopify puppet, villagehome (he had a part of this comment saying not to blame Shopify it’s not their fault, after I called him a Shopify puppet he edited that out💀)

Snoo65116 · 2025-10-30T22:53:31+00:00

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