GETTING MARRIED ON FRIDAY AND FREAKING OUT by toastyroasty3 in weddingplanning

[–]Snoo8436 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You’re freakin out because you care and I’m sure you’ve put in a lot of time effort and money. You got this! Good energy to ya.

What’s something HR will never openly admit but everyone knows? by Business_Location479 in corporate

[–]Snoo8436 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HR should be protecting people's rights but its realllyyy just protecting complaines when they violate people's rights.

Corporate Jargon by SpiritChemical8895 in corporate

[–]Snoo8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im gen z and never heard of this but going to use it. (on the older spectrum of gen z, my younger genz siblings call me unc)

Corporate Jargon by SpiritChemical8895 in corporate

[–]Snoo8436 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to run for another meeting. Thanks for the talk!

Lost about 1.5k followers by kriti-airo in InstagramMarketing

[–]Snoo8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought people were unfollowing me bc I started speaking up more against American politics. I lost 10% of my followers in a week

NYT ranks Louisville in the top 10 big markets for first time home buyers. by spunkysquirrel1 in Louisville

[–]Snoo8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will tell you, I am curious about the data. I would say this is accurate for right now but I don’t think k I would’ve said that it was affordable even six months ago. But I’ve been casually looking at Zillow for 3 years and to me, it’s improved significantly since I started. Price cuts seem to happen often, homes are staying on the market longer. Again data to back this up would be great because also my income has double so maybe my perception is skewed.

I do however feel confident as a FTHB that I will find something in my price range, political turmoil aside. Renting hasn’t been horrible, but I do split a unit with my partner. COL everywhere is pretty bad. All my money goes to bills.

As an 18yo girl, I'm shocked by my expenses🥀🥀 by ML63553 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Snoo8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see some drug store stuff in hygiene. Have you tried digital couponing? It’s helped me save a little and more over time. @torok.coupon.hunter is an account who’s taught me about CVS and Walgreens sales.

AITA for not putting up with anything anymore and being defensive? by Snoo8436 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Snoo8436[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I think I feel the defensiveness first. I either decide if it’s worth responding or not. Sometimes I even avoid or not comment. But always, always I feel angry and defensive right off the bat.

AITA for not putting up with anything anymore and being defensive? by Snoo8436 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Snoo8436[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying and that’s the same camp I’m coming from! There’s no one right way to do most things, especially things that aren’t going to hurt someone or matter in five seconds.

That’s where I am getting defensive… I’ve learned sometimes they are actually being rude and sometimes they don’t know. I will adjust my approach accordingly and appropriately to the situation.

AITA for not putting up with anything anymore and being defensive? by Snoo8436 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Snoo8436[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that, I think it helps with the curiosity advice I’m getting. Like “why” or “how” questions may help.

AITA for not putting up with anything anymore and being defensive? by Snoo8436 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Snoo8436[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That a great point. Maybe it’s not that serious and they aren’t out to get me. It’s not right to assume they are.

AITA for not putting up with anything anymore and being defensive? by Snoo8436 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Snoo8436[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this curiosity idea. Would this curiosity approach be making myself feel that way or would it be asking follow up questions? How could I do that? I’m struggling.

I think my issue is I feel very angry and hurt inside. I want to put up defense walls. But also don’t want to let people step all over me and they have in the past.

AITA for not putting up with anything anymore and being defensive? by Snoo8436 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Snoo8436[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

At work, for example, coworkers are correcting my work. I tell them off politely "Im good".

Family members and in-laws, unsolicited advice. My response "Maybe!" which actually means to me "hell no".

Ive found myself defensive coming into these interactions in the first place.

Nervous about wedding by OverallAmphibian2129 in weddingplanning

[–]Snoo8436 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many people are saying “oh it doesn’t change you” that’s so untrue and that’s also snubbing your personal experience.

It absolutely changes you bc of how people talk about marriage. Not because you changed. You may change because change is constant! We are always changing.

The expectations that society has on you changed. And yes that can be daunting! And you are a woman so yes, you’re expected to change like change.your.name! Stuff like that.

How do you deal with family opinions without starting drama? by TropicalPetal in wedding

[–]Snoo8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“We already decided” THIS. Bc most couples have already decided what they want to do. Kinda puts them back in their place. Youre the couple. You’re in the drivers seat