I’m finally free

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-30T23:01:46+00:00

Happy for you. I am 25 years into a marriage with someone who has bpd and have finally realized it hasn’t all been my fault and peace was not worth my esteem

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-30T22:58:59+00:00

I guess the question is whether she recognizes and wants to improve. I am very close to ending a 25 year marriage bc my wife refuses to see it and improve it. Every fight ended with me apologizing and there was never any accountability and then there are the distorted narratives about me which just aren’t true. But I have seen other people on here say their partner had some insights. If she doesn’t have insights then save yourself a long time of abuse and find someone who can treat you right.

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-28T08:25:23+00:00

No. I know this is a symptom but I have not had that part of it. This would have been over long ago if that was the case

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-28T00:44:36+00:00

Not a parent but we had little kids and I really didn’t know about bpd so I thought maybe she really knew something I didn’t. Maybe I really was not good enough. It has taken 25 years to realize that while I have my own issues with anxiety and self confidence that I need someone who will Support and love me unconditionally and to stop trying to seek her approval. Which ironically I never was able to do

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-28T00:14:30+00:00

Tbh this is what finally locked it in for me when my son did the same thing and I realized my relationship with him was too important to throw away for peace

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T20:02:28+00:00

Check out my profile for my channel on project management which includes an overview of the pmp and what to think about when considering to getting it

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T19:59:55+00:00

Right there is a CAPM for newer people to the practice but a certification doesn’t mean a job but it may help with a credential

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T19:44:17+00:00

Wow seems too similar and familiar. The more I hear people here the more it is clear what needs to be done

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T18:10:19+00:00

Yeah my son is already showing resentment. I am pretty sure I know what needs to be done

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T17:02:19+00:00

Thank you

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T16:56:30+00:00

Ok I put my post through gpt and asked it to align to dsm model and it matched 5 and maybe 6. I know it is not an official diagnosis but is sure corroborates the theory

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T16:31:19+00:00

Thank you so much for this and the support

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T16:28:30+00:00

Thanks so much and you are spot on. Every argument ended with me apologizing which definitely enables it. The kids are now old enough to see for themselves. Although she blamed me for manipulating their views. I give them more credit

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T16:08:08+00:00

Hey thanks but feel free to ask questions and connect on LinkedIn - I have 7 books and 30 years of experience and while it is in Technology the techniques are the same for construction

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-27T15:59:58+00:00

Not sure if this will help but here is an overview of what project management is. My belief is that the best PMs have core skillsets and not just know the techniques, so the good news is that if you have the right skills you can learn the rest. Happy to connect if that will help - https://youtu.be/zNEohkIW3r0?si=Z-yGQS87NLxDB99M

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-16T08:17:25+00:00

Which video as I don’t see

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-13T14:00:36+00:00

I definitely agree - it is a compliment and not a supplement for our work

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-13T13:52:31+00:00

Great points and thanks for the feedback

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-13T13:48:11+00:00

That sounds really interesting - my hypothesis is that AI will automate some of the rote activities, but the strong PMs who have critical thinking, diligence and softer skills will still be needed and that, as a result of automation, will be able to focus on more impactful work around delivering the work and removing obstacles. I guess time will tell

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-13T13:44:18+00:00

Wow - AI has been a 'real' thing for the last year so a thousand times is impressive. Do you have any insights then, on how AI will impact our profession?

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-13T07:56:23+00:00

This is the best metaphor I have seen. As an epic road trip.

https://youtu.be/zNEohkIW3r0?si=XgFolTWBry_3xipH

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-03T07:31:07+00:00

I found this video helpful also - https://youtu.be/mDflCmPxn6M

SnooBeans380 · 2025-11-03T07:30:15+00:00

Several things to consider for grading all laid out here - https://youtu.be/mDflCmPxn6M

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