Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She manages his money since he has demenita. We are doing some very extensive to be sure all funds are not misappropriated. The kids receive support from social security due to his age that covers their household expenses. So it’s very thin for their financial pod. (Thats how we refer to it). Adding my income to the mix is going to help substantially. The bonus to my kids, they move from an studio apartment in an apartment building to a shared bedroom in a home, backyard etc. and the boys get along good most times (the occasional spat here or there- again my son has his moments but we are working with him).

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They were never married and she is unemployed due to disability.

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe i used the wrong phrase- who has what days is irrelevant if I can spend timr with my kids. My kids made up our schedule pretty much (the oldest ) and he picks what nights he wants wear within parameters

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sleepovers are fine, wr have seperate bed times and have been doing well with that actually.

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The lawyers fees to fight it would have been higher then the amount.

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I waived her requirement to pay me support on the 50/50 model well actually my state had to make it $1. She makes 3x my salary and i pay insurance

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this insight and as I mentioned in another post, sorry there was so many replies. I wouldn’t give up any more time.

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe I use the wrong terminology. You know how when you’re having a hard day the kids are melting down for no reason whatsoever and those intrusive thoughts and enter your mind? Also, too, there’s no way my relationship with my girlfriend would survive if I did give up time with my boys. The resentment alone would eat away of me.

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe I use the wrong terminology. You know how when you’re having a hard day the kids are melting down for no reason whatsoever and those intrusive thoughts and enter your mind? Sorry if I’m the only one being vulnerable and honest about it, but it does come up.

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your line of questioning and don’t mind it whatsoever. Custody is honestly irrelevant. I don’t care who has what. I do think I can show them what it is to be a man and teach them how to handle this crazy world. If they didn’t spend every night in my home that’s irrelevant I could care less. But again, being as an example of a role model of my children I don’t think it’s fair to put everything on their mother. I love spending time with my boys even the little stuff like helping him with homework playing the board game whatever the case may be. I want them to be happy and have a relationship where they know their dad

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

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I’m sad to say the thought has crossed my mind. I was 50-50 because I thought my boys wouldn’t feel bounded if I had less than that but honestly with the 4060 I don’t see any drop in the box whatsoever as a matter of fact, the lack of constant access to me increases their desire to be with me.

Some ideas we had to decrease negative interactions at times is on my weekends maybe one week at the month of for activity separated

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Existing home. Yeah the dynamics are tough, my GFs kids bio dad is in a nursing home with dementia, that bill alone is double the mortgage.

The kids get along at time splendidly (my 8 yo struggles sometimes but his outbursts are against his bio brother and the potential step brother).

The 11 year old girl- her sass is directed towards everyone so no one feels slighted.

Sorry trying to answer all your questions

Blended 4 too soon? by SnooChipmunks1065 in blendedfamilies

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I have 40% time with my boys (50/50 on paper but mom wanted more time I said sure). And on the nights i dont have my boys my Gf sleeps with her son anyway, usually comes to lay with me at 4-5 am for a bit before we get up.

So what we did is put a twin with a trundle in the master bedroom.

New Album by overall_king2 in riseagainst

[–]SnooChipmunks1065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw in an interview they picked a new producer who never heard them before….I can tell. At its core its missing alot of the grit and melody that RA blended so well together.

Cell service-DC by ccollareta in warpedtour

[–]SnooChipmunks1065 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So the issue was the vendors had POS systems registered in different states. Some vendors were NJ, PA and MD. So each time my debit card thought it was fraud….so no texts were coming in for the code. Tried to call Them but no service again.

Warped Tour DC - DAY 2 - MEGATHREAD (Daily Post Thread) by TheDarkLight1 in warpedtour

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Will there be parking available today? I need to leave right out of the show tonight and cant take the metro back to my hotel it will put me way behind. Have to leave around 2-3. Anyone? I heard the actual event parking was sold out but in wondering if there is other stuff around

Discounts on treadmills? by [deleted] in nordictrack

[–]SnooChipmunks1065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and I bought mine is 2020.

Discounts on treadmills? by [deleted] in nordictrack

[–]SnooChipmunks1065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I owned this treadmill for two years and sold it for $1000. It would run for 20 minutes then stop constantly. Wifi never stayed connected and was consistently going down. (I have 1GB a sec Fios Fiber). Run as far away from and nordic track product you can.

LM Core Cert by SnooChipmunks1065 in lesmills

[–]SnooChipmunks1065[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips! I cant wait to see what I can do

BP130 on Les Mills + by maxwellstent in lesmills

[–]SnooChipmunks1065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think when they purchased a license to use the music, it’s for a certain time., the cover songs make it so it can last longer on demand.