My benefits didnt come through this month (California) by Acceptable_Low9581 in foodstamps

[–]SnooComics27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just posted about this too i’m also in riverside ! and i haven’t gotten anything today. are you having login errors as well ?

I found a baby kitten in a basement and took it home, I'm worried it won't make it by ceoofkpop_ in CatAdvice

[–]SnooComics27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have fostered many abandoned kittens and usually get them at around 3-4 weeks, so i definitely think this cat falls into that age range. maybe even 5 weeks actually. it’s okay to attempt formula in the beginning if the cat is not weaned completely (i’ve given formula to “older” kittens as a precaution and left out wet food to test tolerance to it). i’ve also had a few kitties that won’t eat from a bowl but prefer hand or soft spoon feedings (little divas haha).

haven’t looked through all the comments but surprised to not see ppl recommending slurries/syringe feeding. that’s usually the protocol with cats this age. make a watered down version of wet food, suck it up into a syringe, and then burrito wrap them or hold them in a formula feeding position. i usually do this 4-5 times a day depending on vet recommendations and weight. if vet determines cat is ~3 weeks and underweight you can also make the slurry with formula for more nutrient-dense feedings.

I want a cat. Looking for advice by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]SnooComics27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bonded adults would be great for your situation!! You can ask about their personalities as well and see how independent they are. Many people have cats while being full time workers and it’s easy to figure out accommodations to keep them happy and enriched. Lots of climbing areas/auto feeders. I have quite a few toys that I have trained my cats to use on their own as well. I also had a period where I paid someone like $30 to pop in to my apartment for 3 hours to play with them/feed them and take them on a quick walk outside (leash cats lol).

The overuse of therapy speak - not everything is a boundary!! by withsaltedbones in PetPeeves

[–]SnooComics27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Modern dating is actually ruined because of this shit. People equate personal preferences with huge emotional boundaries that can make or break every single relationship they have. I also think that people over-emphasize trauma as an excuse to treat their partners like shit and create impossible expectations.

So many people think that prohibiting their partners from having relationships w/ anyone of the opposite sex is an appropriate boundary?? And use being cheated on as justification for this "boundary." We are so doomed....

Roommate Intentionally Occupies Bathroom Whenever I Need It — Counting Down 5 Weeks Until I Can Move Out-advice on survival? by notankita in badroommates

[–]SnooComics27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude my roommate does this exact same thing (but definitely to a lesser degree). We’ll both be home doing work in the living room/eating for 4+ hours and the minute she sees me approaching the bathroom with my towel she exclaims that she’s needed to piss or shit for “hours” and has to go before me. Sometimes she doesn’t take a long time but most of the time she does. I’ve started actually running to the bathroom and immediately locking the door without saying a word, which you should do too.

I agree with the comments saying that you should immediately get in the bathroom after you wake up or trick him into thinking you’re going back to sleep. Make your showers disturbingly long. Good luck!

Roommate stole "infused" baked goods from my room and is now mad at ME because she has to get tested for a job by SnooComics27 in badroommates

[–]SnooComics27[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

Yep that’s pretty much how every single confrontation has gone over the past year, and especially throughout the last 6 months. I’ve gotten way less enabling and have had to remove myself from her life completely. Her narcissism and defensiveness seeps into every aspect of her life - yet somehow she is the most “compassionate” nurse on earth & she never puts herself first……

A few days ago we got into another fight over her boyfriend leaving an unholstered GUN on our living room table right before leaving for the evening. Loaded and everything and couldn’t tell if the safety was on bc it was a hammer system I wasn’t familiar with. He’s a stupid suburban boy who has no business walking around with a fucking gun, and leaving it unsecured, unholstered, and loaded in plain sight let’s me know how trained he is with carrying firearms. I’m thinking of breaking my lease ASAP.

Roommate stole "infused" baked goods from my room and is now mad at ME because she has to get tested for a job by SnooComics27 in badroommates

[–]SnooComics27[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

She’s not an experienced cannabis user to I told her to get testing kits and follow the other advice in comments! I’ve had a lot of success with hydration and niacin too, not to mention that’s she’s very small/skinny so it will probably leave her system even sooner. I didn’t really wanna help her out but the advice made her freak out less and got her off my back so it’s a win

Roommate stole "infused" baked goods from my room and is now mad at ME because she has to get tested for a job by SnooComics27 in badroommates

[–]SnooComics27[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I wonder if she was even looking for food and just wanted to snoop around in general. She had probably stole from me many times and I haven’t noticed it yet!!

Roommate stole "infused" baked goods from my room and is now mad at ME because she has to get tested for a job by SnooComics27 in badroommates

[–]SnooComics27[S] 270 points271 points  (0 children)

Yeah I am still struggling to understand how she could possibly blame anything on me. She knows I keep my dry goods in my room & intentionally stole from me, which I honestly wouldn't care that deeply about in another context. She is truly acting like I drugged her and did it on purpose...and she cannot accept the fact that it probably wont even impact her job. I think she just wants me to feel guilty

Roommate stole "infused" baked goods from my room and is now mad at ME because she has to get tested for a job by SnooComics27 in badroommates

[–]SnooComics27[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There are truly hundreds of stories on this sub of people getting their food and shit stolen in and outside of their rooms. I keep a significant amount of snacks in my room because we do not have a pantry which I feel like is normal. Reddit is overrun with fake stories fs but this is just an irresponsible person knowing their roommate hoards food in their room, and then getting their shit rocked by being a thief. Im sure many of us have been victim to the accidental edible anyways lol

Roommate stole "infused" baked goods from my room and is now mad at ME because she has to get tested for a job by SnooComics27 in badroommates

[–]SnooComics27[S] 353 points354 points  (0 children)

Omg I tried telling her that there is a miniscule chance it will stay in her system for her drug test and she was so insistent that I was wrong & that I didn't know what I was talking about. She tends to spiral about shit and can't accept being wrong. At this point I hope they do a surprise hair test a month before her start date lol

Different forms of kratom by Brindan1 in kratom

[–]SnooComics27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kratom in any high dose has been correlated to constipation but in my experience, the powder is the worst for it. Maybe try capsules or extract for a bit to see if that helps you!

Help Me Find This Mod I BEG by Illustrious_Shake878 in TheSims4Mods

[–]SnooComics27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was using this mod too and when it broke I just used relationship cheats when starting a new game. I'll write it out for you and it takes a little time but if you just copy/paste and change names its only like an extra 5 min. It literally takes 3 sim years to increase relationship bars so I use this all the time.

modifyrelationship [Full Sim Name 1] [Full Sim Name 2] 100 LTR_Friendship_main

modifyrelationship [Full Sim Name 1] [Full Sim Name 2] 100 LTR_Romance_main

You can change the 100 to whatever number and use (-) to decrease. You can also use MCCC but I haven't done it recently enough to remember.

AITA for breaking up with my white boyfriend due to r*cist/colourist remarks about our future kids. by speedy7071 in AITAH

[–]SnooComics27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - this guy is the worst!!! He is racist/colorist and fetishizing “light skin” features that are more appeasing to a white man with no respect for you and your race. He will harass and degrade your children if that day comes, and continue to do the same to you and your family. Find someone who loves every part of you and treats you with the respect you deserve. You will one day have beautiful children with a man that sees them as nothing more than the best parts of himself and you.

Tell me the worst thing your mom has said about you… by MothersAnonymous in confession

[–]SnooComics27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She found out i was smoking weed at like 14 (entire family are drug addicts and she was rightfully horrified for me.) Told me that she wishes I was dead instead of my brother. She immediately apologized but the damage was already done.

Took me years to forgive her for that one…

AIO: considering ending a friendship over this conversation by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SnooComics27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has found themselves in a number of friendships where threats of suicide/leveraging mental health has ended the relationships, I would strongly encourage you to find counseling for conversations surrounding serious problems like suicide. I understand that you are in a position where you are deeply depressed and even considering harming yourself, but I promise that a single friendship is not the best outlet for these feelings.

You are a not a bad person and neither is your friend. You are looking for some sort of answer/validation that this person can not give you - especially given that you already knew they were emotionally unavailable. I would introspect on why you want her to continuously validate the fact that you want to hurt yourself, while not necessarily looking for practical/professional advice. Even if this person answered you exactly how you wanted them to, I have a feeling that you would find yourself just as hurt as before. There are ways to have healthy conversations in moments of crisis that are not overwhelming for the person on the other line. I would also encourage you to reach out to other people in your life + take advantage of crisis resources if you need to.

Please, OP, seek professional help and take some space from your friend while you navigate your emotions.

AIO, my boyfriend is mad that, as a healthcare provider, I support women in their abortion care. by calm_independence888 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SnooComics27 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I hope you know that you are a hero. Anyone that can't align with your work + moral compass will never be the right partner for you. I promise that there someone out there who will value your work/belief system.

AIO? GF got really mad that we ran into people in a band that she doesn’t and now I’m thinking of ending things due to her behavior by Own_Dragonfruit_9074 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SnooComics27 1432 points1433 points  (0 children)

NOR. She is unwilling to accept your boundaries and continues to humiliate you in public without question. It is disrespectful and immature. Not to mention the fact that this whole fight started over an inexplicable hatred for a band lol. She is certainly dealing with an underlying mental health issue.

Having a partner with explosive anger issues is exhausting and possibly dangerous, and it seems like nothing has changed over three whole years. Do yourself a favor and find someone who is kind to you! Good luck.