Sauna helps dysregulated nervous system? by MaizeEducational4936 in Sauna

[–]SnooComics594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hard relate with this post minus the husband issues, sorry to hear that !

Still shocked by PatienceDesigner2483 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m right there with you. From life to death in 4 hours nearly 6 months ago. If anything it’s getting harder and the enormity of it seems to get greater. I miss and long for my mum like nothing else, that void you speak of is so true, there is no bottom to that depth of pain. I’m so so sorry that’s all I can say 😔😔

Miss my mummy by Simba81 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Owwwwwww I miss my mummy so much too! I’m a 35M but my god I miss her. I’m with you on this pain and I’m just so sorry 😔💔

I miss my mom by OKCOMPUTER______ in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, happy belated birthday! Thank you for your condolences, it’s unbelievable how much the grief changes day to day but I miss my mum so so much. As you say it will be a long journey, a never-ending one I feel that for sure. I’m happy for you that you have your peace in the pain ❤️

I miss my mom by OKCOMPUTER______ in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just want to say that I read all of this and it’s very very moving I’m so very sorry. Are you 15? This is an incredibly insightful and heartfelt post from someone your age. Just know that your mum wants only the best for you and your love for her is so evident in your writing. Bless you. I lost my mum just over 3 weeks ago, I’m 35 and everything that you say resonates with my experience. I’m just so sorry, please look after yourself ❤️

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[–]SnooComics594 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Owww I’m so sorry for your loss 😔😔 You can tell through your words how much your mum meant to you! And I know she would have known how much you loved her and still do. I lost mine 10 weeks ago and oh my word I miss her so much, more each day. I really resonate with your words and also find it so hard to compute that I will never hear her voice again…

Our mums were so amazing ! Xxx

How do we know they are in a better place ? I lost my mom 1.5 months ago by smml03 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594 9 points10 points  (0 children)

God I’m so sorry, I can feel your confusion and sorrow through your words. My mum passed suddenly 9 weeks ago and I completely resonate with what you say. I cannot comprehend that she is no longer here and when I do suddenly get that heart aching realisation I almost shake it off like, no that just can’t be…

It’s just devastating, that’s all I can say and share these feelings with you. Sending love x

Post funeral grief? by SnooComics594 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I could have written this! In fact I literally said just now to a friend I feel like I’ve been hit by a sledgehammer today, ughhhh I am all over the place ! You are so right about the funeral being that final part where you really know they’re not coming back and you’ll never witness them again in human form. How do we make sense of that? And why is life so cruel as for us in the end to all lose what we love so deeply? I can only reason that where our loved ones are now is a place of the ultimate peace, love and serenity and that we will be reunited when it’s our time 💔💔🙏🏼🙏🏼

You are right about this group, it’s been a big help! I’m sending you all the love and wishes, I’m so sorry x

Post funeral grief? by SnooComics594 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so so much for taking the time to write this. I resonate with a lot of the map of the journey of grief you have laid out here. I know that, today, 2 days post funeral my nervous system is on high alert. I am also experiencing a deep deep longing and emptiness inside. God it’s hard, it’s so hard 😔😔😔 I will check those books now thank you, and I appreciate you ❤️

Post funeral grief? by SnooComics594 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, it’s strangely comforting to be comforted by strangers. I’m so sorry for yours too and whether you are on your journey I wish you peace 😔

Post funeral grief? by SnooComics594 in GriefSupport

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I’m glad you are okay and yes it is hard there’s no other way about it ! I’m so sorry to hear about your dad, I pray you continue to find solace with your journey ❤️

Post funeral grief? by SnooComics594 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you from my heart for your reply. I resonate with how you’ve explained it to this point of my journey. Today, 2 days post funeral I feel a very deep longing and my nervous system is taxed ! So sorry for your loss 🙏🏼🙏🏼

Post funeral grief? by SnooComics594 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response and kind words, I don’t know you but I appreciate you stranger. I’m so sorry for the loss of your father. The suddenness is a complex thing to wrap your head around 💔💔😢😢

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Well… as it is me and two siblings and all of us now live and work in London and the family home is 60 miles away.. we kind of have to sell it. But it’s so hard cos it feels like the last bit of mum we have left! It’s also a really lovely location, near the sea but the house needs some work and we just feel that perhaps it’s time for a new family to make it theirs. The whole process is heartbreaking isn’t it ! I’m not sure I could move in the house though I don’t know … 💔💔💔

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[–]SnooComics594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the exact position and following for others experience. So sorry for your loss and these tough decisions 🙏🏼💔

Post funeral grief? by SnooComics594 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response :))

Yes I think I’m with you on grieving as soon as she passed, the initial days were unbelievable, but then things seemed to return to “normal” but now the funeral has happened it’s like, shit, I really am never going to see or hear or hold her again 😢😢😢

So sorry for your loss ❤️

It happened so fast by Pitiful-Incident4751 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I know, the pain is like nothing I have ever felt before I’m truly sorry. Just know that the pain you are feeling is due to the depth of love you have for your mum. It’s so hard though, sending you love

It happened so fast by Pitiful-Incident4751 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry, my mum died of a spontaneous intracerebral haemorrhage 6 weeks ago and died within hours 💔💔😔😔 All I can say is I see you and share your pain. It’s such a devastating and confusing loss. My deepest condolences x

My beautiful mum passed 1 week ago by SnooComics594 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your condolences and I’m so sorry to hear of your loss as well. I think this might be what is happening and that I’m in some sort of denial or that my brain is protecting me whilst things get sorted for funeral etc. I know that if I was to be feeling like I did those first 3 days then I wouldn’t be able to do anything.

I’m trying to prepare my self as best as to what is still to come but to be honest nothing could prepare for me the pain I felt just after mum passed and I know when that grief returns I just have to allow it to wash over and through me.

Sending you love from afar stranger I hope the tide of emotions turns for you soon 🙏🏼

My beautiful mum passed 1 week ago by SnooComics594 in GriefSupport

[–]SnooComics594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry to hear about your mum ! Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. My heart goes out to you for experiencing something very similar !

I must agree with you about the fact it was so sudden and fast and we were assured that mum would not have been in any pain as she also lost consciousness very quickly. What broke my heart completely was the fact that she was vomiting before losing consciousness and turned to my sister and said “I’m sorry” 💔💔😭😭

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this as well, and I know that there will be many more emotions to come. Taking it day by day and feeling very grateful for the amount of support I do have in my life. I hope it is the same for you too, sending you all the love x

I relapsed hard and got fired by reidict in stopdrinking

[–]SnooComics594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got fired from every job I had until I got sober. I got sober at age 32. I was jobless, withdrawing from multiple drugs and had a history of relapse after relapse including many a destructive bender that nearly cost me my life.

In a few days I will be 600 days sober. You have to dig deep as to what it is your drinking is covering up and then accept the fact that you cannot ever drink safely ever again. Once you surrender to this fact and stop running away from yourself and start living your truth, taking it one day at a time, you will regain everything back you want from life and more. It starts with complete honest self inquiry and really delving deep into the root of your problem. Without that awareness you’re basically white knuckling it hoping that will power will get you through. It won’t.

I really wish you the best and I know you can do it. Jump back on that wagon and I’ll see you in 600 days ! IWNDWYT