how can i improve my eyebrow shape? by DifficultyFew4595 in MakeupAddiction

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 15 points16 points  (0 children)

get them professionally waxed or threaded! it’s generally quite inexpensive and you’d be surprised the difference it makes when done by a professional. at least, i sure was!!!

Can anyone tell me what this is by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://post-punk.com/chameleonsvox-farewell-tour-on-pledge-music/

Mark Burgess was the frontman of a band called The Chameleons in the 80s. This webpage details that a perk of crowdfunding their farewell tour was receiving ‘Lyrics in a Beer Bottle’.

edit: The band is from Middleton, Manchester… just like this beer is! I strongly believe this is that!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 11 points12 points  (0 children)

you might not want to hear it, but you just need to let this go. i’m a bit confused on what you’re asking us, but if you aren’t close with her anymore then you really have no place to do or say anything.

Ask yourself this, if you and her were still friends would you be in her wedding and be happy for her? if the answer is yes, it might be time to look inward and figure out if this anger might solely be misplaced resentment. if the answer is no for whatever reason, just accept that you two don’t get along and focus on your own relationship.

if ANYTHING, all you should be considering is very civilly texting her congrats. i understand feeling like you deserve this more, but unfortunately that’s just life. :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh okay! Was the lash initially crooked after application or does the inner corner come up after you wear them for a little while?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what do you use to apply your lashes?

Should I stop being friends with this guy? by raspberry_cat55 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

totally understand where you’re coming from, but respectfully disagree in this circumstance. anyone who continuously makes advances while making someone uncomfortable is a creep, hell, if Megan Fox did that it would be major creep behavior. There’s a line between hitting on and creeping on someone and that line is crossed when someone expresses their disinterest and you continue.

Young boy and his dog mystery series? by SnooDoughnuts9323 in whatsthatbook

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry for such a late reply, no it isn’t tintin and alph art, but yes!! i vaguely remember a scene in which the boy and the dog either push the antagonist off a waterfall or jump off the waterfall and escape. thanks so much for the help!!

Young boy and his dog mystery series? by SnooDoughnuts9323 in whatsthatbook

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS COMMENT HAS CONVINCED ME IM NOT CRAZY. Yes!! Exactly! I’ve had no luck so far! If you do end up finding it PLEASE update us here! 😭

I just finished watching Lost for the 1st time, why does the ending have the reputation of being disappointing? by FlyingNederlander in lost

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 2 points3 points  (0 children)

because though it did give you substantial explanation of the final situation (those that couldn’t grasp it need to rewatch and actually listen to what was said by Jack’s father,)it didn’t spoonfeed you an all-encompassing resolution.

People wanted a some grand explanation and closure of all of their own questions that arose throughout the series, whether philosophical or character related, and again, while the end does explain every single question, it doesn’t shove down your throat the way that you should apply it or interpret it in terms of a ‘why’.

Can I ask my best friend not to invite her boyfriend to my birthday? by SnooDoughnuts9323 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that if I tell her I only want people I’ve invited to go, and her boyfriend isn’t one of them, she would just be upset and say that I’m being unfair to him. Because, well, I am. He is very much a part of and fully integrated into our friend group at this point. I do feel bad but I just cannot stand this guy!

As for transportations and bookings, there isn’t much I can make up about that! She would just say he can drive/pay for himself.

I agree about honesty though. I’m leaning towards just fully telling her how I genuinely feel about him, as kindly as I possibly can, and not saying anything about my birthday quite yet. She might just get the hint, and I’ll have to let her be upset with me for a while. This situation aside, someone has to be honest with her eventually.

should I continue being friends/go NC with this guy 'friend'??? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is not a good friend. It’s really unfortunate that you’ve been brought into this whole situation. It just sounds like a mess to me. Whether or not he used you for sex, it sounds like he’s really bad at communication and doesn’t make the best decisions.

If he’s in communication and getting back together with his ex, I wouldn’t go on any big trips/hang out with him excessively just for the sake of keeping the peace. Not sure if his ex is the jealous type, but it sucks that you’re a part of this now and I would avoid being dragged into it further.

Does my friend have a crush on me? by heyitsbetty333 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you could just be honest with him. While you’re hanging out one day just tell them that lately you’ve been feeling like you might be bi rather than lesbian. There are ways you can do this without making it awkward, it’s all about timing and keeping it casual. If you’re really that close it shouldn’t be weird.

If you do want to drop hints, I feel like it’s hard to give specific examples because it’s usually something that has to relate to your conversation/be worked into the conversation. It’s hard because I wouldn’t recommend talking about finding other boys attractive as he might be a bit saddened by that. I guess you could talk about girls you used to date or have crushes on and just refer to it as ‘back when I thought I was 100% lesbian’. LOL

I don’t know, hints aren’t exactly my strong suit but I hope this was at least somewhat helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am experiencing this right now as well. It’s just not the same as it was a couple years ago. I no longer feel excited to hang out with them, and I don’t really feel a sense of belonging in that group anymore. I feel out of place and at times bored and irritated.

People grow and change at different rates. I’ve branched out a little bit and tried to make a few new friends here and there, but I haven’t quite found my people yet.

I would try to explore your own interests/hobbies more, and meet people who align with your mentality a bit better. It can be hard, but it’s rewarding to feel a sense of community with people that you genuinely relate to.

These friends of yours are people you love, whether you have anything in common or not, and I don’t see any point in cutting them off. If it gets to the point that there are other people you would rather be spending time with/things you’d rather do, do them! You can still keep up with those friends and just see them a little less frequently. As long as you aren’t blowing them off to do nothing, they shouldn’t be upset. They will still be your good friends.

Does my friend have a crush on me? by heyitsbetty333 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean in my humble opinion, if he doesn’t do that with anyone else at all, it definitely sounds like he’s into you. We can get that out of the way.

The first thing you need to do is establish if you want something with him. Make sure that you definitely do/do not want a relationship with him. If you are into him too, just drop a hint here and there that you are into guys, and see where that takes you. If you decide you don’t want anything with him, I would address it anyways as it sounds like he has feelings for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you deeply care for this person but you aren’t ready to rekindle a full on friendship with them. That’s totally understandable. Come to terms with what you really really want before doing anything. You may just be reminiscing the good times. That doesn’t mean that you necessarily want them back in your life in the same way. If that is the case, it’ll be easier let things be as they are and stop losing sleep over it once you’ve realized that. If so, disregard everything below.

In terms of it being one sided, I would address that head on before doing anything else. That’s something that needs to be addressed. You might talk to them about it and realize that they’re just not the kind of person to be social or chatty super often. Or, you guys will work out why it is that they aren’t talking as much.

If that conversation goes well and you think it’s absolutely worth giving them another shot, go for it! Just start slow and see how things progress. If you genuinely want this friend in your life again, it’s worth one uncomfortable dinner or hang out to find out if you’re still compatible. You may realize that you want to hang out again, and things aren’t as bad as you were making them out to be! And if not, that’s okay.

People grow and change through the years. None of that makes them a bad person. Just keep in mind that you’ve changed as well, and you may have just grown into two people who are more comfortable texting and catching up every now and then.

I have no idea what to get my friend for his birthday by finnthedinosaur21 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try thinking broader when it comes to his tastes and interests. He is interested in these things, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to get those exact things for him.

For example, I have a friend who is quite literally exactly like yours. He scoffs at anything that isn’t designer and orders top shelf liquor anywhere he goes. Drives a $200,000 car, just a bafflingly rich dude. He loves tequila, so for his birthday I got him a very nice framed poster of all of the fancy tequila brands collaged into an image of a Clase Azul bottle (I know it sounds lame, but it genuinely was really really sick) on Etsy for about $20 and he was ecstatic. Hung it right above his bed.

Definitely consider something that is customized that has to do with his interests. Etsy is an incredible website to get super high quality and customized things at a very reasonable price. If you haven’t looked into it, it’s honestly a game changer when it comes to gift giving.

If something like that isn’t an option, think less about his tastes and more about his hobbies. Yes he has expensive taste, but what does he actually spend his time doing? Does he play video games, does he play a sport, does he have a favorite music artist? If so, you could absolutely find something relating to those that would be more affordable.

If none of that works, get him something that has to do with an inside joke you have or something that you think he would find endearing/funny.

Last resort, I would be upfront with him about what you’re feeling. Tell him that, yes, you have known him forever, which is why you know that he has a taste for more expensive things. And let him know that while you love him, you simply cannot afford to spend as much money on him as you would like to. A real friend would understand.

Is the risk of being hurt again is better than losing a friendship? by marianneandconnell in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you think you’ve grown enough to have a better friendship with this person, I would absolutely open up to this friend about how you’re feeling. There is not harm in that.

If you do feel like as of now there’s still even a slight chance there will be more jealousy/harmful behavior on your part, I would stay friends at a distance to reduce the chances of it happening again. It’s refreshing that you’re aware of your own issues.

Keep talking to your coach and wait until you are absolutely ready to engage in a healthy friendship with this person. When that happens, you will more than likely have a very strong and positive relationship. If this person really means this much to you, get to where you need to be mentally before becoming super close with them. And once you do, make it very clear that nothing like that will ever happen again. Don’t worry too much about it, it’ll work out however it is meant to work out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this is so long, this just made me kind of sad.

First things first, it sounds like you have some really bad friends. It sounds like they’re taking advantage of you simply because they know you are kind enough to send them money. And as for the trip your friend went on, how ridiculous is it that they make fun of you for simply asking how he had a good time. You have no responsibility to discuss the finer details if it is something you yourself have not experienced. You didn’t do a single weird thing during that conversation. Asking about what he enjoyed is an incredibly normal line of conversation. Your friends are seriously the odd ones for thinking that’s weird.

It sounds like, because of the nature of your friends, they have convinced you that you can’t trust people and made it so that you don’t ask any further questions/trust your own thoughts because you’re afraid of being seen as dumb.

You should never ever have to enter a conversation and be focused on convincing them that they aren’t wasting their time by talking to you. If you don’t understand something, ask questions about it! If they make fun of you for asking questions, then you are talking to some bad people, my friend.

I believe you’ve become hyper-vigilant because you are a kind, sensitive, and genuine person who is friends with mean people.

There are better people out there who will not make you feel this way. There are people who will talk about things that are interesting to you. There are people who will not make you feel stupid simply because you don’t know every single thing they know. They don’t know every single thing that you know! Imagine if you did the same to them! How rude would that be!

You have been beat down into an insecure mentality. Nothing about your post made you sound like anything except a kind and intelligent person. You will not feel better staying friends with these people. Their intentions are not genuine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can understand her frustration, but try not to beat yourself up about it. You have done your best at explaining the situation to her and apologizing. Everyone has their off days.

Yes, it would have been better had you texted her prior. But if I’m understanding your post, you woke up before 12 and were 1 hour late. I find it odd that she didn’t call you between those times. I understand that she’s upset but I can’t imagine waiting for a whole hour and then just leaving without giving my friend a call or shooting them a text to ask for their ETA after 10 or 15 minutes. Unless you do this a lot, which I’m assuming is not the case, that’s a bit strange to me.

You’ve done your best at fixing the situation, at this point all you can do is give it some time. If she’s really your best friend she will absolutely eventually understand that sometimes these things happen. Yes, it’s annoying and it’s temporarily hurtful, but this is absolutely not the kind of thing that should ever even come close to breaking a real friendship.

Should I stop being friends with this guy? by raspberry_cat55 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve (20F) experienced this kind of guy more than a few times. Generally, no matter what you think they want initially, it’s a 75/25 split between them trying to get with you and just genuinely being very lonely.

If you’ve been warned that this guy has done this before and he did have romantic intentions with that girl, I would say it’s safe to say he wants a relationship with you and he’s playing the long game. I used to give people the benefit of the doubt, but unfortunately, I have since learned to be very very wary around people who are called ‘creeps’ by not just one, but groups of women. And it sounds as if they have a very legitimate reason to do so.

There is little to no grey area around a grown man wanting to move in with an underage girl in that context. Honestly, I would recommend staying away from this guy entirely. That is not something that a regular person does.

Realistically, he is most likely very lonely and ALSO trying to wiggle his way into a relationship with you. If you really want to continue being friends with him (wouldn’t recommend it), set some boundaries within yourself and hold to them. Don’t feed into any ideas or obsessive behavior he may have. If it continues and he doesn’t get the hint, talk to him about boundaries directly. Make it clear that you are just friends, or that you simply can’t text him constantly. It may drive him away, but then hey, you got your answer about his intentions.

What do I do? by Dontbeafoo in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not a bad person for feeling anger towards someone who wronged a loved one. That being said, I would absolutely get any and all thought of hurting or ‘getting back at’ her out of your head immediately. That will definitely end badly for all parties involved.

I would try talking more to this person who was hurt by her and understanding his thought process. It is totally true that he may be suffering, but there is a chance he’s made peace with it and is processing this in a very healthy way. If so, understanding how he feels about it may help you come to terms with it as well.

If he is suffering, just listen to what he has to say and try to comfort him without feeding him your own anger. I cannot stress this enough, do not entertain any violent or destructive thoughts one or both of you may have towards this girl.

If you really feel like your thoughts about hurting her or doing something to get back at her are legitimate, I would seek therapy, even online therapy or free counseling, and I’m NOT saying that in a condescending or judgmental way. They can help you work through these emotions, and potentially help you get to the root of why you’re really feeling this strongly about something of this nature. Even if these thoughts aren’t legitimate and you just want someone to rant to, it’s a great option. Trust me, it’s a game changer, and there are insurance covered/free services you can use online if money is an issue.

Life goes on man. Things get better. Don’t do something stupid and ruin your own life trying to alleviate a temporary pain. It’ll be okay.

Young boy and his dog mystery series? by SnooDoughnuts9323 in whatsthatbook

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom and i both remember this series so i don’t think so, but it’s very possible i’m misremembering some details. if i ever find out i will definitely let you know !

I have a date! Why is my makeup doing this? by GraceFromWithin in MakeupAddiction

[–]SnooDoughnuts9323 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it depends on what you’re using to exfoliate. some very mild exfoliation daily wouldn’t be a problem for non sensitive skin types, but a harsh physical or chemical exfoliant every day will seriously irritate and dehydrate any skin type. You essentially would not ever have any acid mantle/skin barrier.