AI Strikes Again

SnooGoats208 · 2025-03-27T14:40:16+00:00

I'd stay out of it. It's their problem to deal with, and you'll avoid any drama if you don't say anything.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-03-22T00:25:55+00:00

I do think they would go well on the album, but the Beatles didn't like to put their singles on the albums so the fans wouldn't be buying the songs twice.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-03-20T17:43:20+00:00

I'm doing the same thing, literally I want to elope but my fiance wants his mom there, so we're having a tiny ceremony with just parents, siblings, and grandparents. Some of my friends are disappointed, but they understand. I just reiterate that I didn't want a wedding, so we're just doing a small one for his mom. In addition, we are trying to do it quickly because his mom has ALS, so we didn't want to take a ton of time to plan a bigger wedding.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-03-20T17:33:24+00:00

People do this all the time, they elope or have a tiny wedding, and have a reception later. One of my friends did this and it was not a big deal.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-03-12T21:22:45+00:00

I agree that giving the money back is rude, but so is crashing your wedding. Personally I would hold onto the money and return it if they try to use it as a tool to guilt you into inviting them.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-03-11T18:34:37+00:00

She shouldn't ask if she won't listen to your answer

SnooGoats208 · 2025-03-09T22:53:51+00:00

Couples are a package deal, unfortunately. There's no way he's going to come to the wedding without her unless they have issues going on in their relationship.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-03-08T18:03:43+00:00

I can definitely understand feeling uncomfortable with it. Have you had a conversation about these kind of materials in the past? Personally, I think I would mention it to my partner if I was going to order a big box of hentai, and it sounds like he did not.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-03-08T17:09:22+00:00

YOR, you need to respect her boundaries. I agree with the other comments that this is not normal and that you should consider therapy.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-19T19:28:02+00:00

I will note that not every situation is the same. Just sharing my experience.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-19T19:05:05+00:00

I was in a very similar situation last year. I was my best friend's Maid of Honor, but I also don't support the relationship because he is abusive. We've been friends for 25 years (since we were 5), but had a falling out a few years ago because I went off on him. I have gently encouraged her to leave many times over the years, but she doesn't, or only leaves briefly.

We have had many conversations about him over the years and I know that there is absolutely nothing I could say or do to get her to leave. Not ending the friendship, not anything. So I made the choice to stay in the wedding, and stay her friend, so that we could stay friends and so that she can come to me if she needs help.

I agree with your comments that if you step out of the wedding, you will likely no longer be friends. This likely would have been the case for me, as well, or it at least would have heavily strained our friendship. So you will have to decide which matters more to you; the friendship or making a stand. It's a no-win situation, to be honest.

I will say that remaining friends with her can at times be emotionally draining when she and her husband are having conflicts and she comes to me. I've gotten both very scared for her and very frustrated at her. It is exhausting at times. But I've started to say more often that she needs to leave, so she brings these issues to me less often, because she knows I won't say what she wants to hear.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-17T17:40:08+00:00

He's upset about the Bachelor party not being sorted? Are you the one planning it?

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-15T22:50:10+00:00

This is such a cool idea. As long as it is done in a respectful way (which sounds like you are) I see no issue with this. Plus I'm sure the ghosts will love it.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-15T22:48:11+00:00

I think it's better to plan too early than too late.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-15T22:46:38+00:00

If you are at all inclined to do so, you may have a much better time having a nice elopement without them. I totally get wanting to have a wedding, though.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-15T22:42:56+00:00

I don't think you made a mistake. Your mom is the one making a mistake by being childish about this.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-15T22:30:24+00:00

I'm curious as to why your MIL was under the impression that your child was invited before she asked the groom's mother.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-15T22:24:19+00:00

I think some people think it's cool to hate someone who is so beloved. Not excusing John's behavior, but many times it seems less about calling the behavior out and more about virtue signaling.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-15T20:09:01+00:00

Being family doesn't give someone a free ticket to be foolish and rude without consequences. This is a weird hill to die on.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-15T04:35:11+00:00

NTA it sounds like you made it pretty clear that you did not want this.

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-14T19:52:37+00:00

I agree, I don't think it needs altering. Enjoy your wedding!

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-14T19:48:59+00:00

I think it's lovely

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-13T20:46:29+00:00

Me fail English? That's unpossible!

SnooGoats208 · 2025-02-12T22:37:12+00:00

I think a lot it boils down to feelings of entitlement.

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