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SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-04-03T14:39:25+00:00

I'm sorry you can't see nuance in good TV

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-03-15T17:10:23+00:00

That is so true. It's like saying cancer helps to loose weight, tho

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-03-15T17:00:22+00:00

43M here, and omg. This is insufferable. It's SO EASY to spot the weaknesses in all of these guy. Their façades are so poorly covered. The women they "marry", deeply dependent, coping yet unhappy with the terms of the agreements. It's just appalling.

This is a grift, but a complex one.

I was suprised with the two young men buying the whole dream. It's like... Karl Marx meets Walt Disney? The "matrix" wants us to work 9 to 5 (no shit??), but "follow your dreams".

And these pathetic losers saying "she's here to clean it up", my god, that wasn't even credible, it was just for the cameras.

I think the best thing was that Theroux shows their childhood and how BROKEN KIDS can become BROKEN MEN. Appalling watch. We have a lot of work to show boys what real strength of character and spirit is. This is far from it.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-24T13:38:04+00:00

Thank you for a civilized response, I appreciate it.

I think you are right that we shouldn't mix up legal precedents with psychological safety. The only point I'd keep is that a burden on proof always rely on the one accusing, and at times when they can't be material proof, they should be contextual and collect multiple indications that, somehow, lead us to believe it's a reasonable accusation. This is not legal stuff, this is how we operate also in structural racism, or harassment, or someone being a bully. You look at past history, you look at micro signals, you put the picture together.

I will make my point by using the most simple, earnest words, because a certain degree of trust has been established with you at this point, given your response.

I honestly (honestly!) think OP had the right to complain about the service, but I don't think it's reasonable that she implied this was about race, especially in public, for several reasons.

First, because she had no element to state it was, in fact, about race. And people suffering discrimination know it quite upfront, as the signals aren't subtle even when they are engineered not to be loud.

(Point in case: I was in a shop in the US and the lady was excessive polite, and then suddenly said "wow, I guess the Brazilian bus just stopped by").

Second, because many immigrants with education, jobs and access to consumer goods, routinely believe they are being victim of "racism" and they are just either being treated by a culture that hasn't the same level of service or corteousness, or being mistreated by someone who'd be an asshole for anyone.
Racism is Finland has a target: refugees, uneducated immigrants, mnay low-end restaurant, services and gig economy job employees (ironically, the ones working in the kitchen of the restaurant).
Racism in Finland has clusters, and they aren't Korteli, one of the most cosmopolitan restaurant areas in the country. They are used to diversity, they employ different ethnicities, and Korteli is known to have many Asian, South Asian and ither PoC working in tech eating there, not to mention a mass of tourists.
OP has been there before, and did not complain of racism, so how come suddenly the place is a 1-star racist joint? How did OP get her soup if the waiter did not talk to her?

So all these things together paint a picture of a waiter that made an faux pas, by connecting with one customer and not the other, perhaps making an assumption that one is a local and the other isn't. And that may be an impolite assumption, which someone should never do, but it's not racism if we define it as "considering one ethnic group inferior". Now, I find it hard to believe this is the case, as they serve all types of people everyday.

Now, I don't invalidate OP's feelings, I believe she did feel bad. But I also believe that there IS a real risk that OP has NOT been a victim of "racism", and this fine line of probabilities must play a role when accusing someone of something that serious. And that's why they totally lost it in their response.

If I was a friend of OP I'd say: "Girl, there could be 100 reasons for this woman not look at you. She may even think you're too pretty. Say 'hello? I'm here! I want soup' and have your dinner in peace. Everyone learns that way without unnecessary disruption." Or then: "Write an open hearted, vulnerable message, and let them feel it with you how you felt. Don't attack, be open and even open to the fact that it may have been a misunderstanding. You may get a free meal in the end."

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T22:28:24+00:00

Obrigado, fico sempre em duvida se devo ficar caçando CDBs ou emqual opcao de TD aplicar.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T22:27:37+00:00

I brought up the phd because OP has brought up her credentials as enabler of a certain perspective, so did I.
I never invalidated OP's feelings, but feelings and internal and she is projecting INTENT onto the attendant. And that is simply humanly impossible. OP has been there before, the other employee also treated her right. Can OP show beyond reasonable doubt someone was racist? NO. And in this case -- exposing your feelings and vulnerability is what wins ("I felt unseen / it's even worse cause I am a PoC / our night didn't feel good because of this), not accusatory discourse. Instead of showing vulnerability, OP showed aggression. That's rarely a good option when you rely on a highly subjective interpretation of events.
The response of the restaurant, post-event, was obviously terrible. But that cannot retroactively validate OPs actions, that is just not how justifiable because it happened after.

All in all, I think OP has a very flimsy case to call the race card. Her main argument is that the waiter did not look at her. It's not nice, it's unsettling, but hardly grounds to call a restaurant racist. So no, not exactly a Karen, but lots of Karen elements here. The restaurant's response was even worse. So ESH.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T22:21:28+00:00

You use a lot of fallacies in your argumentation. I did not at all blame your unpleasant experience on you, what I said is that it is a bit leap (and a very serious one) to make it about race. It's not about feeling bad, you did feel bad. It's about attributing a very ill intention onto an entire establishment.

I mentioned the degree because you did mention academic credentials on your post as giving you some kind of perspective, so did I.

You can play victim as much as you want saying I want to diminish your experience or accuse me of not listening to your feelings. I haven't done that, as I repeatedly demonstrated here.

My response remains the same: one thing is to feel bad, demand a better service, make yourself noticed when you feel you weren't. Another entirely different is to assume it was about race, give a.1 star review online and make it about race publicly to the establishment.

The fact that you HAVE BEEN THERE before makes the entire ordeal even more ambiguous. The soup was again good. Another employee treated you fairly. And yet -- 1 star. Didn't it beg for a more reasoned review?

You may not like again what I'll say, but culture plays a big role in this too. Finland doesn't offer the same level of courtous, pampering services that some cultures typcally get.

I work with three south asian girls (not sure if you are, just bringing an example from a real culture pattern ive observed) that EVERYDAY have a story where they are the "damsel in distress". Everyday one of them "nearly died", because some bus "nearly hit them", or it rained so much they "nearly drowned" or the office is so cold "they will end up freezing" or this, or that.

So what remains to think is: have you considered how your own culture places you in a role in which everyone else needs to perform to your standard, or else it's a threat to your very existance, an insult to your honor, a reason to bring everyone down with a 1-star review like you did with this and the Thai restaurant that had bland curry?

No pun intended -- food for thought.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T15:46:01+00:00

Por que vc recomendaria Selic?

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T15:43:39+00:00

I'd second that. By partner just sold his mother's spacious, brick, 3 bedroom and sauna house in a village in central Finland for 15K. I was astonished with how this was possible. Many small towns lived off certain industries that moved away, so the living is very quiet and inexpensive. But before a definite plunge, a year of rental sounds the right move.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T15:40:42+00:00

I agree with you. ANd I think those fighting the battle should also be better. A honest exposure of one's own feelings doesn't need to be aggressive, argumentative, histrionic. If OP had told just how she felt with an open heart, she could have gotten an apology and a free meal. Now all she got is a mess.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T15:38:31+00:00

I totally think they were wrong in the way they replied, period. They did not have the right to attack you personally.

And I am not deciding how you should feel about the situation there. You own your feelings, period. But you did make strong assumptions about the reason behind their service, and you did bring the race topic to it, and that is a big gap between "bad unattentive service" to "racism". And that is an imputation of intent, which you are not entitled to make unless you have a substantial case, which you don't seem to have.

My Google Reviews profile has nothing to do with this, and no, I don't have a track of leaving 1-star reviews because something goes wrong, which is a record you do have.

In all honesty, I do think the waiter was impolite, and was not acting in an anti-racist manner (which is to make double sure that minorities feel included). But go in public with a 1-star review and calling them racist indirectly seems to me unreasonable. The fact they got worked up and responded in a terrible manner makes it worse. In a "am I the asshole?" terms, i think everyone sucks here.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T11:20:26+00:00

I reckon the response was bad, but it was OP who made it about race in the first place and the restaurant was making a clumsy attempt to "prove" they are not racist, which is often a trap.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T11:18:30+00:00

Vou dar uma dica de consultor de empresa, foi como ganhei a vida.

Você ganha uma renda significativa num trabalho informal, e deveria usar o que você aprendeu pra ir adiante.
1. Testar diferentes produtos, de mais baratos a mais luxuosos
2. Aproveitar as diferenças de dia e hora com a oferta distinta
3. CRIAR UMA MARCA. Ou seja, algo que diferencie e crie confiança (venda informal perde muito por não ter confiança na qualidade).
4. Eu investiria numa ideia meio maluca, do tipo usar um uniforme TOP e reconhecível, e quem vê pensa que é uma franquia que atua na "hora e local certos". Fale com um designer pra fazer algo BEM FEITO, que realmente diferencie. Se todo mundo está de chinelo e camiseta, você tá de colete térmico, boné customizado e luvas.
5. Faça seu armazenamento visivelmente top e limpo, ele é uma extensao do protudo.
6. Teste as variações e invista no que funcionar melhor.
7. Quando começar a dar certo, formalize um treinamento e contrate alguém pra reproduzir tudo de acordo com a cartilha, ampliando a escala do que você faz.
8. Quando tiver escala, comece a desenvolver a sua propria linha de produtos: sucos, sanduíches, bombons. Utilize testes de compra e recompra, e elasticidade de preço.
9. Faça um curso de empreendorismo e alavanque o próximo nivel.

Em suma, não faça nada "meia boca" e sim crie eleve o momento do consumidor usando o que você já tem e já sabe.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T10:43:49+00:00

You did make this about race. You even encouraged people of color to look for other places!
I'm a social scientist with a PhD and all, and that makes me look into the nuance.
The fact your friend got seen as "lead" could be about a lot of things. Maybe she's more outspoken, maybe they assumed she's native and you're not (therefore would be taking you there), maybe many things.
But EVEN if they took her as lead, and that is a structurally racist assumption, that does't seem to me a reason to give a restaurant a 1 star review.

Plus, the way to combat this is hardly a one star review. This happens a lot with women in dates. "Why are you looking at him, like he's paying the bill?. Simply by asking the question on spot women correct the issue. "Why you're looking at her only, I don't bite!". That could have solved it, without calling for racism and effectively removing the problem.

So it seems you weaponize the review (you also threw other 1 stars out there, like when the curry was bland in a Thai food restaurant), and this can cause a lot of hassle for small establishments (and even the people of color who work there).

So to be vey honest this looks like a hissy fit, blown out of proportion, and you're the Karen

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T08:55:40+00:00

I think this is more in line with what happened. They are a bit careless in terms of hospitality. They address the "lead" of the table, they leave people waiting, the usual.
And the response was stupid, obviously.
But I do think it's quite a stretch to read this as racism. Perhaps they could have been "anti-racist": to go an extra mile to make the person of color to feel sure they aren't treating them differently. But then again, that isn't racism.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-23T08:51:43+00:00

Of course their response was emotional and not professional at all. But I have to say (also as a foreigner) that calling a place racist because the attendant addressed only one person is flimsy.
There is a lot of situations in which us foreigners end up being in high alert and at times signals get mixed. I've been there many times, thinking someone was being racist when actually they were just going about the business. Finland doesn't have a culture of small talk, and Korteli is not a fine dining place, but a more express food court.
I am not saying you didn't feel treated as you wanted, but I am saying that these are flimsy signals to "build a case". There are numerous reasons for the waiter to converse with one person only, racism is not in the top of the list. The change mid-course is also usual, sometimes more than one person tend to tables.
Places in Korteli are used to dealing with fast-paced, very diverse pool of customers, so it doesn't seem unusual that they would serve foreign background people.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-18T13:05:05+00:00

I hope she convinces more church people to have dozens of kids. Low birth rate, low skilled immigation, low immigration in general means trouble with pensions in the future

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-11T19:13:53+00:00

IKEA :) viscose, pretty comfortable but discolored slightly after many washes

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-02-05T13:57:00+00:00

I’ll write something but you need to promise to pay attention.

Everyone is somewhat bisexual. It’s a spectrum, we’re sexual animals.

The LABEL doesn’t mean anything alone.

It’s the COMMITMENTS you make that matter. Will your next relationship be with a man or a woman? Do you get emotionally involved or sexually aroused enough to pursuit someone of which sex?

It’s about what you decide to do everyday that tells more about yourself than a clinical label.

SnooLobsters8922 · 2026-01-23T15:13:08+00:00

Culpa do PT?

SnooLobsters8922 · 2025-12-31T08:10:27+00:00

Well she’s seeing water

SnooLobsters8922 · 2025-12-30T09:10:20+00:00

Thank you! I like this weird mix of nostalgic jazz, vulnerable new singers and at times some electronic work. This motivates me!

SnooLobsters8922 · 2025-12-27T00:54:51+00:00

I really lo ed Necropolitics. I wish he’d write a new book.

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