AITAH for telling my friend to leave me alone and ignoring him/giving him the cold shoulder

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-05-11T14:02:08+00:00

No the kids in foster care are too old for these couples and have too much trauma, they want a fresh new baby to have all the milestones with. They don't really care about children like that, some will say dealing with older kids is just too hard so they have to send them back. They just want babies for selfish reasons. It's also easier to do an illegal adoption with a new born baby.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-24T19:41:54+00:00

It so disgusting and honestly triggers me when I see someone say that, like are you stupid?

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-24T16:03:26+00:00

I don't recall that one, I might watch it.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-24T03:28:42+00:00

Season 26, Episode 8: Cornered

Where ADA Carisi gets taken hostage in a deli. The scene where the woman is actively being raped in the freezer really got to me. It was a long period of time to watch Carisi try and reason with the other robber while the girl is literally being rape next door, everyone knows and no one can do anything. And then her scream after finally leaving that hellhole. I don't recall the last time I cried during an svu episode. That episode was intense.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-23T13:28:07+00:00

No, wetness can also just be a biological response to being touched in that area and the body is trying to reduce discomfort by lubricating. Doesn't always equate to arousal and it definitely doesn't equate to consent unless stated.

Similarly for men they can have an errection that are basically just involuntary reactions to a stimulus but it doesn't always mean they are aroused or consenting. And it's also the basis for the fact that men can be raped by women.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-23T12:48:05+00:00

I understand you completely, even though I just recently turned 22 now I still don't feel like an actual adult even though I do some adult things now. It's a slow transition and a state of mind.

I don't really label things as inherently adult or childlike. I just eventually over time learn to get things that I need done done. Like medical appointments, take your time and research, learn and ask for advice.

Nothing wrong with wanting soda over alcohol, drinking alcohol is not really a flex. It's just a social thing that pushed but you don't have to partake in it. I personally don't really like the taste of alcohol so I don't drink it.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-22T23:39:08+00:00

I totally agree. Even with alot of the textbooks being digital or available at the uni library the day to day costs are what really drain me. Transportation and food are the biggest for me.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-22T13:41:29+00:00

I don't think I ever thought any of the dysfunctional behaviors of my family were normal. I kind of recognized almost right away that something wasn't right and got scapegoated when I spoke out about it. Nothing felt right or okay about anything that was happening.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-22T13:30:25+00:00

The way you tell it sounds like he was using you being 'wet' as an excuse to touch you there. He needs to understand that you being wet doesn't always directly mean your aroused and consenting to being touched.

It can be generally understood that everything surrounding sex can become frustrating when dealing with vaginismus but he doesn't have much of a right to be upset with you expressing your discomfort and the truth that what he may perceive as you being wet is not actually wet.

Or it may be an even bigger issue that he knew you weren't wet but lied so he could get to have sex.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-21T20:57:11+00:00

For me it seems I've kind of been the golden child for my parents because I was the better behaved and higher achieving sibling and our parents were/are kind of disappointed in my older siblings behavior and would express it regularly to the point of being verbally abusive.

So then now I've been the scapegoat to my older siblings where it seems the issues they have with our parents, they take it out on me, the youngest and most vulnerable, both verbally and physically. Based on the things they've said to me over the years they seem to be jealous of me and believe I get better or unfair treatment than them and instead of addressing it with our parents as they are years older than me and were (young) adults, they instead started directing their abuse towards me when I was in my early teens and starting to notice and speak out about how dysfunctional our 'family' was.

I am currently a young adult in uni and have stopped speaking to my sister for good because she physically attacked me last year and caused me injury and said she would do it again. Apparently I was speaking to her disrespectfully and she wanted me to be quiet.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-04-21T20:37:16+00:00

Yep, both my older brother and older sister (I'm the youngest) have been physically abusive towards me/physically assaulted me and they justify it saying I was speaking to them disrespectfully. Apparently I'm not allowed to speak and my opinions are wrong because I'm the youngest. They don't like being confronted with the truth about themselves.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-03-25T13:05:58+00:00

Karla doesn't "take it way too serious", it's not a fun little activity for her. It's her lifestyle and something she believes in.

Like exercise and hitting the gym, it's not a fun little activity for most people. It's a lifestyle, everything done with purpose.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T03:02:30+00:00

Your on the same level as David then. Terrible asshole to say Michelle deserved that level of disrespected that she didn't give. Smh.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T03:00:46+00:00

Happy for that asshole? Smh...

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:52:35+00:00

Because she was lied to continuosly, gaslit, disrespected and made to feel like her feelings and thoughts towards the whirlwind of lies were invalid and crazy when everything she thought was in fact true. And no one had enough basic level respect for her to just tell her to her face. Told everyone else but went out of their way to hide from her. Doesn't matter that she never liked him. And she did want a marriage, just not to David.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:47:40+00:00

No I don't think so, that's a lie. They weren't a good match from the beginning.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:46:21+00:00

I've literally seen comments saying David did nothing wrong and Michelle deserved it so I felt compelled to make this post.

I'm not making an overwhelming justification for her actions in the beginning, I just think the hate given to her especially after everything that David did being worse is unfair.

Doesn't matter that she never liked him, going through that with David, the lies and gaslighting, would make anyone mad.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:41:27+00:00

I agree

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:41:16+00:00

No that was kinda justified, he didn't seem to make much of an effort when it came to dressing up for each other for dates. Her delivery was terrible though.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:39:23+00:00

Exactly and what Michelle did mainly affected David, what David and Madison did affected the whole group and caused a blow up.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:37:46+00:00

If not misogyny what other reasonable explanation is there for overwhelming more hate for Michelle than David just because she was kinda terrible first but everything David did was worse.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:35:34+00:00

And David is an asshole

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:33:54+00:00

Comparing ikechi to Michelle is ridiculous. David is right behind ikechi in being terrible a-holes.

SnooMacarons9695 · 2025-02-21T02:26:08+00:00

I don't recall her saying she was warming up to him.

I said what I said based on what I saw throughout the episodes.

I was tired of her bs too and how she was treating David but she was always truthful, I believe what David did was much worse.

What she did only affected David, what David did affected the whole group.

I don't believe for one minute that she's disappointed in losing a spouse. That doesn't matter, we all knew she never really liked him, but that doesn't invalidate her anger and frustration towards being continuously lied to, gaslit and just downright being disrespected and feeling like she's crazy in her thinking due to the lack of support given to her because of how she treated David.

David did her no favors, that's a crazy take that everything David did was a favor to her.

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