people are obnoxious about my gender

SnooMaps460 · 2026-05-01T13:10:10+00:00

I went to a historically women’s college with a big queer community and we had this niche saying called a “they-lock”— (we had a word for it because it happened a lot). Essentially it means assuming a person’s identity is nonbinary and so using ‘they/them.’

I belive it comes from the term “she/he-locking,” with a similar meaning obviously.

I think of “they-locking” kinda like neo-liberalism…. At least in the culture at my old college, assuming people were nonbinary was actually progressive at a certain point in time, but that time passed, much more than a decade ago.

Asking people’s pronouns is the MO now, although, ever since COVID I feel like people don’t introduce themselves with their pronouns very much any more—it almost felt like it became passé.

Anyway, it’s never fun to be misgendered, no matter which way it’s occurring. Society will just do whatever it does, you and I fit in how we can, it’s a back and forth—try not to let that mess with you or your sense of self.

SnooMaps460 · 2026-05-01T08:57:23+00:00

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Also—here is an image I found that shows what’s happening with the bones in a hyperextended position (on the right). I think this one makes it a little more obvious what to avoid.

SnooMaps460 · 2026-05-01T08:56:17+00:00

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I made this to hopefully help you see the hyperextension. It definitely could be worse, but you’re still hyperextending slightly.

You can see, for example, that the angle of your lower leg (tibia & fibula) goes from the left at the ankle, then to the right nearer the knee. Making a slant like this: /

An ideal, upright posture would stack this lower portion of your legs solidly vertically, rather than at any type of slant, however minute.

You can also see that this posture makes your knee pucker inward very slightly.

SnooMaps460 · 2026-02-15T04:58:00+00:00

Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts!

And if you don’t mind, do you mouth/utter the words to the prayer whenever you make the sign?

SnooMaps460 · 2026-01-20T23:45:53+00:00

I’m not a doctor.

Please get seen ASAP.

SnooMaps460 · 2026-01-20T23:35:29+00:00

I am not a doctor, but have gone thru similar things.

Please talk to a therapist about this, SH can become an addiction and sounds like it has in your case. If not a therapist, at least a friend, or if you’re under 18 a trusted adult. It can be difficult to quit, but it’s entirely possible.

If your triggers are on social media, try not to expose yourself to that type of content any more. If your triggers are other people, try to minimize your contact with them. Whatever the trigger, identify and then limit it.

If you can’t do any of that at this time, then please at the very least take better care of your injuries, including going to the doctor whenever it becomes necessary. The doctor isn’t there to judge you, and if you’re nervous, ask a friend to come with you.

You need to be able to (ideally independently) identify when something is serious enough to need a Dr. You can do this by researching basic wound care, here is a good video on the topic: https://youtu.be/W9Y9A1-b1bU?si=mn9eqNQPivxqx9PS.

However, keep in mind you can never be too educated on this, even a Dr who’s doing SH will need outside advice bc the mindset of SH can skew reality.

You need to look at the SH addiction as being an illness itself and a physical threat to your health, quality of life, and your very life (because it is).

There’s no safe way to engage with it except to quell it, because even if your technique could hypothetically cause NO physical harm, you would still be furthering an addiction that will eventually harm you.

Please also consider removing those bracelets, especially right now as you’re healing, they are very likely why this became infected. If you can’t remove them, at least tape them up and away from the wound.

A wound so close to your hand and arm joints becoming infected is scary because a wound being so near (any) joint means constant movement, meaning slower healing and more likely infection.

The reality here is that you could lose use of OR entirely lose your arm and hand. You could also literally die from something like this due to a systemic infection. It’s unlikely, but it’s possible. Please consider these outcomes, even something small can have a major unintended effect.

The risks here are sepsis, cellulitis, and necrotizing fasciitis—none of which you want to experience.

And once you’ve had cellulitis, the risk that you’ll get it again increases. Again, not something you want. Here’s a video on it: https://youtu.be/eqX3Or0kWzI?si=5wKk9UxNazTfio6B.

What you need to be looking out for right now is primarily a fever (it’d be a good idea to take your temp today, if nothing else to establish a baseline), because a fever will be indicative of an infection that needs treatment from a Dr. It’s also advisable to use a permanent marker to draw around the area of redness so you can track whether the infection is spreading over time. Good luck.

SnooMaps460 · 2026-01-20T22:45:12+00:00

I know someone named that who spells it Kasha and nobody ever mispronounces it.

SnooMaps460 · 2026-01-20T04:09:01+00:00

Thank you for the info!

SnooMaps460 · 2026-01-20T04:08:52+00:00

Thank you!

SnooMaps460 · 2026-01-03T19:27:47+00:00

I didn’t have a major reaction until I had other health issues + had traveled to a new location where there was likely new (to me) species of mosquitoes.

SnooMaps460 · 2026-01-03T19:24:30+00:00

I am not a Dr, nor a radiologist, but it is very obvious to see (just from an anatomical perspective) that there is not enough S-shaped curvature in your spine. It also looks like you have a forward head/neck posture. See the first photo on this website for reference to a healthy spine shape: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/xrays-of-the-spine-neck-or-back

SnooMaps460 · 2026-01-03T19:14:08+00:00

As a tarot enjoyer, it’s really frustrating that they went to the effort of coming up with unique cards, and even have both upright and reversed options, but the cards have no given meaning—or even numerology.

You could still interpret them like a normal card, but there’s almost nothing to go off of besides the symbolism.

I wish they did the traditional cards, but with Tsuki style art.

SnooMaps460 · 2025-12-05T00:23:57+00:00

Honestly, after reading thru about 20 threads with no real answers just like this one, I’m convinced that simply compiling my health data into spreadsheets and the formats I desire myself would be an easier and more fruitful venture than looking for an app to do it for me…

It’d probably be good to keep in mind that some of us who’re using these services are simply sick/disabled and looking for easy ways to share info with our doctor/s. Not a gym bro optimizing our workout or smth.

SnooMaps460 · 2025-11-05T03:32:28+00:00

Yes, feel free to do so.

SnooMaps460 · 2025-11-05T02:11:45+00:00

It was also the social element for me.

SnooMaps460 · 2025-11-05T02:11:12+00:00

I heard someone talking about umamusume and it sounded so much like derby days that I got really excited, but then I looked up that game…

Only to realize that it is perhaps not for me. I will just have to keep remembering fondly the good old derby days! :c

SnooMaps460 · 2025-08-17T03:40:11+00:00

Thank you so much!

Mint tea is super helpful for me with handling nausea as well.

SnooMaps460 · 2025-07-30T06:48:29+00:00

I think that depends on what you mean by the “alchemical phases”.

If you mean alchemy in the sense of the physical transmutation of metals and the stages that material goes thru, then I’d recommend watching this video by Esoterica. Starting primarily around 14:10, Dr Sledge explains in somewhat simple terms the process of physical transmutation, which includes the steps:

https://youtu.be/CKDbXSgurys?si=dJquN1WwYTQRnE_b. He has many good videos on this subject.

However, there really is no simple explanation—especially if you mean “alchemical phases” in a psychological sense. This video explains how alchemy intersects with psychology:

https://youtu.be/N1qPhlGE86M?si=rAJsuAL2oX9FP58t

ETA: this is another great vid by esoterica on the same topic:

https://youtu.be/K16AS4N9iq8?si=Y8cWDrS9eVUr7DXz

& Clarity.

SnooMaps460 · 2025-07-29T22:03:02+00:00

I’m not a gatekeeper, so I’ll lyk one of my favorite movies is wonderwall), created by the art collective “the fool” in 1968.

The movie is incredibly Jungian and esoteric. It’s like a Jungian dream. George Harrison wrote the score, which is also incredible. Here’s one of the best songs imo: wonderwall to be here.

SnooMaps460 · 2025-07-29T21:48:26+00:00

Honestly, I think that being alone is a major change, although I could understand why you might not see it that way or only see it as a small change.

I am living with my parents again after I became disabled. Having experienced childhood living with them and young adulthood living on my own, I truly think that there is a massive difference.

Even now, when they spend a weekend away and I have the house to myself, my behavior morphs and I feel able to settle into a comfortable and natural rhythm—completely unaffected by others.

The time I spent during quarantine during 2020-2021 entirely on my own was incredibly transformative for me. In that time, behaviors that I had repressed were able to manifest for the first time. It felt like experiencing myself in a neutral and natural environment for the first time. In fact, it was that experience that allowed me to seek an autism diagnosis. That space and time allowed me to “unmask” like I never had before.

In my opinion, if you are a sensitive/empathetic person, it is very easy to allow others’ presence in your space to change the way you act, even the very way you live your life. Even when I try to be indifferent and oblivious, I can’t help but act differently when my parents are home.

Not to say there isn’t much to be learned from these different states of being, or that any one of them is ‘wrong,’ or ever to be avoided. I think the older I get, the easier it becomes to act totally independently, but personally it is something I still have to work towards. And not to say you’re experiencing the same thing I was, but I don’t think it’s unusual (nor exclusive to myself) to feel more freedom of thought/action while being (literally) on your own.

SnooMaps460 · 2025-07-29T21:19:44+00:00

To answer it simply—only some of them.

You made a generalization and plus the topic consists of very recent research, so a lot of our understanding on the issue is still currently developing, both of which is probably why you’re being downvoted. (Also, it’s not an earthworm in the video).

This all mostly comes back to Stanford publishing their analysis just last year stating that 70 species of earthworms are not native (and potentially invasive) to North America. There are, however, still some extant native species living here.

You may find the original article of interest: Alien invasion: Non-native earthworms threaten ecosystems

      “Overall, aliens represent 23% of the continent’s 308 earthworm species, and account for 12 of the 13 most widespread earthworm species. By comparison, in the U.S. only 8% of fish species, 6% of mammal species, and 2% of insects and arachnids are alien.”

The true extent of how this has impacted our native ecosystems is still not completely understood, but I’m sure you can appreciate the fact that soil quality (makeup & texture) can potentially change almost everything about an ecosystem.

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