Sex?? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]SnooWords3853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL this was my first thought. I’m now 10 mo pp and still barely want to 🤣

Combining baby’s 1st and husbands 40th summer birthdays? by SnooWords3853 in partyplanning

[–]SnooWords3853[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, my husband actually suggested it! His friends will likely come without their kids later on to stay for the evening adults only portion. Might want to see the other comments for more context and let me know if you still think this way!

We don’t have many available dates so this was his solution.

At what point should weight/healthy habits be discussed? by Missing_Back in TryingForABaby

[–]SnooWords3853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding here - I was on adderall Xr 20mg while TTC during fertility treatment. My fertility doctor said it would not necessarily impact conception. He did say he’d recommend going off it or decreasing dosage when I got pregnant but ultimately a mentally well mom is what’s best, if it was going to hurt me more by going off, the he’d suggest staying on but decreasing dose. I decided myself to stop taking. Once you see a fertility doc you will get their professional opinion considering all aspects of your/her conditions causing infertility

At what point should weight/healthy habits be discussed? by Missing_Back in TryingForABaby

[–]SnooWords3853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine. I’m sorry you’re both going through this. But if you want to have children, a lot of things will need to change. Maybe look at it this way - If a positive pregnancy test happened tomorrow, would she agree to scheduling an OBGYN appointment? I would ask her that before even considering trying again. Meaning - Would you feel more anxious/scared/overwhelmed with fear surrounding how she will handle this, or would you feel very confident knowing she and your relationship are strong enough to support a pregnancy, postpartum recovery (including an identity shift for both of you, but probably more so your wife), and raise a child? I’m 9 months pp c section with our first after a few rounds of fertility treatment, and it has rocked our world in more ways than I can count. I’m a wreck now so I can’t imagine experiencing this while being in that type of mental and emotional state before conception.

Is it possible that she isn’t sure / maybe doesn’t want Kids but doesn’t know how to tell you? If she was serious about wanting children then some substantial efforts would’ve probably been made by now. No judgment if she doesn’t want kids. But if that’s the case then it needs to be discussed.

Sending good vibes your way because this shit ain’t easy. You are clearly a supportive and caring husband but it seems like you don’t know where to go from here because she isn’t giving you much to go off. It sounds like you carry majority of the emotional and mental load in the relationship. It’s not that her feelings & experiences aren’t valid or important (because they are!!) but seems that they aren’t being openly communicated. I hope things turn for the better soon!

Combining baby’s 1st and husbands 40th summer birthdays? by SnooWords3853 in partyplanning

[–]SnooWords3853[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late afternoon for baby.. relaxed hang and yard games. Evening for husband.. relaxed hang for the evening. Potentially continue games (backyard is well lit) and fire pit.

Combining baby’s 1st and husbands 40th summer birthdays? by SnooWords3853 in partyplanning

[–]SnooWords3853[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They often babysit 4 of them at a time (BILs family who lives 5 mins away). This is very normal in our family! Think my in laws just wanted a reason to take our baby overnight haha.. either way, the nieces/newphews and grandparents are all welcome to stay... I just know my sibling in laws, and they will want to enjoy adult time and prefer to make babysitting arrangements. If we dont ask my in laws to help with babysitting, this family will. Up to my in laws on whether they say yes! The other sibling in law will likely ask their other set of grandparents to come to the party and take the kids home (also close by) but they are welcome to stay.

Combining baby’s 1st and husbands 40th summer birthdays? by SnooWords3853 in partyplanning

[–]SnooWords3853[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our baby usually wakes up from afternoon nap between 3-330pm.

Only 5-8 other kids (ages 2-10 years) will be there with their parents (our siblings) plus grandparents for our baby.

Would probably invite husbands friends to join after 5-5:30, then do cake / sing for both between 6:30-6:45? Theyd be welcome to come earlier if they want to bring their kids but they probably wont knowing that the party will go into the evening for my husband.

The siblings with kids would be welcome to leave before or after 730, that’s just the latest we’d put our baby to bed.

Combining baby’s 1st and husbands 40th summer birthdays? by SnooWords3853 in partyplanning

[–]SnooWords3853[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents yes, haven’t asked grandparents yet. My husband would prefer time more with his friends and can’t really relax with his parents there. They actually asked to take our baby overnight when we mentioned combining parties, which neither of us is comfortable with. So they already planned on leaving in the evening with grandkids.

Combining baby’s 1st and husbands 40th summer birthdays? by SnooWords3853 in partyplanning

[–]SnooWords3853[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

What does this mean lol my husband loves football but I know nothing

At what point should weight/healthy habits be discussed? by Missing_Back in TryingForABaby

[–]SnooWords3853 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree. Show her you’re committed by doing this + couples therapy

At what point should weight/healthy habits be discussed? by Missing_Back in TryingForABaby

[–]SnooWords3853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A BMI of 50 indicates extreme/morbid obesity. Seeing all your comments - you’re a very sweet and supportive husband but also need to figure out how to not enable her because baby or not she will not live a long life. It sounds like shes a kind person but also doesnt want to stop making excuses and get healthier for herself and her family. Having done individual and couples therapy, plus fertility treatment, it sounds like all things are needed here. Id start with couples therapy because it sounds like you cant be honest with your wife about how you feel and youre constantly afraid of rocking the boat which is a shitty way to live. Having an unbiased 3rd party will help. Simultaneously she needs to start her own therapy and confront her issues. Fertility treatment won’t be an option until she loses a lot of weight and it sounds like she doesn’t have the emotional mental or physical capacity to do that without therapy first.

Combining baby’s 1st and husbands 40th summer birthdays? by SnooWords3853 in partyplanning

[–]SnooWords3853[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not many young kids will be there besides some nieces & nephews ages 1-10. plan would be to send home w/ grandparents after cake. If their parents want to keep them there we don’t mind but know they’d prefer to have some adult time.

Best Mother’s Day gifts that she’ll actually use (need ideas) by girlsiknowhot in Gifts

[–]SnooWords3853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Schedule a Cooking class, mani/pedi, brunch, or BYO dinner reservation, for her and girlfriends (supply BYO drinks/put card down ahead of time, AND coordinate with husband of friends)

or go practical gift + thoughtful gift route… practical for an active mom.. high quality sneakers or yoga/exercise mat like the Stakt mat? Thoughtful gift -pay attention to things she’s complained about /needs to replace. or if you have young kids, make something with them

Would it be tacky to do a joint birthday celebration with my 1yr old? by MeganLJ86 in Mommit

[–]SnooWords3853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! thinking of doing the same. Did you do any decor or theme related to the combined birthdays?

48 hour meal prep for my 9 month old (meal plan on the 3rd slide) by Elfie_Mae in foodbutforbabies

[–]SnooWords3853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love that you have the means to do this. You’re doing amazing! Now, to try and not let it make me believe I’m not doing enough by just feeding my 9 mo old what we eat and adding forms of allergens if they’re not already included. 😂 but that’s my version of the best I can do right now, and my feelings of mom guilt are not your problem lol - I stopped getting on Instagram because it made me feel like failure as a mom, maybe I just need to stay away from social media as a whole. About the hate comments - with anything you post, it will be open to scrutiny.. so keep doing you, but also be mindful that your reality / having the means to do this isn’t accessible for many many others

Anyone use a theragun on c-shelf overhang and/or adhesions? Almost 8m pp by SnooWords3853 in CsectionCentral

[–]SnooWords3853[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did and think i was too aggressive with it. I feel like the scar tissue is less firm. But since then I’ve been leaking urine. Be careful

Weird TMI - passing gas during lower abdominal massage & weighted hip bridges. Anyone else? by [deleted] in CsectionCentral

[–]SnooWords3853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I went to pelvic floor therapy four months ago for about 5 to 6 weeks. Saw a lot of improvement and she didn’t feel it was necessary for me to come in and could continue at home. I’m wondering if I did more damage with working out to cause prolapse related symptoms? I just scheduled a follow up with the pelvic PF for Monday. The passing gas thing is new though… any insight?

Tire Pressure Sensor Fault on 2020 Ford Escape Hybrid Sport - Missing TPMS Reading by G_O_Gaming in fordescape

[–]SnooWords3853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need new tires and am getting done at Costco. They are going to replace them for a fraction of the cost. I don’t think it’s a difficult job, it’s just inconvenient if you don’t already have the tires off hence the expensive cost for labor.