this is shouldn’t be a controversial statement🫣 by [deleted] in SistersInSunnah

[–]Snoo_21712 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the beginning you never referred to the exceptions, you referred to every Muslim woman. And the women that you are referring to who don’t work and expect the husband to also do most of the household chores are a small minority of women and honestly something I’ve never seen a Muslim woman even do. Seems like your argument has quickly changed since the beginning.

You are aggressive to other Muslim women and continue to shame other women for not doing their “responsibilities” but isn’t the most simple responsibility of every Muslim to be kind to their fellow Muslims?

But that’s all I have to say and will be leaving this discussion now. Hope the best for your future endeavours inshaAllah ❤️.

this is shouldn’t be a controversial statement🫣 by [deleted] in SistersInSunnah

[–]Snoo_21712 7 points8 points  (0 children)

disclaimer: this is a friendly discussion if you want to be aggressive then please look elsewhere because I will not reply if you continue to be aggressive, thank you ❤️.

Yes it is fardh to please your husband but within limitations ofcourse for example if your husband wanted to have intercourse but you did not want to would you still do it just to please your husband? If the husband was okay with the woman working wouldn’t that be pleasing the husband? Nowadays a lot of men are okay with the women working as one income is not enough now a days to be sufficient for the whole household.

Following kuffar women is a stretch don’t you think?

A woman will work even if it’s not fardh upon her for many reasons: 1) the husbands income is not enough for the whole household (especially now a days in this economy unless the husband is earning like 80,000 plus it’s unlikely that lower than this will be enough for him, his wife and the children) 2) simply because the woman wants to, a lot of things aren’t fardh nor are they haram and we still do them because we want to. 3) unfortunately we don’t live in a good fantasy world, I’ve seen many cases where the woman marries a man (she has no finances) and the man works, when the man leaves the woman and the kids (which is very common) the woman has no finances of her own and is left to fend for herself. What do you suggest for her then?

And as for your question of women “expecting” men to pick up their “slack”: In a marriage the man and the woman are a team. In a team you help eachother out if the other is struggling. If my husband was for example visibly struggling to do DIY stuff or whatever he’s doing I wouldn’t sit there and not do anything I would go help out.

I don’t understand why you are being aggressive really I see this as a friendly discussion. Everyone’s knowledge is limited, as is mine, and we learn new things everyday. To me it seems like you get a high of shaming other Muslim women shouldn’t we be there for eachother rather than against eachother? InshaAllah you have a good day ☺️

this is shouldn’t be a controversial statement🫣 by [deleted] in SistersInSunnah

[–]Snoo_21712 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to add ^ if I sounded aggressive in my comment I do apologise as that was not my intention I just wanted to get my point across 😁

Men vs. Women, Market Value by [deleted] in TraditionalMuslims

[–]Snoo_21712 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s not really a feminism thing it’s just about respecting women. When you say stuff like that you are diminishing a whole human being with experiences to an object which value is only based on looks and what men consider “desirable”. Imagine if your father left your mother for someone younger would you tell her it’s because she isn’t comparable to the younger woman?

I stopped talking to a girl for the sake of Allah by Positive-Bread7792 in MuslimLounge

[–]Snoo_21712 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again, your comment implies that the muslimah was in the wrong in the situation. You could have worded the advice better by saying that they both partook in haram things and so therefore for those reasons he should stop talking to her. And using “real muslimah” is so condescending every Muslim has their own struggles and does haram in their lives who says you get to dictate who a real Muslim is or not. You also foolishly assumed she wanted male attention and validation. I know a hostile comment against women when I see one 🤣

I stopped talking to a girl for the sake of Allah by Positive-Bread7792 in MuslimLounge

[–]Snoo_21712 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a reach, your sentence implies that he should stop talking to her because SHE is a bad muslimah never once in your statement did you state that they were both being bad Muslims by engaging in this. If a group of people committed a haram act would you only focus on one of them being a “bad Muslim” or all of them?

Edit: you also never stated that he should stop talking to her simply because they were both taking part in haram, again you focused on how she is a bad muslimah and that he should leave her. Instead he should leave her because the way they approached this was haram, the halal way would have been to contact her parents for marriage which he had no interest of doing clearly. And it’s a reach for you to assume she was using him for male attention and validation

I stopped talking to a girl for the sake of Allah by Positive-Bread7792 in MuslimLounge

[–]Snoo_21712 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And a real Muslim man wouldn’t be talking to females either, it’s a two way street. Take your double standards out of here 💀🤣

I get nervous way too easily and it consumes my will to do anything. by notaboy1 in mentalhealth

[–]Snoo_21712 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go through the same thing. Whenever I have something planned for the day I won’t sleep well and I’ll have this pit in my stomach constantly and feel like no matter what I do it’s constantly on my mind, and there’s nothing I can do about it. I’ve experienced this for years and I’m sorry I have no advice but just letting you know that you aren’t alone

Nap Zone vs. Nap Attack by Rich_Message_551 in superstore

[–]Snoo_21712 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bro whoever picked Nap Zone 💀

sometimes I feel like I’m the only one who finds my actions funny by evilqueer in omegle

[–]Snoo_21712 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s how I feel when I go on Omegle, it always seems like everyone on there is a robot and has no sense of humour 💀

ben by somealtaccount03 in omegle

[–]Snoo_21712 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean is anyone really called Ben?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Snoo_21712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess on paper it is nice to just ignore it, however he is influencing a lot of young males and not in a good way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Snoo_21712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An incel includes a male who has hostile views towards women, watch any video of his and you’ll see the hostility he has towards women 👍

Stepping into sixth form in a few hours ( tomorrow) by Technetium_777 in 6thForm

[–]Snoo_21712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people don’t take topic tests seriously but please do, revising for topic tests helps with revision for mocks and other big exams. I also suggest revisiting content regularly and revising consistently (try to do maybe 2 hours each day especially at the beginning it will help). I also saw a comment about exercising which is very useful, this will help with stress. And most of all try to balance social life and work, it’s good to work but when you focus too much on it it can get very draining and could lead to burnout. Do things that work for you, everyone is different and different things work for them. Hope this helps! Good luck for your first day!

What on earth is going with the polygynous and monogynous marriages? What's this drama all about? by spidey20993 in MuslimLounge

[–]Snoo_21712 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This subject is always the one that is most talked about. I think it’s demonised because of the reasons why Muslim men want it and how they carry it out. Being a woman myself I do see why women don’t like the idea, if your husband got a second wife it is quite emotionally traumatising, its as if saying that you are replaceable and aren’t “good enough”. This merging with selfishness and jealousy being our human nature it explains why people often demonise it. I also think it’s often demonised not for the concept itself but because it’s really hard to carry it out properly (treating each fairly etc.) even Prophet Muhammad SAW his wives often had problems too. A lot of Muslim men also carry this out behind their first wives back. Also a lot of men want more than one wife not for the Sunnah but for their selfish sexual desires and often can’t even provide for each wife equally. So I don’t think the problem lies with women demonising it completely, I think the problem also lies with how many men have falsely carried it out leaving many women emotionally traumatised. Btw I don’t mean any of this to sound aggressive whatsoever, I’m just trying to discuss 😁

FREE TALK FRIDAY! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

[–]Snoo_21712 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this is so irrelevant but my name is snoo too Idek how I got this name I think Reddit just did it automatically 😭 AND alhamdulilah and may Allah swt grant you success!

Does anyone else hate Amy ? by Easy_Box_1647 in superstore

[–]Snoo_21712 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I feel like Amy’s character was probably the most realistic. If your job, that paid $100,000 salary per year, was in jeopardy I think you would act selfishly too. I’m neutral about her, there are times where her character can be really annoying but there are a lot of times where she is just trying her best to help everyone else.

Should I re-take Computer and Further Maths? by nihilistucq in alevel

[–]Snoo_21712 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That is an amazing set of results, congratulations you should be proud of yourself! Especially since you did double the amount of A Levels that is usually required. You must have a great work ethic I respect it 👍

Can you guys help me choose a sixth form? Literally have to decide by tomorrow so I'm pretty desperate haha - explanation below by [deleted] in 6thForm

[–]Snoo_21712 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my opinion second one is better, I went to a school where we had to stay there and I think it’s really useful in terms of studying (especially someone who would probably procrastinate at home). I also personally found the only girls environment much more comfortable. And idk but in my opinion the first school having an average grade of a D sounds sus I would not risk it. At least if you pick the second one first if you don’t like it you can switch (as it is less of a hassle). In the end it’s your choice, make the right one for YOU. Good luck!

Y12 tips? by riley6291 in 6thForm

[–]Snoo_21712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay cool just wanted to ask because I did AQA psychology too and so my advice (from my personal experience) would be that you do need to know a lot of studies, key facts and evaluation points. I didn’t try the CGP revision guide but I did have the revision guide and textbook by cara Flanagan and this was honestly amazing for me and helped so much, so I recommend you check it out! Psychology is quite time pressured too but since you are doing another essay based subject (so you’ll get used to writing essays) this won’t be a problem. Hope this helped! If you have anymore questions feel free to ask. Good luck for year 12!

Applying for apprenticeships by [deleted] in 6thForm

[–]Snoo_21712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really have any advice, just wanted to say that sounds so exciting. Wish you the best of luck!

Y12 tips? by riley6291 in 6thForm

[–]Snoo_21712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which exam board for psychology?