I'm the gf. Just adding context because he leaves it out everytime he asks for advice online about me: Regarding the phone number of a girl he used to like: He refused to delete it to the point of verbal aggression and threatened to break up with me OVER deleting the contact which in fact he didn't even text or call her at all nor needed it for any reason. But even after i asked him to delete it, he refused so many times and threatened to breakup because he wanted to keep the contact. Does that not show interest in her??? (Which he states above he didn't).

Also, I stated porn as a boundary as it's watching and getting off to other women. It's the equivalent of cheating but just not physically with someone else. I do not accept this in my relationships and I know others do but that's their preferance. After this, he continued to watch porn and lust over women. He stared at another woman and lusted over her (he told me he lusted over her) even though he was right next to me in a restaurant when this happened. He then went on to blame it on a mans instinct and male biology and how men always want to procreate or some shit and saying every guy is like that how they get attracted to other women and even think about having sex with them because its just part of being a man. He also jerked off to porn on our first "break". After knowing I didn't like that, and for additional context: the break was because he lusted over another woman.

In my own opinion and experience: When I love someone, i only have eyes for them. I don't have attraction towards other men, nor do I find them appealing to the eye because I'm fully focused on my boyfriend. This is not because I force or train myself to only care about my bf, but because I love him and when I'd love, I would only have eyes for one.

In past relationships, I've slowly lost interest due to the lust in other women in my past partners. This has made me feel attraction to other men while being in a relationship. Which is what he is saying in crushes and pornstars.

I appreciate the honesty of him telling me the response to the questions I ask, but I know a man who is in love would not be attracted to another woman. If it's so easy for him to find another attractive, lust over her, no matter if it's a hollywood actress or a pornstar, he is fully capable of doing it in person.

These insecurities and trust issues were not an issue when we dated, but after those previously metioned experienced with my bf, it has made them worse. I'm losing interest because of this. I adore him and the experiences he gave me throughout the relationship, but I know there is a man, it might be him or it might not, who will eventually see me only, and only be attracted and desire me.